Why is it so difficult for females to bump things up from friendship to relationship?

Being a bestfriend is a relationship, and probably longer lasting than a romp in the hay..

Auwwkk! you were waiting for us to bump it up?

*looks guilty*

Whaaat?

The female is more sensitive to hurt. Unless I really trust a guy, I'd be a bit reserved too.

How do we know you want more when you keep flirting with our friends and punching us in the arm?

Commitment

ummmm that'd be a "lack of chemistry" issue
otherwise, it'd be ON before you could say,

"anybody get the number of that bus?!?"

I was wondering the same thing only with the guy

true there s1howhand

cause some women play games,, the others dont know what they want, or they are too far away is my take on it. maybe you should come to the lepers hangout and have a drink.

thumper :) cajun :) an no not all women play games but most all men do at least the ones i been finding do. i just want someone to like me as me as i will as them. everything else can fall in as it goes freindship is the best way to start. that is how me an my ex started out an till this day were just friends. now next would be honest an trust got to have that for it to work

Who knows? If she won't commit, she isn't the one...move on.

Maybe she doesn't feel the same about you as you do about her? Or maybe she is just scared? Sometimes when men feel they are being caught they become distant and end the relationship.
If there is a girl that your interested in, and you want it to go further, why don't you just ask her how she feels about you? Yea, it might hurt if she tells you she doesn't see you any other way but a friend. Maybe she's waiting for you to make the first move in that direction? But if it's just friends then be thankful you have that friendship with her. Really good friends are hard to find. If you truly love her, you'd be happy just to be around her and happy for her happiness.

is Guinuine still with this thread or did he bail?

think he bounced

just as hard for guys i think..

My take on it. I think a lot of women (ok, me and some of my friends) really know the value of having a good friend, be they male or female. We're afraid that if we bump up the relationship and it doesn't work on a romantic, we'll lose the friendship. I've risked it before, and it's twice as painful, you lose a boyfriend who you love, but worse, you lose your best friend in the process. Just my thoughts.

No, I am here. I was just sitting back and listening to the reponses. Many good ones. I just think if the friendship works so well and you know their is chemistry as well, why not give it a shot? I guess there is a lot when it comes to uncertainity if the relationship should fail.

I think women are just afraid of being hurt. Frienships can grow into more, BUT, I don't think there is anything wrong with playing it safe for a while...till you really get to know each other. Who wants to get hurt...I know I don't