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Sounds like what we Dutchies call "a luxury problem", but it happened to me several times now that a guy asked me "You look so good, why is an attractive girl like you still single?"
They get sort of suspicious, think there's something wrong with me. Great! So when you're attractive, you've lost the right to be single for x amount of time? Without even asking how long I've been single, or better yet, how long I've been 'available', which in my case is just a few months, they seem to think: "attractive + single = something wrong" You attract people because of the way you look, then they judge you for it? So what do you do? Lie? |
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Sounds like what we Dutchies call "a luxury problem", but it happened to me several times now that a guy asked me "You look so good, why is an attractive girl like you still single?" They get sort of suspicious, think there's something wrong with me. Great! So when you're attractive, you've lost the right to be single for x amount of time? Without even asking how long I've been single, or better yet, how long I've been 'available', which in my case is just a few months, they seem to think: "attractive + single = something wrong" You attract people because of the way you look, then they judge you for it? So what do you do? Lie? Just experienced this very thing Crystal...I thought the question was inappropriate because it was premature so I sidestepped (blew it off) it....It hurt because it made me feel like he was measuring my "worth"....Sadder still, it made me begin to question his... 
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I think that you might be reading too much into that Crystal. Maybe they are just trying to pay you a compliment? I said to a woman the other week that she was never old enough to be a grandmother. Seems like the same sort of thing to me.
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Sounds like what we Dutchies call "a luxury problem", but it happened to me several times now that a guy asked me "You look so good, why is an attractive girl like you still single?" They get sort of suspicious, think there's something wrong with me. Great! So when you're attractive, you've lost the right to be single for x amount of time? Without even asking how long I've been single, or better yet, how long I've been 'available', which in my case is just a few months, they seem to think: "attractive + single = something wrong" You attract people because of the way you look, then they judge you for it? So what do you do? Lie? Just experienced this very thing Crystal...I thought the question was inappropriate because it was premature so I sidestepped (blew it off) it....It hurt because it made me feel like he was measuring my "worth"....Sadder still, it made me begin to question his... I think a lot of guys wonder why a really attractive women would be on the the market for more than a moment. You two are good examples. It would appear logically that both of you would have a swarm of men paying you attention and you would get the opportunity to take the "pick of the litter" as it were. We hear how unattractive people constantly "sing the blues" about no one paying them any attention. Are the two of you being overly "picky"?  To complicate matters further, both of you show great intelligence and humor! Not to mention wit! What gives? |
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Sounds like what we Dutchies call "a luxury problem", but it happened to me several times now that a guy asked me "You look so good, why is an attractive girl like you still single?" They get sort of suspicious, think there's something wrong with me. Great! So when you're attractive, you've lost the right to be single for x amount of time? Without even asking how long I've been single, or better yet, how long I've been 'available', which in my case is just a few months, they seem to think: "attractive + single = something wrong" You attract people because of the way you look, then they judge you for it? So what do you do? Lie? Just experienced this very thing Crystal...I thought the question was inappropriate because it was premature so I sidestepped (blew it off) it....It hurt because it made me feel like he was measuring my "worth"....Sadder still, it made me begin to question his... I think a lot of guys wonder why a really attractive women would be on the the market for more than a moment. You two are good examples. It would appear logically that both of you would have a swarm of men paying you attention and you would get the opportunity to take the "pick of the litter" as it were. We hear how unattractive people constantly "sing the blues" about no one paying them any attention. Are the two of you being overly "picky"? To complicate matters further, both of you show great intelligence and humor! Not to mention wit! What gives? If you're available, the same thing could be said of you Joe  ..What gives?...Nuttin honey....And, if you're really interested, I can prove it  |
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Is it guys in a singles club saying it? Whenever I've been to a singles club a good looking woman tended to stick out like a sore thumb. Last time I went to a singles club a guy that I was talking to said to me that there wasn't anybody there that he would touch with mine.
I seem to recall you saying something before anyway about when you see that a guy has never been married that you wonder what must be wrong with him and I think that you are projecting a bit. You say that these guys don't know how long you have been single or why. Could be that they want to know about that and hear your story without it sounding like an interrogation. I frequently ask women how long that they have been single myself but I'm just more direct that way. Take it as a compliment anyway. Why worry about it? Why does it matter what the first thing that pops into a guys head is? It's men telling you that they fancy you. Would you prefer it if they didn't say that you are nice looking and talked to you as if you're some sort of sad loser that can't attract men? |
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Sounds like what we Dutchies call "a luxury problem", but it happened to me several times now that a guy asked me "You look so good, why is an attractive girl like you still single?" They get sort of suspicious, think there's something wrong with me. Great! So when you're attractive, you've lost the right to be single for x amount of time? Without even asking how long I've been single, or better yet, how long I've been 'available', which in my case is just a few months, they seem to think: "attractive + single = something wrong" You attract people because of the way you look, then they judge you for it? So what do you do? Lie? Just experienced this very thing Crystal...I thought the question was inappropriate because it was premature so I sidestepped (blew it off) it....It hurt because it made me feel like he was measuring my "worth"....Sadder still, it made me begin to question his... I think a lot of guys wonder why a really attractive women would be on the the market for more than a moment. You two are good examples. It would appear logically that both of you would have a swarm of men paying you attention and you would get the opportunity to take the "pick of the litter" as it were. We hear how unattractive people constantly "sing the blues" about no one paying them any attention. Are the two of you being overly "picky"? To complicate matters further, both of you show great intelligence and humor! Not to mention wit! What gives? If you're available, the same thing could be said of you Joe ..What gives?...Nuttin honey....And, if you're really interested, I can prove it You are just avoiding answering the question. Here, I will post my true picture to answer yours.
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Sounds like what we Dutchies call "a luxury problem", but it happened to me several times now that a guy asked me "You look so good, why is an attractive girl like you still single?" They get sort of suspicious, think there's something wrong with me. Great! So when you're attractive, you've lost the right to be single for x amount of time? Without even asking how long I've been single, or better yet, how long I've been 'available', which in my case is just a few months, they seem to think: "attractive + single = something wrong" You attract people because of the way you look, then they judge you for it? So what do you do? Lie? Just experienced this very thing Crystal...I thought the question was inappropriate because it was premature so I sidestepped (blew it off) it....It hurt because it made me feel like he was measuring my "worth"....Sadder still, it made me begin to question his... I think a lot of guys wonder why a really attractive women would be on the the market for more than a moment. You two are good examples. It would appear logically that both of you would have a swarm of men paying you attention and you would get the opportunity to take the "pick of the litter" as it were. We hear how unattractive people constantly "sing the blues" about no one paying them any attention. Are the two of you being overly "picky"? To complicate matters further, both of you show great intelligence and humor! Not to mention wit! What gives? If you're available, the same thing could be said of you Joe ..What gives?...Nuttin honey....And, if you're really interested, I can prove it You are just avoiding answering the question. Here, I will post my true picture to answer yours. You're just stumbling around in the dark...Turn the feckin light on before you hurt yourself.... 
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Sounds like what we Dutchies call "a luxury problem", but it happened to me several times now that a guy asked me "You look so good, why is an attractive girl like you still single?" They get sort of suspicious, think there's something wrong with me. Great! So when you're attractive, you've lost the right to be single for x amount of time? Without even asking how long I've been single, or better yet, how long I've been 'available', which in my case is just a few months, they seem to think: "attractive + single = something wrong" You attract people because of the way you look, then they judge you for it? So what do you do? Lie? Just experienced this very thing Crystal...I thought the question was inappropriate because it was premature so I sidestepped (blew it off) it....It hurt because it made me feel like he was measuring my "worth"....Sadder still, it made me begin to question his... I think a lot of guys wonder why a really attractive women would be on the the market for more than a moment. You two are good examples. It would appear logically that both of you would have a swarm of men paying you attention and you would get the opportunity to take the "pick of the litter" as it were. We hear how unattractive people constantly "sing the blues" about no one paying them any attention. Are the two of you being overly "picky"? To complicate matters further, both of you show great intelligence and humor! Not to mention wit! What gives? If you're available, the same thing could be said of you Joe ..What gives?...Nuttin honey....And, if you're really interested, I can prove it You are just avoiding answering the question. Here, I will post my true picture to answer yours. You're just stumbling around in the dark...Turn the feckin light on before you hurt yourself.... No! Light make more hair grow on my back! This thread is about you and Crystalfairy! Not me! Why aren't the two of you picking the candied nuts from the candy box??? |
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Sounds like what we Dutchies call "a luxury problem", but it happened to me several times now that a guy asked me "You look so good, why is an attractive girl like you still single?" They get sort of suspicious, think there's something wrong with me. Great! So when you're attractive, you've lost the right to be single for x amount of time? Without even asking how long I've been single, or better yet, how long I've been 'available', which in my case is just a few months, they seem to think: "attractive + single = something wrong" You attract people because of the way you look, then they judge you for it? So what do you do? Lie? Just experienced this very thing Crystal...I thought the question was inappropriate because it was premature so I sidestepped (blew it off) it....It hurt because it made me feel like he was measuring my "worth"....Sadder still, it made me begin to question his... I think a lot of guys wonder why a really attractive women would be on the the market for more than a moment. You two are good examples. It would appear logically that both of you would have a swarm of men paying you attention and you would get the opportunity to take the "pick of the litter" as it were. We hear how unattractive people constantly "sing the blues" about no one paying them any attention. Are the two of you being overly "picky"? To complicate matters further, both of you show great intelligence and humor! Not to mention wit! What gives? If you're available, the same thing could be said of you Joe ..What gives?...Nuttin honey....And, if you're really interested, I can prove it You are just avoiding answering the question. Here, I will post my true picture to answer yours. You're just stumbling around in the dark...Turn the feckin light on before you hurt yourself.... No! Light make more hair grow on my back! This thread is about you and Crystalfairy! Not me! Why aren't the two of you picking the candied nuts from the candy box??? I can't speak for Crystal, but I'm too full..... 
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Sounds like what we Dutchies call "a luxury problem", but it happened to me several times now that a guy asked me "You look so good, why is an attractive girl like you still single?" They get sort of suspicious, think there's something wrong with me. Great! So when you're attractive, you've lost the right to be single for x amount of time? Without even asking how long I've been single, or better yet, how long I've been 'available', which in my case is just a few months, they seem to think: "attractive + single = something wrong" You attract people because of the way you look, then they judge you for it? So what do you do? Lie? Just experienced this very thing Crystal...I thought the question was inappropriate because it was premature so I sidestepped (blew it off) it....It hurt because it made me feel like he was measuring my "worth"....Sadder still, it made me begin to question his... I think a lot of guys wonder why a really attractive women would be on the the market for more than a moment. You two are good examples. It would appear logically that both of you would have a swarm of men paying you attention and you would get the opportunity to take the "pick of the litter" as it were. We hear how unattractive people constantly "sing the blues" about no one paying them any attention. Are the two of you being overly "picky"? To complicate matters further, both of you show great intelligence and humor! Not to mention wit! What gives? If you're available, the same thing could be said of you Joe ..What gives?...Nuttin honey....And, if you're really interested, I can prove it You are just avoiding answering the question. Here, I will post my true picture to answer yours. You're just stumbling around in the dark...Turn the feckin light on before you hurt yourself.... No! Light make more hair grow on my back! This thread is about you and Crystalfairy! Not me! Why aren't the two of you picking the candied nuts from the candy box??? I can't speak for Crystal, but I'm too full..... Sounds like, once you taste away the candy, you are left with nothing but the nuts!
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In light of what I read, Crystalfairy and Leigh have no problems attracting. When asked why u might be single, just tell them the U2 song. "Still haven't found, what i'm looking for." enough said.
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Sounds like what we Dutchies call "a luxury problem", but it happened to me several times now that a guy asked me "You look so good, why is an attractive girl like you still single?" They get sort of suspicious, think there's something wrong with me. Great! So when you're attractive, you've lost the right to be single for x amount of time? Without even asking how long I've been single, or better yet, how long I've been 'available', which in my case is just a few months, they seem to think: "attractive + single = something wrong" You attract people because of the way you look, then they judge you for it? So what do you do? Lie? Just experienced this very thing Crystal...I thought the question was inappropriate because it was premature so I sidestepped (blew it off) it....It hurt because it made me feel like he was measuring my "worth"....Sadder still, it made me begin to question his... I think a lot of guys wonder why a really attractive women would be on the the market for more than a moment. You two are good examples. It would appear logically that both of you would have a swarm of men paying you attention and you would get the opportunity to take the "pick of the litter" as it were. We hear how unattractive people constantly "sing the blues" about no one paying them any attention. Are the two of you being overly "picky"? To complicate matters further, both of you show great intelligence and humor! Not to mention wit! What gives? If you're available, the same thing could be said of you Joe ..What gives?...Nuttin honey....And, if you're really interested, I can prove it You are just avoiding answering the question. Here, I will post my true picture to answer yours. You're just stumbling around in the dark...Turn the feckin light on before you hurt yourself.... No! Light make more hair grow on my back! This thread is about you and Crystalfairy! Not me! Why aren't the two of you picking the candied nuts from the candy box??? I can't speak for Crystal, but I'm too full..... Sounds like, once you taste away the candy, you are left with nothing but the nuts! Left with nothing but the nuts!! ?  Surely you jest!...That's where they hide the nutritional value!..
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Edited by
SparklingCrystal 💖💎
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Tue 02/04/14 09:52 AM
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Sounds like what we Dutchies call "a luxury problem", but it happened to me several times now that a guy asked me "You look so good, why is an attractive girl like you still single?" They get sort of suspicious, think there's something wrong with me. Great! So when you're attractive, you've lost the right to be single for x amount of time? Without even asking how long I've been single, or better yet, how long I've been 'available', which in my case is just a few months, they seem to think: "attractive + single = something wrong" You attract people because of the way you look, then they judge you for it? So what do you do? Lie? Just experienced this very thing Crystal...I thought the question was inappropriate because it was premature so I sidestepped (blew it off) it....It hurt because it made me feel like he was measuring my "worth"....Sadder still, it made me begin to question his... Yeah, it's a weird one isn't it? On the other hand side, if I see a gorgeous man, I think the same thing "why on earth is he still single? " (difference is I wouldn't ask questions about it like that) And metalwing, yes, plenty to choose from, just like Leigh won't have a prob. But that indeed doesn't necessarily mean you've found the one that makes a good match, as in, makes you happy. And another thing is: I'm not desperate. Yes I'm single, but that doesn't mean to say I need a partner yesterday! I'm happy, I really am (so many ppl don't believe that, probably because most ppl can't be alone. I can) Sure I sometimes miss a kiss and a cuddle, arm around my shoulder and of course intimacy and sex. But that's no reason to rush into a relationship. Not everyone is desperate for a partner/relationship, some people choose to remain single for the time being. I've only considered myself 'available' and ready for a relationship since approx. October, and I'm not seriously 'shopping' for a partner either. At the mo I'm working on getting my social life going, going out more often, making new friends, enjoying life. And I might end up doing so for a few years, for as long as I'm happy with it. Maybe Leigh's way is best when you get asked such a question: blow it off. Indeed in my case it was premature as well. First time we talked. And yeah, it is a form of compliment, but like Leigh says, it hurts in a way as well. As if you've done something wrong by being attractive + single, having to explain yourself? |
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In light of what I read, Crystalfairy and Leigh have no problems attracting. When asked why u might be single, just tell them the U2 song. "Still haven't found, what i'm looking for." enough said. Thank you Scoob for being kind and for getting "it" 
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Never tell a girl that she's beautiful. Tell her why that might be the case. The smart ones will always know the difference.
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Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end.
Sometimes were in between, and not just setting for whatever... |
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Sounds like what we Dutchies call "a luxury problem", but it happened to me several times now that a guy asked me "You look so good, why is an attractive girl like you still single?" They get sort of suspicious, think there's something wrong with me. Great! So when you're attractive, you've lost the right to be single for x amount of time? Without even asking how long I've been single, or better yet, how long I've been 'available', which in my case is just a few months, they seem to think: "attractive + single = something wrong" You attract people because of the way you look, then they judge you for it? So what do you do? Lie? Just experienced this very thing Crystal...I thought the question was inappropriate because it was premature so I sidestepped (blew it off) it....It hurt because it made me feel like he was measuring my "worth"....Sadder still, it made me begin to question his... I think a lot of guys wonder why a really attractive women would be on the the market for more than a moment. You two are good examples. It would appear logically that both of you would have a swarm of men paying you attention and you would get the opportunity to take the "pick of the litter" as it were. We hear how unattractive people constantly "sing the blues" about no one paying them any attention. Are the two of you being overly "picky"? To complicate matters further, both of you show great intelligence and humor! Not to mention wit! What gives? If you're available, the same thing could be said of you Joe ..What gives?...Nuttin honey....And, if you're really interested, I can prove it You are just avoiding answering the question. Here, I will post my true picture to answer yours. You're just stumbling around in the dark...Turn the feckin light on before you hurt yourself.... No! Light make more hair grow on my back! This thread is about you and Crystalfairy! Not me! Why aren't the two of you picking the candied nuts from the candy box??? I can't speak for Crystal, but I'm too full..... Sounds like, once you taste away the candy, you are left with nothing but the nuts! Left with nothing but the nuts!! ? Surely you jest!...That's where they hide the nutritional value!.. The protein and fat! known as the MEAT!! See! You lick away the sweetness, sumptuousness, spice, and Tang! The meat of a relationship is the glue (old horses be not afraid!), that holds everything together.
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Edited by
Leigh2154
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Tue 02/04/14 10:48 AM
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Sounds like what we Dutchies call "a luxury problem", but it happened to me several times now that a guy asked me "You look so good, why is an attractive girl like you still single?" They get sort of suspicious, think there's something wrong with me. Great! So when you're attractive, you've lost the right to be single for x amount of time? Without even asking how long I've been single, or better yet, how long I've been 'available', which in my case is just a few months, they seem to think: "attractive + single = something wrong" You attract people because of the way you look, then they judge you for it? So what do you do? Lie? Just experienced this very thing Crystal...I thought the question was inappropriate because it was premature so I sidestepped (blew it off) it....It hurt because it made me feel like he was measuring my "worth"....Sadder still, it made me begin to question his... Yeah, it's a weird one isn't it? On the other hand side, if I see a gorgeous man, I think the same thing "why on earth is he still single? " (difference is I wouldn't ask questions about it like that) And metalwing, yes, plenty to choose from, just like Leigh won't have a prob. But that indeed doesn't necessarily mean you've found the one that makes a good match, as in, makes you happy. And another thing is: I'm not desperate. Yes I'm single, but that doesn't mean to say I need a partner yesterday! I'm happy, I really am (so many ppl don't believe that, probably because most ppl can't be alone. I can) Sure I sometimes miss a kiss and a cuddle, arm around my shoulder and of course intimacy and sex. But that's no reason to rush into a relationship. Not everyone is desperate for a partner/relationship, some people choose to remain single for the time being. I've only considered myself 'available' and ready for a relationship since approx. October, and I'm not seriously 'shopping' for a partner either. At the mo I'm working on getting my social life going, going out more often, making new friends, enjoying life. And I might end up doing so for a few years, for as long as I'm happy with it. Maybe Leigh's way is best when you get asked such a question: blow it off. Indeed in my case it was premature as well. First time we talked. And yeah, it is a form of compliment, but like Leigh says, it hurts in a way as well. As if you've done something wrong by being attractive + single, having to explain yourself? When I see a gorgeous man, I think, "OMG!...What a beautiful specimen!"....If I am fortunate enough to spend time with him, get to know him, the questions concerning his availability will eventually answer themselves...As for flattery or ice breakers, there's got to be a million better lines, so I'm not buying that one either... Men who start out this way are usually hedging their bets...Until you get to know me, my reasons for being single, or on a dating site, or in a bar are none of your business...Oh, and don't bother asking me how many times I've been married unless you are planning to propose...  |
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Never tell a girl that she's beautiful. Tell her why that might be the case. The smart ones will always know the difference. Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end. Sometimes were in between, and not just setting for whatever... Two more who get "it".... 
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