please ladies let us in.. it can't all be about the bling bling. the car we drive... so please describe it from your point of view... let's set the table so to speak.. you enter your local supermarket.. how would you like us to approach you... what would you like us to say...��??... describe what we're wearing....

According to Crystal, you have to have a killer body. See her thread with pictures of men.

Supermarket, ask them a question for opinions on what to shop for. The vegetable and frozen food sections would be a start.

Kic... start your own topic would you.?.. get our perspective..mmm. so he thanks you then just walks away.. it's in that moment that very moment wear something happens or nothing at all.. thank you then what you have to say something.. but most women just. say your welcome no problem.. I say thanks again and walk away..

Poeh,,, good question. I don't think there's any one thing, it's just the vibe.
I don't care about bling bling, I don't give a toss about a flashy car.
I like it to be obvious that a guy takes care of himself, as in clean, groomed. I don't mean over the top stuff, just the normal things. So bluntly put, not someone that looks and smells like a hobo. If someone has yukked teeth, I'm gone.
Like KLC says, just casual clothes: jeans, t-shirt.

How to approach? Dunno really. Just anything would do as far as I'm concerned. If it's humorous / slightly witty, he'd have my attention. I like that. And if we exchange a bit and it feels good, being asked to have a cup of coffee together would be nice. And I'd say "yes", unless I was pressed for time.

klc if I knew that I'd write a book.lol

so if I walked up to you.. and said excuse me miss but I felt attracted towards you.. I was wondering even curious if you felt the same.. would you perhaps allow me to introduce myself to you.. would that work are too stuffy maybe.??. I mean of course we would have had noticed each other first..D..lol

A few years back, in a book shop abroad, I went to the counter to pay for 2 books I picked out: Love in the Time of Cholera and The Name of the Rose. The manager told me that if I could name the authors of the books without looking, I could take the books home for free.

When I went home that day, I had a smile on my face, two free books and the guy's calling card. :)

Once I was working and this man came and stood beside me. He looked at the shelf then at me and then back at the shelf. I said sir can I help you? He smiled and said oh I'm just looking. I smiled back and continued working. He walks around me and grabs up a pack of egg rolls and says "I better go with something healthier. I need to watch my weight or else how am I ever to attract a beautiful woman like you!" That made me laugh and he grabbed his chest and said I was melting his heart. So I said "get outta here your making my face turn red!" He laughed and said he would leave but just had to ask if I was available. I had to tell him no. :-( everything happens at wrong time for me it seems.... anyway he was really cute and cheesy but he not only had my attention he had me smiling all day long! I like how he just went for it!

for real if I said oh let's go get a coffee.. I don't know.. how about here's my number to text me.. I would like to get to know you a little better.. would that work.... it's better then excuse me miss. does this rag smell like chloroform to you..lol

I think some chit chatty line before the coffee invite would be better. You gotta have contact first, eye contact, smiling at each other, then some comment, but non-sexual.
But at least have the guts to say something and maybe then ask for the coffee: I have had it happen a couple of times that I had eye contact with a really cute guy, smiling like idiots at each other, but the guy not saying/doing anything. (also in the supermarket)

I always say hello if eye contact is made. Hello, how are you? Or just like I do with people here I say hello and comment or ask about something I notice about them. Sometimes they answer me and go on and sometimes they stay and talk. There is no rule the guy has to initiate conversation. I like it when they do!

I like an agressive woman, shows confidence. Don't change,

yes I do too aggressive women are confident women.. sort of takes the pressure off of me as well.. if a woman start the conversation I'm right there.. but she'll be waiting till hell freezes over before I start 1... but you get me talking you'll never shut me up..lol.. so yes women approach him first... a lot of men are shy deep down.. not a confidence issue just a getting the ball started issue.. so to speak...

I agree. It shows the woman will be an equal in conversation and she can initiate it when the guy has a momentary loss of words.

I prefer a woman who speaks her mind and doesn't whine and complain about her previous relationships and how life has been unfair to her.

This! Oh yes please
Where are the bananas btw?

Bananas are good for you. But not the dancing variety, it may have bugs in it.

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Apples are good for you.

If I notice I am being stared at, I will approach the other person and say something off the wall. If they reply in kind, I know there is a sense of humor. YAY! HOPE! *chair dance*

If there is no response, I have gently pat their shoulder and say 'Dont worry. You will be ok.' and walk off.

I recall a few years ago, grocery shopping wicked early one morning. I said good morning to an employee and he replied in kind. I made chit chat, thats what I do. After a few seconds he said, I do not mean no disrespect when I say this but you have a very nice........... (I busted out laughing for I thought I knew the word arse was coming..) PHYSIQUE. I turned beet red, thanked him. I gigglesnorted as I walked by, informing him I was turning 41 in a few days and he made my morning...

Most of the times I cannot tell if I am being hit on or if someone is being uber friendly. Im not approached a lot so I will take a gander and say they were the latter...*snickering*

If someone cannot shoot the **** with me, it is going nowhere fast. I try to ask open-ended questions most of the times. Again, if someone gives me a one word response, I can get that at home from my kid or my cat.