Can long distance relationships work and if so, what does it take to make it work ?

I definately think they can work,trust,love and commitment are the keys t it.

I definately think they can work,trust,love and commitment are the keys to it.

I agree

It depends.

Yes. If both partners are committed to each other and they both keep in mind the common goal. Long distance should always be temporary. 2 ppl that are stubborn and refuse to move isn't going to last

big check! :)

I think most long distance relationships are really just a delusion.

Sure you may talk to someone and they might actually talk back but the reality that your lives are going to actually co-mingle and you share more than a filtered view of each other is pretty slim.

Relationships take sharing space and living in the same general neighborhood and eventually home. If you are not sleeping together, breaking bread together, paying bills together, laughing and sometimes crying together it isn't a relationship.

What it really is; is a pass time, and illusion of intimacy, and even a self deception because more often than not that is what it is all about; deluding yourself that you are not still living alone, not committed enough to be all the way in with another person, and the distance is just your safety zone.

In most cases you put the two people together in a long distance thing it will desentagrates in a very short time. They are not in love with each other they are in love with the idea of love or having this contrived controlable scenario that has no real conflict or disruption of their life.

@pacificstar: Such wisdom madam. Sad but true. :(

It depends on the people involved, and how much they want to get to know each other, it certainly is no easy option. The plus side is that in communicating by email, telephone calls and Skype video calls, you can learn a lot about each other before you even meet. Then if you decide you want to meet, it really needs several dates to know whether you are both wanting to continue the relationship, and if you live thousands of miles apart or in different countries, it can cost a lot in time and money to meet up. You need to ask yourself before you start a long distance relationship, if all goes well are you prepared to relocate so you can both be together if your partner is unable to relocate. The down side is the possible long period of time before you meet, and inbetween meet ups, where the relationships survival will depend on the people involved and if they want it to survive. Not something to enter in to lightly in my opinion, but it can work if you both want it to work.

I've done it a few times, it can work but you both need to have a lot of trust in eachother.

I was on a scottish dating site, and noticed only americans and scottish people talking on it. Would that mean it was exclusively for those two countries and no other one's? It didn't mention it, you see. I just noticed as I was reading the forums. I kept seeing threads such as "American female seeking scottish male for friendship or more". Hmmmmm.

They make me

boring

boring

Pretty hard to get any when they live so far away.

I'm unsure if they can work I just got out of one and let me just tell you it ruined me. The girl I was dating I gave her my all I even applied to college there she said she needed me to be closer and she couldn't wait for me to get out of college. So stupid me only applied to a college in her state we are over 2000 miles away from one another. She broke up with me very recently and now I'm stuck going to college there and my heart is broken. She said it was her not me but my advice is not to be stupid don't do what I did I gave up absolutely everything for her because I was in love and didn't even think what if something bad happened. So always have a back up plan because I sure didn't

Yep, if I had to travel a long distance without stopping, then that's what I'd need to wear.