100% FREE ONLINE DATING
sponsored links
Previous
| Topic: What is the attitude about "Friends with Benefits?" | |
|---|---|
|
|
|
It's not that I'm against the concept of, "friends with benefits." Just have had experience before, and it wasn't satisfying to me. Granted we had our sexual desires somewhat fulfilled, but didn't give me the satisfaction of what a relationship does. Kinda wished she and I could have had more, but had to end it because "FWB" wasn't enough for me.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Haha no we didn't live together..sometimes he would be off traveling and wouldn't see him for a few months ...ltfwb.... . long term friends with benefits...lol. . are. long time friends wife.. with benefits.lol Wasnt one of my smartest moves |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
It's not that I'm against the concept of, "friends with benefits." Just have had experience before, and it wasn't satisfying to me. Granted we had our sexual desires somewhat fulfilled, but didn't give me the satisfaction of what a relationship does. Kinda wished she and I could have had more, but had to end it because "FWB" wasn't enough for me........ .. what not even with Scooby Snacks thrown in..lol |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Those of us who have been around the block a few times know it is rare for two people to have the exact sexual intentions. One of the two eventually falls. Then it has the very high probability of going all bad!
Fact or not? In a romantic/ sexual relationship, one person always loves more than the other. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I don't see anything wrong with it... But it depends on what you call benefit... Is it just sex or gift has will... What is friends with benefit?
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
You will find not all of it is negative. Even some of the break ups from some can be positive. Like one said one wanted more. I can concur with that. It shouldn't always be assumed that 'benefits' is always sexual, either. From my last encounter I really found out a lot about myself. I do miss her much and I guess like someone else said I was more into her than her into me. If it wasn't for her alcohol problem I think we could have made it worked. Seems like there can always be a catch, sometimes.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
If nothing else it can sometimes get rid of that 'jaded' feeling.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
FWB To me, I wouldn't be at all interested as I don't agree with the implications of friends having sex because thats what the supposed "benefits"are, particularly for the guy. To me, that type of relationship is disrespectful, the woman disrespecting herself and allowing the man to be disrespectful of her. I don't agree with a couple having sex outside marriage at all - thats me, my choice. I have been married and divorced for a long time and single again and thats my choice. I have moved on with my life and know myself better now than then as I have faced my issues and grown and thats great, for me. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I agree. I can understand that and its natural that you wanted more. Thats why its better not to be in a relationship like that. Someone will get hurt and want more and have to let go and move on with their lives. Why put yourself in a situation like that to get hurt from that experience. |
|
|
|
|
|
Edited by
sweetestgirl11
on
Tue 02/25/14 02:45 AM
|
|
Benefit packages are very good. Makes a job more attractive. calling BS on this. I don;t consider letting some guy use me at his convenience without a commitment (so only god knows who else he is sleeping with) a "benefit." I would not be interested in someone who thinks a FWB is ethical I wouldn't lower my standards 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Clint, people have their own reasons for being in this situation. I was in one for 3 years. He wanted his freedom to do what he wanted and I guess I wasn't ready to commit as well so it worked out fine for us. I no longer speak to him because he would just pop in unanounced and I hated that..anyways sometimes its a matter of convenience exactly. men who want FWB are a least honest about being inconsiderate users right from the start. What you describe is being treated like property which I also have found typical of the FWB, but , no thanks...lol your comment reflects what I have also observed time and time again, and he will not commit to his FWB. He will have an FWB with you and commit to someone else. When he does it's over for you...with you having no say in the matter. just like that. Sorry I have seen too much of this for too long to be fooled or influenced. I would never accept that arrangement - as I have said I wouldn't lower my standards or get involved with someone that creepy |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Benefit packages are very good. Makes a job more attractive. calling BS on this. I don;t consider letting some guy use me at his convenience without a commitment (so only god knows who else he is sleeping with) a "benefit." I would not be interested in someone who thinks a FWB is ethical I wouldn't lower my standards Actually I threw that in to see if anyone was paying attention. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Edited by
clintb74
on
Tue 02/25/14 07:57 AM
|
|
Clint, people have their own reasons for being in this situation. I was in one for 3 years. He wanted his freedom to do what he wanted and I guess I wasn't ready to commit as well so it worked out fine for us. I no longer speak to him because he would just pop in unanounced and I hated that..anyways sometimes its a matter of convenience exactly. men who want FWB are a least honest about being inconsiderate users right from the start. What you describe is being treated like property which I also have found typical of the FWB, but , no thanks...lol your comment reflects what I have also observed time and time again, and he will not commit to his FWB. He will have an FWB with you and commit to someone else. When he does it's over for you...with you having no say in the matter. just like that. Sorry I have seen too much of this for too long to be fooled or influenced. I would never accept that arrangement - as I have said I wouldn't lower my standards or get involved with someone that creepy [/quote I am not for it on a personal level, whatever two consenting adults do is their business. Creepy, wouldn't go that far though. I believe FWB's is another way of saying "I fear commitment" or possibly "I want my cake and eat it too" |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
This subject has been mentioned in a number of profiles and it has a negative aura surrounding it. What are your views on this? pretty negative. If someone chooses that route better do so with eyes wide open...especailly the female partner Even the male partner I agree that can also be true...whichever one is the best liar...the other one gets hurt But why do people lie for that!! Why cant they keep it clear before only?? others, who really intend to be honest, and start out that way usually end up with one partner's expectations changing, and that is usually painful and full of drama I hate relationship drama of ANY kind. so I sooooo do not tempt an arrangement that will likely end up drama - filled ...oh please a lot of girls lie too...I have pages and pages of them..PAGES...LOL The problem is one side of the gender fence tends to blame the other side without looking at the whole picture. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Clint, people have their own reasons for being in this situation. I was in one for 3 years. He wanted his freedom to do what he wanted and I guess I wasn't ready to commit as well so it worked out fine for us. I no longer speak to him because he would just pop in unanounced and I hated that..anyways sometimes its a matter of convenience exactly. men who want FWB are a least honest about being inconsiderate users right from the start. What you describe is being treated like property which I also have found typical of the FWB, but , no thanks...lol your comment reflects what I have also observed time and time again, and he will not commit to his FWB. He will have an FWB with you and commit to someone else. When he does it's over for you...with you having no say in the matter. just like that. Sorry I have seen too much of this for too long to be fooled or influenced. I would never accept that arrangement - as I have said I wouldn't lower my standards or get involved with someone that creepy [/quote I am not for it on a personal level, whatever two consenting adults do is their business. Creepy, wouldn't go that far though. I believe FWB's is another way of saying "I fear commitment" or possibly "I want my cake and eat it too" ^^^^^^THIS! |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
If you think about it. "Normal" relatjonships often don't last forever either. This situatuon i was in was realistic for us
Both and unfortunately at one point I had feelings but i pulled back as i said.nobody got hurt in this...i had a say as well and know what i was getting into. I had my cake and ate it too but now I want to move on and find someone thats better suited for me that i can fall in love with |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I did fear commitment..iwont deny it..it happens im sure to all of us...why so much hostility?
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I did fear commitment..iwont deny it..it happens im sure to all of us...why so much hostility? Hostility? A question and opinions. You inventing hostility in your mind. If you are referring to someone else on here, disregard this. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
If sitcoms have taught us anything, FWB doesn't work.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I've always thought it was a circumstantial description and not a category of selection. I mean as a premeditated relationship option it's pretty robotic, ie. selfish and laced with contempt. Best scenario for that would be hate sex but even that generally occurs circumstantially unless you're a fetishist.
|
|
|
|
|
