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Is it fine to have sex on the first date ?????

Depends on the other person involved, I would imagine.

does a bear crap in the woods and wipe its butt with a rabbit?

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The thing with me is, I will never understand, how some can just go and have sex with strangers. I understand why bipolars might, but that's because I was shown personal proof. I could only have sex with someone I'd already formed a bond with.

Nope, not this girl

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Yes it's fine, your grown you do what you want

Yeah, I would usually use a flunky though.

I've found that it's a good way to get a second date. Last time I did it I had spent the whole day getting to know the girl and she wanted to spend the night with me as well. She told me later that she had met another guy before she met me but he was a virgin and the sex was crap.

The first time with someone can be a bit awkward until you get going, even if you've been dating for a while but I can tell fairly quickly if I actually fancy someone and that means would like to shag them. It's not just about the looks. I can only really remember one crap shag and it was crap because I went there with someone that I really didn't like as a person. It was a long time ago and I just did it for the experience.

Tawt DOn't think the OP meant a date to have a quick shag, but more someone you are really into, as in potential relationship material.

I don't think there is any one answer to the question. There hardly ever is. If you want to work towards having a real good relationship, I think it's best not to have sex that soon. It's like skipping the whole romancing and wooing part, the longing etc., which is fun and I think necessary for both.

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Yeah, maybe. That girl told me that she didn't believe in one night stands and we did a lot of talking about what we were looking for and it was certainly implied that we were getting into some sort of relationship. The one before that wanted a casual relationship and I shagged her on the first date as well. I think that it's alright to start off casual. You just risk having your heart broken if it doesn't work out but that can happen anyway. I did the wooing with my ex and that went fine but the problems started as soon as we became lovers.

I just tend to go there when the woman is ready and I'm a flirty, sexual sort of person. I haven't done it just for a quick shag in years. If a woman is going to want to be with me, it's going to be because she likes me as a person and for the sex. I was talking about it with a friend recently though and I said that what I think happens is that they can't handle the intensity of the passion. Maybe you're right from a female perspective and it's better for women to have the love feelings first but I'm not like that and I fall for women quite easily and quickly. It's the scorpio thing maybe. I want the passion and I'm loyal and faithful. I always want to keep seeing someone when it becomes sexual but I don't like being messed about. I don't mess women about and I'm fairly patient with them but only for so long. If they mess me about, I talk to them about it and then we either sort it out or they go.

Speaking for myself...not the whole female population... If I like you and can see a possible future.. No. Men tend to judge..even those who say they won't.
If I think you are attractive but have zero interest in seeing you again.. Yeah, why not.