Topic: father with custidy
caamken's photo
Sun 09/09/07 04:52 PM
Cincy it's coolyou have custody, Its a rare thing today. I also have custody of my daughters "what a challenge different topic" lol

But maybe it is the type of women you are pursueing.

cincy40's photo
Sun 09/09/07 04:55 PM
well now I know there is some one out there that doesnt mind a guy with custidy. Just need to find her in cincinnatilaugh
Thankyou to all the ladys that gave there input on this matter
Dave:smile:

cincy40's photo
Sun 09/09/07 04:58 PM
well I thought they were good people not found out different.
Also thanks to the guys that had inputblushing

Abracadabra's photo
Sun 09/09/07 05:04 PM
You’d have a hard time convincing me that this is genuinely the problem.

By that I simply mean that it’s not easy for anyone to find a partner.

I’ve never been married, I have no kids, I don’t play games, yet women often won’t even bother responding to my first email.

Trying to meet someone via the Internet is much more difficult than meeting them in person. The very nature of the internet creates a 'window shopping' atmosphere. This causes people to easily reject the 'goods' for two reasons:

One reason is that they haven’t really made a connection yet via cyberspace. We are insulated from things such as eye-contact, voice inflections, facial experiences, body language and a host of other subtleties that just can’t be sensed via computer hardware. You can't really know anyone that you havne't yet spent any quality time with.

The other reason is that on the Internet there are more profiles to choose from on the next shelf over, and maybe the Don Juan dolls will finally come in from back-order. Who knows?

So unless you’re the prefect image that a potential mate has in mind, chances are they’ll just keep on waking down the cybermarket isle hoping to find that perfect soulmate that no one else happened to stumble onto yet.

In short, the very nature of Internet dating sites breeds an atmosphere of unrealistic expectations.

So it’s really senseless to point to any single feature about yourself as being the source of the problem. It’s just the nature of the beast and it’s happening to everyone equally. (Unless they just coincidentally happen to be a Don Juan doll, or a mindless Barbie doll)

People aren’t typically looking for 'reality' on the Internet. Though many claim they are. All they are really doing is holding out the hope that finding a preconceived perfect soulmate is a realistic possibility.

Abracadabra's photo
Sun 09/09/07 05:07 PM
Cincy wrote:
“Just need to find her in cincinnati”

That’s the other thing. The closer a woman is located to you the less likely she will be to talk with you.

I think a lot of people are just on the internet to feed their hopes and dreams. As soon as something has the promise of becoming reality they back off.

TheLonelyWalker's photo
Sun 09/09/07 05:11 PM
Relationships are a hard thing to do.
Since each one of us different, it's really hard somebody to share a relationship.
However, I think that when we find somebody who seems to fit what we are looking for, we need not to be dominant.
I guess that flexibility is a good resource in a relationship.
Nobody is going to fit us perfectly, and i we won't fit anybody ever, but if we work out together those differences with an open minded.
I guess I can say that with real love anything is workable.
Nevertheless, love should not be the most weightable when we make a lifetime relationship.

Katertots37's photo
Sun 09/09/07 05:12 PM
I think it's more of a turn on that fathers WANT custody of their children...or even more visitations

no photo
Sun 09/09/07 05:12 PM

Abracadabra Wrote......

That’s the other thing. The closer a woman is located to you the less likely she will be to talk with you.

I think a lot of people are just on the internet to feed their hopes and dreams. As soon as something has the promise of becoming reality they back off.

I really think you nailed it with that statement...There are not many people here serious about dating.

cincy40's photo
Sun 09/09/07 05:14 PM
the only problem with your idea abracadabra is I just started on line because I have had this problem in the real world. that is why I started my profile with the fact that I do have my kids full time.and Im only looking close to home because I need to keep the kids in a stable enveronment. they have had too miny changes inthere lives since there mom left

Abracadabra's photo
Sun 09/09/07 05:25 PM
Cincy wrote:
“the only problem with your idea abracadabra is I just started on line because I have had this problem in the real world”

Well, maybe there is something more to it.

I only know that not having children doesn’t seem make much difference.

I had a similar type of problem in that most women I met were interested in travel and money whilst I am more interested in creating a more simple cozy home life.

I thought that coming onto the Internet might put me in contact with women who are more interested in a home-oriented lifestyle. My reasoning was that perhaps they stay home a lot and this is why I wasn’t meeting them in the real world so much. But it hasn’t panned out for me.

cincy40's photo
Sun 09/09/07 05:29 PM
I havent been on hear long enough to see if it will pan out for me.I hope it will but not holding my breath.But as I said before I lead my profile with the fact I have custidy.

nurjoyce's photo
Sun 09/09/07 09:30 PM
same reason there are a lot of guys that stay away from single moms!

SadieJ's photo
Sun 09/09/07 09:32 PM
I second that one Joyce...

no photo
Sun 09/09/07 09:34 PM
:heart: I was a single dad and had custidy of my two boys,,,it was just finding a lady who also had a child and her's needed a dad, and mine needed a mom,,,,so WE fell, and THEY had both..
Take your kids to the park and talk with the other moms there and maybe some of them will find YOU!!!flowerforyou bigsmile

no photo
Sun 09/09/07 09:34 PM
:heart: I was a single dad and had custidy of my two boys,,,it was just finding a lady who also had a child and her's needed a dad, and mine needed a mom,,,,so WE fell, and THEY had both..
Take your kids to the park and talk with the other moms there and maybe some of them will find YOU!!!flowerforyou bigsmile

nurjoyce's photo
Sun 09/09/07 09:38 PM
hey love the new pic

Puffins1958's photo
Sun 09/09/07 09:41 PM
I think it is great that you have custody of your daughters. I can agree that it must have been awful for them since their mother left. I am sure that it is not easy doing it alone. Relationship are hard enough as it is...your duaghters shouldn't be put in the middle of it all.

flowerforyou flowerforyou

Tanna's photo
Sun 09/09/07 10:06 PM
I prefer men who have custody of their kids... They understand the commitment it takes to be a single parent.


cincy40's photo
Mon 09/10/07 02:48 AM
sadie and joyce just so you know my daughters had a brother I married a woman with a child and raised him like he was my own for 10 yrs so some guys arent like that

GG2's photo
Mon 09/10/07 06:23 AM
Hey mister you're a right attractive fella, why don't you look into the "Parents without Partners" thing?