what you love to, marriage life or living together?

Living together but there mustn't be sex going on, he's to learn how to wait. Maaaan! I'd treat him like a real man!

I can't speak for other countries but in the USA there are decided legal pluses and minus' to living together and marriage.

Depending on who you are dealing with in regards to officers of the court it can have a big influence on your rights as a biological parent but not so much your responsibilities. Live in partners have no rights with out Power's of Attorney and or guardianship papers of non-biological children so I would not put myself or my kids in a situation.

Medically it is a HUGE hassle; even with joint envoked durable medical power of attorney where spouses tend to have a lot of say if the patient is even short term incapacitated. Living together all bets are off. Which would really bite in a medical crisis.

Property can be really complicated as would be businesses unless the business is incorporated and or a sole owner and licensed. Again would bite if you needed to turn assets into resources in a crisis.

There are other reasons but I don't see complicating your life when getting married is relatively easy, cheap, and easy to get out of if you actually accept that most places you only take away half the assets and you can actually go into marriage with prenups.

If I were to live with someone it would be in a commitment only.

I wouldn't 'marry' again in the legal government sense

but we would make a commitment and take vows,,,,

Personally, i'd prefer being in a live in relationship. No one should be tied up by a piece f paper.

you cant treat him like a 'real' man and not be having sex at the same time. How does that make sense??

Whatever the couple feels comfortable in

Love your word of wisdom

Marriage, but living together could be a prelude.

living together as long as you love each other

this was discussed before anyway .... i don't like the feeling of typing same reply twice

My experience is living together is only playing at the relationship. It is like someone saying "I love you for the moment. If things get tough I am out of here. Only committed superficially. I am not all in and it really doesn't matter if you are not all in."

You can live with someone everything seems hunky-dory; and then marry and the dynamic will change; sometimes for the good and sometimes for the bad. My experience was the person thought it meant possession he could drop the phony act he had been fronting; which to me was a significant demotion and ended the relationship; thankfully without a lot of drama but it was not painless.

I see wat u mean, but i know a couple who are in a live in relationship for 27 years, it takes more than just a piece of paper to keep two people together.

Hai. leen

I think that Marriage is the right answer for some people others not so much. All that really matters is that both people are Happy, can roll with the punches and just take care of each other it is a mutual thing there shouldnt be any point in any relationship where you want to get over on the other person. Live and learn :)

I would prefer living together first, if we got engaged. He would have to move in with me tho, cuz I would never give up my secirity for a maybe....

I've lived with both of the men I was once engaged to. Wasn't engaged to both at the same time, obvs. . They were quite placid, so at least they weren't the type to boss me around. Well, we obviously split up for different reason's. Otherwise I'd still be with one of them.

I totally agree. I think it's better, as you already know how you'd both behave around each other, while under the same roof. Whereas, if you both start living together after getting married, it could be too late, because you signed a contract, and before you know it, if you both can't handle each other's quirks, you'll just be back to living with your parents. Also, rent is cheaper, and so are the bills, when you both are living together. I still paid my share. I like to do a live-in trial, then at least if it doesn't work out between us, I will know before I ever get married.

I don't believe in marriage, but I've never trusted a women enough to sign a contract saying if we ever decided not to be together she can take my kids and half my stuff. The government meddles in my life too much as it is, I don't need it meddling in my relationship. I'm down with cohabiting though.

marriage isn't essential but I hope to meet someone one day who life just wouldn't be the same without and would stay with them until their hair fell out and they lost all their teeth (it might be time for an upgrade then) children on the other hand are essential, even if it means one day fostering a few

finding someone you're attracted to is easy, its finding someone who shares the same lifelong ideals that can be quite difficult