Question ???

What do you do ?, when a friend or close family member steals of you ?

..hmm. that's a hard one.. gotta give this some thought. back later.. now I would have to assume.. you meant to say stealing from you.??

CONFRONT THEM

Act like they no longer exist.

like what. take my ex wife please LOL

But make sure you didn't misplace it first.

place 2 sticks of dynamite in there front pockets, tell them you love them. but its for the best.!! ;)

Have had that happen many times. I Confront them and they deny it. I hide my money/valuables now. I am very cautious where my money is and where people are. I pray their consciousness gets the better of them and it "suddenly appears" or they feel inclined to return it.

forgive them, their problem lies much deeper than the materialistic aspect

Very smart, I had that happen before got all worked up and it turned out to be my fault. I'm glad I didn't jump the gun.

Had that happen as well. And sorry, think this is narrow minded and not very sound advice: Act like they no longer exist.
What if they live with you? Even if they don't, it's pretty lame, better to confront them with it.

If you're certain someone stole from you, talk to them about it. And worst case scenario, hide your money and valuables. Which is what we had to do in the end, cos the culprit lived with us.

All depends whether it happened once or several times, on the age of the culprit and whether or not you can sever the tie to make it stop.

It depends on what it is and who they are. A guy that I know collects cigarette lighters by asking you if he can borrow yours and then doesn't give them back. The c**t tried that with me and I just told him to give it back. Everybody knows what he's like. One time when I thought that I was alone in the house I went into my brother's room and I just had a feeling and when I turned round he was standing there, hiding behind the door. I asked him what he was doing and it turned out that he had been sneaking into the house and "borrowing" the key for my brother's motorbike. I just told him to piss off. It was my parents leaving the back door unlocked.

The thing is, a lot of people are bad at not returning things that they borrow. If it's not someone that I know is really trustworthy, I don't lend them anything that I'm counting on getting back. Lent a girl a tenner recently and she said that she would give me it back when she got payed but I knew that she wasn't reliable and I couldn't really count on seeing her again, let alone getting that cash back. No big deal. I also lent her a guitar. Maybe she still has it, or more likely she sold it. Maybe she feels guilty about it, or maybe she doesn't because she doesn't like me anymore. Other guys give women jewelery. I'm trying to look at it like that.

One time I pinched some money from someone close to me. It was a complicated situation but he was being a total little shite to me at the time. I had done him plenty of favours and given him things for nothing but he was a tightfisted bastard and wouldn't even give you a cigarette without saying that it was a lone and he wanted it back. So, he was adding it all up and acting like the big man that I was in debt to. I borrowed an LP from him and found some cash that he had stashed in the cover and then forgotten about. I gave him it and then we were all square again. I felt that it was justified and still do.

"I know it was you, Fredo. You broke my heart. You broke my heart!"

You take them to Lake Tahoe to go "Fishing"

All joking aside, confront them. Need to find out why they did it. My cousin was stealing from his parents and he wouldn't listen when they asked him to stop. Finally my uncle had him arrested. That was enough to change my cousin’s whole life. He straightened up. This is risky though, doesn't always work.

This was a problem I faced daily for almost 18 years. I would always confront them. The problem with that, I found, if they are stealing from you they will also lie about doing it. Eventually with all of the surrounding circumstances involved with this individual, I made the tough choice to remove them from my life. It was what was best for me and my mental health and therefor a difficult but needed choice.

I really like this answer.
That's what I had to do.
Then, without anger,disappointment,and hurt...I was able to find out what the person's bigger problem was.
You're smarter than you look, Argo. JK

I agree with argo but I probably change locks or wherever to keep things safe, so they don't came back for more.

If they steal from you, they aren't your friend. If, you can prove it, have them arrested and find better quality friends.

Family member steals from you. Forgive them and if you can prove it, have them arrested.

Time in the can just might prove to be an eye opener.

Whatever anyone's mental problems are, I choose not to make them my problems as well.

.. I can't believe I'm saying this..
.. but I agree with Argo...
.. that family member obviously. needs some help
.. there is something deeper at the core of the issue.....

I'd confront them, after I confronted them it would depend on THEIR reaction.....

If they told me why,(and didn't lie) i'd give them the opportunity to pay it back,(though I wouldn't pester them for it), and I would forgive them.

If they told me a bunch of lies and just tried to get away with it....I'd do what was necessary for them to have some sort of consequence even if that meant a legal one.

I just write off the loss and the relative.