So I met someone that I thought was a great guy. Literally the man of my dreams. He turned out to be a nightmare. He called himself my boyfriend and told me my search was over. We exchanged over 2000 texts in a week. I went on his Facebook to send him a friend request and found out that he is engaged. Yes I was hurt but I'm over it. Now I wonder if his fiancee should be told. I've been cheated on and was upset no one told me considering the diseases that are out there. What do you think?

Yes, but it'll have to be put in a level where you're not looking to rail the dude for doing what he did. Your explanation should be covering the deal along the lines of presenting the actuality of what he was doing while maintaining a "look, seriously you should know about this". They'll want to see proof so be ready to show that.

Stay out of it. Unless uve slept with him u should keep it to urself. Yes he was wrong for not telling u but u don't know his situation or his side of the story. Don't be one of "those girls"

Don't waste your energy. He will deny it and she will either believe it or won't care because he dumped you.

Why ruin your reputation getting flamed on face book. Take it as "good riddance to bad rubbish" and be more careful in the future. Move on.

Word to the wise anyone sends you that many texts upfront is a loser and will flame out. He was an attention whore who just wanted to kill some time.

The best revenge is to live better.Cut your losses and just move forward.

A lot of my male friends are smooth talkers, like the guy you describe. When a guy tells you your search is over, it normally comes in the form of "Hey baby, you don't need to search no more. I will be here for your every need", but that's only one classic line some use. There's more. These men can have quite a big ego. Don't give him a reaction. He's probably half expecting one from you, so that his ego get a boost. But don't react. What I WOULD do, is mention on my Facebook, about how happy I am getting on with my life. Not necessarily to tease him, but to show him you're not thinking about him. Don't give him the attention he's craving. Some just really get off on upsetting people. Never stop looking for a quality guy. This guy sounds like a sore loser. Ignore him and block him.

It was lucky you found out he is engaged very early on in your relationship by going on to Facebook, more is the pity you did not look their first you may have discovered it sooner. The guy is definitely "Bad News" and I would not waste any more time dwelling on what you should do, take comfort in the fact that you now know him for what he is and you are best out of your relationship with him. You obviously feel sorry for his fiancee, as well as your bad feelings towards him, but in my opinion you would be better to say nothing and move on, he is very likely to be saying the same things to another woman right now.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

I've struggled with a similar thing at some point. But I think it's best to stay out of it.
Even if she was to believe you, which I doubt she will, he will probably twist and turn facts around so you're the scapegoat. And she will defo believe that, cause she won't want to believe her boyfriend cheats and lies.
Chances of you getting shite and stress ... not worth it.
Let it go (you will get over it) and move on!

I'm over it, I promise. It only hurt for like a day. :) As for her believing me, he is still on the site everyday. I know this because he appears online in "who viewed me" and he visits my profile everyday. All I would have to do is email her the link to his profile that has his picture on it. I agree with what you all are saying. I just feel very bad for his fiance because I know how she will feel when she finds out. Hopefully before the wedding and hopefully before he gives her a disease.

Unless you were bumpin' uglies, I'd say don't worry about. If the other woman has any intuition at all, she'll figure out he's no good.

But you've never even met this person, right? Exchanging messages does not a relationship make. Stay out of it - he's not even your boyfriend.

Good advice.

The only way this really affects your personal world is by adding drama to it. People who cared about you personally, like a boyfriend or family, they would wonder why you want to chase drama and be concerned about how grown up you are...I think.

Transparency is one thing, a scene from a soap opera is completely something else. The thing about The Drama is it gets people worked up and angry and potentially dangerous, all over things everybody is just making up inside their own little heads. There is no giant beast attacking with tooth and claw, there is child abuser abusing a child before you to be stopped, there is really no urgency or survival situation at all, but The Drama incites those kind of instincts in people socially and that leads to police domestic calls and stabbed victims.

When choosing between drama and no drama, avoid the drama. If you need to inform somebody of something do so maturely and don't be emotionally involved, but you will wear any consequences and they're all your responsibility.

Say you got it all wrong, seemed malicious and developed an angry stalker who meant you harm over it. Stranger things have happened on college campuses in the US, it's hardly a stretch. And the whole thing about people hurting each other in particularly illegal ways is they tend to believe they're justified and the other party is always the bad one, they're the victim acting out. Everybody on both sides says this.

Don't even walk through doors like that. They're obviously dark places you wouldn't want in retrospect.

You can attack him and keep him in your life a bit longer, or you can forget about him, move on and not waste another thought on him. Telling his fiance seems more like spite then anything else, and that is never ok in my opinion.