I'm sorry if this is long but I'll try my best to make it short. I'm a single mum of two kids. 2012, I found out my fianc� was living with someone else and was pregnant as I was. The other woman also found out about me and me being pregnant and was harassed and abused through messages and social networking. Damaged has done, people who knew me read all those insulting and hurting things she posted. But I still have forgiven him inspire of everything. He left her but that didn't mean he was with me, it was like he left both of us to have himself some time. 2013 was a rough time, he didn't helped through my pregnancy, I gave birth and still no visit. He kept giving excuses, I still hoped that one day he'll be with me and my son. Now, our son is turning one next week, I saw his other woman's Facebook with pictures of them. Now I know that he's back with her that's y he haven't messaged nor call for more than a month. I thought I have moved on, but I just don't know how can someone do such thing. I've suffered for him, I've waited for him for more than two years. I was with him the whole time he suffered depression( well not physically only through phone) . I did everything for him. But he kept hurting me. Now, I'm shattered and couldn't think straight . I don't have any friends in London, I just don't have anyone to talk to or cry on. Im sorry for sharing, pain is just too much to handle

child support? I think it's better to cut all ties. He obviously doesn't want to have anything with our son. it's easy said than done. Especially wen I did nothing but been faithful and supportive to him. I just wanted to have my own family, even if not with big house or lots of money, but just happy and content, honest relationship. But now I think it's impossible

It's so sad to see you have to go through all this. I know its very hard on you but I can only suggest that you try to put all the pain he has caused behind you and pickup the pieces and move on? sorry to say but I think that's your only option. Good luck!

There's nothing else could be done really. I don't want to sound annoying but it's just because I never tried being cheated before this. It's really just hard to handle. But thanks for the advice. Just to know people who doesn't even know me understands

Ur silly if u don't make him help to some degree. Sorry. Ur a smart woman who got blinded by love snd empty promises. The best form of closure is revenge.

As the others say go for the child support.. You don't have to see him to get it... I assure you if later down the road and he wants to see the child he has those rights regardless if he pays child support or not...

Get the help you need and move on he is not worth your love or your heartache....

I assure you the relationship he is in will not last either for he will cheat on her again...

Child support is to help with the kid. If a court could force him to provide medical insurance, that would be a load off the system.

Ya might teach your kid to not sleep with a gal until they get to know each other for a long time and they are married.

Condoms and other birth control aren't reliable to prevent getting knocked up.

Suggest to him, if he wants to sleep around like his daddy, he should get clipped so, he won't reproduce.

no revenge is not a cure..just a temporary happiness

It's not about you it's about your child.

Contraception comes to mind.

I am truly sorry you are going thru this. You and your child deserve to have peace and happiness after what you have been thru. Know that he is the one who is losing out here. He is missing out on a loyal woman who loved him and on his own child's life.

I, like the others, do encourage you to get child support. Life for single moms is rough, and it is so, so much harder when you have no financial help at all. He helped create this life, he should, at the VERY least, help to make sure he has what he needs. Child support has nothing to do with your relationship with the father, and everything with making sure your son has all the necessary (and expensive!) things he needs as he grows up.

Regardless, I send prayers and peace to you. You will get thru this. It doesn't seem like it now, but you will. Hugs.