I know how you feel. My best friend on here was an American and the only reason that we never met was because of that damned ocean. Nice lady and we talked about people being judgmental actually. What she said was that she doesn't like other people being judgmental but she is aware that she's being judgmental by doing that. I think that it's alright to be judgmental and it's unavoidable. It's people that think that they are superior that I find annoying. Maybe I'll get into heaven yet?

The premise that all American's want to be better at bashing themselves than anyone else is yet another misguided version of prejudice from what seems like a limited exposure to Americans. If you are postulating your opinions of Americans from a few drunken pot smoking tourists in some dive bar and what you see on Family Guy, or TV in general, then your cultural experiences are very limited.

True most Americans attempt to be their best self as a matter of personal pride but NOT to laud it over anyone. Or to say that anyone else's culture, almost all which are gladly represented in the USA as part of American culture, to one degree or another, is somehow less or failed to measure up.

The very fact that American culture has, and I believe always will be, about defending the right of all cultures that don't trod over others to survive and thrive is what keeps it alive. Weather that proves to make it superior or ultimately destroys it remains to be seen.

One thing about Americans they are seeing who is loyal and appreciative and those countries that continue to bash and leave us holding the bag are getting known. We can and are deciding where to spend our defense and tourism dollars and who we welcome into this country or where we send our resources too. We also know what countries exploit us by sending crap consumer goods made with slave labor while they turn their own country into polluted sewers not fit to live in. Our borders are closing to your whiners, slackers, and criminals and you don't like our guns, dress, and whatever else we will be glad to keep them at home. We are tired of being taxed to death to pay for anyone but our own as it is.

The interesting thing about social media is it is open to everyone and those who shoot their mouth off about how mean, obnoxious, bigoted blah blah blah American's are may find the support, commerce, and hospitality drying up.

Contrary to popular belief if you can't come here and carry your own weight and contribute to the economy and the culture and live by the laws in general then most of us want you to stay the hell home and fix the mess your own countries are in. And is why many will just ignore or delete your diatribes.

I agree with everything klc has said on this thread.

well well, am new here on this site, and also am african.
i think you guys are mistaking that africans are fraud,even though you americans too are master in fraudling.

I have many many african friends on another site and not once have they asked for money or anything else apart from friendship. i think people are more judge mental on here and i am sure everyone has done something wrong in their life and should look at themselfs before jumping to quickly and judging others before they get to know them..

You seem so judgmental....

Trau, schau, wem! (Take Care in Whom You Trust!)

I do get more spam on here from people claiming to be Americans. Whether they are really Africans is quite beside the point for me. I have no more interest in going to America than I have in going to Africa. I have a better standard of life right here and it follows that some hobo in America could very well be trying to get into my country by contacting me on a dating site. I have known Americans and Canadians that were sent back where they came from and they didn't want to go.

Some people just don't want foreigners in their countries and some people want to go into other countries and act like missionaries and tell the people that live in those countries what to do. When I think about Africa my first thought isn't that they are scammers. I would be more worried about my health. You date an African and that's a high risk thing. There's an AIDS epidemic there. You go to America and there's a lot of guncrime and a high murder rate there. I'll just stay where I am, thanks.

Beats me why they'd rather sit on their lazy arse all day, trying to con people, rather than get a job.

Would something like THIS help to deter them, e.g, reverse phsycology, by changing your profile to make it sound negative?

Then again, no-one should have to change their profile just to keep scammers away.

What is sad about this thread is that in explaining why people resist the idea of conversing with some African's, or American's, or fill in the blank for a country name is the total of a country suffers for the acts of a few.

If I have an African (or any other country) contact me and they are generally polite (and I am not already talking with someone which I frequently am even if they are not in forums), especially if we have any other interests and age in common I am glad to chat.

I went to college with many African's, worked with several over the years with my affiliation with Church, Habitat for Humanity, several other interest areas. What I know of the culture and food I very much like and the people I know are far removed from the scammers, pimp type wanna-bees, or racist, sexist, selective verse quoter's that are so over represented in the posts on the forums claiming to be Africans.

Virtually every African I have met in person were polite, hospitable, family oriented first, hardworking second, and focused on becoming the best in their field, excellent property renter/owners, and actively contributing to the community. While they were meticulous about grooming and liked signature cars and real African art and fabrics, and quality jewelry over bling. I have never seen any real African throwing around money or blowing off a debt.

I have however seen people pretending to be African's and pulling of charity and religious frauds. Busted a couple in Atlanta that were running welfare frauds.

What I do find incredibly offensive from anyone, anywhere, is someone being openly sexual, overly familiar, ageist, insisting I immediately go off site, demanding I make them a friend when I rarely do that with anyone I have not known for years, or act like they can interrogate me in a gatlin fire of questions without telling me anything about them self. Especially if you talk to them one time and then every time you are on line they blow up your IM or email. Constantly pleading for maternal or counseling attention like I am not here for any of a number reasons other than "work".

I don't know why OP is getting the slip from folks. Like I said before it may or may not be anything to do with her personally. I have not read your profile and not about to rate you when I don't get the vibe that is the thread. But will say this medium is kind of like a kid in a candy store and sometimes people's attention span is pretty limited. Hang in there join in some of the game and other threads you will make friends and it will be easier.

I don't agree at all.
People are just cautious today.
If I was you I would take that chip off your shoulder

A chip? Think he's got a few fish and battered sausages up there with the chips also Franky?

America is one of the leading countries for scammers...Mainly because the internet is so open in the United States compared to foreign countries. A lot of those emails you receive from Nigerian Prince's originate in the United States.

Which leads me to my response, quite simply it is because a lot of scams do originate from your country. Not as many as originate from India, but a good deal all your own. In the United States trust is usually earned, and while it can be quite a hill to climb, you can come out with some surprising outcomes.

Put in the time to show people they can trust you and eventually they will trust you.

American bashing. Wow. There's even a book. As an American living in Europe, I find this thread interesting.

Scammers are everywhere. Anyone who isn' t cautious today on the internet is foolish. I think it's just that simple.

I appreciate different cultures and am respectful. But I love my own too. There's something to be said for every country and bashing doesn't create understanding.

Whoever thinks that is an idiot - must check what they, themselves, do behind closed doors before judging others. I ain't a scammer. Hahahahah, even in America there are tons of scammers. Oh and why do people think Americans are full of gangsterism?? Heh??? This thread is making me MAD, man eish nxn!

They shut you out? Then they are effin' stereotypical Ma se poesies!! You know who you are and don't let em get to u. Scammers are scattered everywhere, my ma se kind!

Started by an American, mind you (1st reply in this thread):



The OP asked about white ppl, then the first or second poster apparently believes all white people are Americans. And no one points out this is wrong, instead Americans start defending their own country, and in the end another American complains about "American bashing".
If you Americans understood that the western world and white people aren't equivalent to the States, but that the States are just part of that, it would make conversations here somewhat nicer and easier.

As for the OPs question, I think the first 3-4 replies said it all, with the exception of the "Whites are Americans thing".
Wwhat is it with this Whitey-Bashing around here lately?

And Leigh's reply:
Because so many are...You should be asking this question of the people doing the scamming, not the victims....

Oh dear,dont be mad.Its ludicrous how mediocres,half baked and un-educated people mock people better than them and stereo-typed Africans as scammers.There are scammers in Africa,no doubt but i've seen worse species from America

I think anyone from ANY country will scam. I never only associate it with africans. I've had quite a few scams from India, and one from the UK pretending to be in the military, and one from Russia. I get suspicious of any men who contact me, if they're wearing a military uniform. As those types are also well-known for scamming. They just say that they're fighting for their country to make their profile sound good. More fool them. Because I have my head firmly screwed on. And if they think I'll fall for it, then they're fools.

For the record, the words American and bash were from an earlier post. :-)

Bottom line, every country has scammers, loud, brash people. They also have their own vernacular. You say tomato, I sat tomahto. Who cares? :-)