Okay, so the short version of a rather long story is this:

I am seeing a wonderful guy. There are a few glitches, (age gap, difference of interests, blah blah blah) but I am more than willing to give this relationship a chance.

However, the huge issue for me is that he is too loving. Yes, I know that sounds totally crazy. But for some reason his constant onslaught of affection kind of intimidates me.

We have only been dating for a few weeks, and yet he acts like I can do no wrong. He even seems to hint at overtones of marriage and children~ eek!

I really just want to get to know this guy, relax, and have fun, but he seems so serious about "winning me over" that I feel kind of turned off.

So yes, I feel like the bad guy/emotionally challenged here. Any sage advice or similar experiences?

~A

Well im not there but how bout this!!!
How bout you have found that one person that really does love you and is willing to do anything to prove it!!
Or hes insecer<---ebonics!heheh

It seems to me that if you really want to give this relationship a shot..you need to tell him to slow down. If you keep silent, you will continue to withdraw from him. If he really likes you, he will understand and back off. If he gets mad...well...you haven't lost anything, because in your silence the relationship would end anyway...

look i dont know about the rest of you but looks like he has just fallen in love with you just give hime a chance and see what becomes of it

I don't know you or him, I have a couple or three theories. Either your intuition is telling you that he's trying too hard and he's not really sincere, or...
you don't feel worthy of being loved in this way. Or it just scares you. Look inside yourself and see which it is, if you really want to give it a chance, letting him know how you feel is a good idea.

Perhaps you are an absolute Goddess in his eye, and is just so smitten with you..

Maybe observe him amongst people he is close with, friends, family, is he this optimistic and affectionate with them too?

Some people are very comfortable expressing how they feel, others are a little more reserved...

Talk with him about it...you have a right, an order of balance, within a relationship, to act and to be treated in the way you are most comfortable with... be gentle though...

Thanks for all the good advice everyone :)

I learned years ago to trust my "little voice." Perhaps you can benefit from doing the same. Good luck.

calder...

First of all, if your that uncomfortable you should talk to him about it. For me...communication is a big thing in any relationship. You have to be able to tell him how you feel. If you feel smothered, by all means tell him.

If you let it slide..it can lead to other things that bother you and then it might seem endless. Your instincts will tell you when to approach him on this...

I hope it works out for the two of you...

Hi,

No......, it does not sound totally crazy. It really does sound like you are unsure about getting together with him as a couple, then it would probably be best not to move forward with him. Maybe it's your, "Women's Intuition", trust it.

Be honest with yourself, by keeping your feelings in perspective so that his immense love is not just "Guiltying" you into staying with him.

Obviously, your feelings for him are not the same, as his feelings for you. Otherwise, you would not be questioning yourself. I think he is on a "Love-Drug-High" or has the "Love-Bug" at the present time. Meaning, when a person throws around the "I Love You's" so quickly, and early in a relationship, it usually means that they are under the spell of the "Love Chemical". The chemical reaction in the brain does eventually even out and the reality of the relationship will come into focus for the both of you.

Also keep these words in mind, "Controlling, Jealousy, Unsecured, Un-Matured, and Obsessive Behavior", they may or may not, play a part in your situation.

Re-read "justosee36", remarks, because she's right on target !!!

Good Luck....................Benz !!!

welcome to the PROMO CAMPAIGNE darling....


it will last 3 months ...mark this date.


from when you began. then reality creeps in


and the fun begins

ya.....the honeymoon period.........then its all downhill from there!!!

If it were me...I'd ask him to slow down and give me some time to get to know him better. Sometimes when things go too fast...they don't last. Been there, done that.

If it were me...I'd ask him to slow down and give me some time to get to know him better. Sometimes when things go too fast...they don't last. Been there, done that.

If it were me, I'd ask him to slow down. I've found that relationships that go too fast...don't last.

JMO

wow, how'd that happen? Didn't think the first one posted...guess I was wrong! lol Sorry about that, people.

yes, be straight with the guy......does it work better when your honest with others???...make sure you are clear,,, guys heads are thicker,hints don't work.THE BEST WAY TO GET WHAT YOU DON'T WANT IS NOT ASKING FOR WHAT YOU DO WANT !!!!! woman seem to have a problem with this more-so then men.....go for it......don't stuff your feelings..............

Communicate this with him. If he cares for you as he says he does, he will be patient and understanding about your needs. But he can't do that if he doesn't know what they are.

This is almost a 6 year old problem. If the OP has not solved it by now, nothing anyone says here will.

I didn't even look at the date of the OP.