why are most of the men here never married but has children and their children not even staying at home and some men are even divorced and now searching for partners.....is it that they cant tolerate or what and how sure are they that they can settle with the next partner*just thinking*

It's called freedom; not everyone has to get married, not everyone has to stay married, and people are free to search for partners whenever they want to. Freedom is awesome!

Cos in my case my kids mum was a cokehead and I brought him up myself. Now he's grown up and left home it's me time again! Hope you never end up in the same boat as I did? What a daft question to ask!

It's not just men...And it's not most either...

I was one of the first men in US history to fight in court for their kids and win custody.

Support Enforcement refused to go after her for child support.

I never had to do that Willing. My sons mum asked for money and she would go? So I gave her it and off she went! Best and worst money I ever paid out. Best cos I got my son, the worst because she was actually a good mum when she was off the drugs and my kid was losing his mother in the end!

why would a mother give her child out for money

I didn't...I took care of mine on my own, working 2 jobs and going to School. Put them true college, I'm a proud mother and they're proud of me also

Cos with drug addicts, the drugs come first, that's why! She also left a trail of debt which I paid off, so nobody would go after her looking for it! I hated her on the drugs, but at the same time I didn't want any harm coming to her from drug dealers after their money!

It seems obvious that you have never had a family menmber on drugs.
Coke or Smack ruins peoples lives and turns them into something they would never be if it wasn't for the drugs.
I know what I would do with all drug dealers but I can't put it on here.

alcohol addiction can do the same thing to a family, i know...
i got custody of my three kids, and once she was out of the home
the four of our lives took a 180 degree turn for the better..that was back
in 1991 and the kids and i haven't looked back since...

hmmmmm too bad

Hmmmmm too bad? I hope you don't have to face anything like that in your life? Don't think that you're untouchable though? It could happen to anyone, not just us!

Because life happens. Sometimes people can't work out their differences and thats that.

i believe that love grows stronger when there is communication,and understanding....why settle with someone you arent compatible with

Sadly many people rush into bad relationships for a variety of reasons and once in they are not sure how to get out.

The terrible pressure by society in general that being single must mean you are somehow defective exists.

As does the reality that parents with children usually have to endure severe hardships because daycare and housing that allows children is generally the privilege of the rich because families scatter for work they rarely want to or can provide care. Can't tell you the number of professional men who propose marriage, at least on paper, because they see it as cheaper and more dependable than boarding schools or nannies.

And or when the non-custodial parents loose their kids many turn to alcohol, prescription pills, and later street drugs that are easy and relative cheap until consumption gets out of hand.

That divorce is relatively cheap, bears little stigma now days means that many can get out of the marriage, but often not out from under the debts so they remarry to try to have shared expenses.