Yeah I saw that as a red flag too. But I felt like findout where it was going to go. I'm crazy that way. I'll probably spend a lot of time reformating and reinstalling Windows because of that. hahaha

Ha, Izzy, you sound like you're easily entertained. That's a good quality to have.

I go on facebook and message random people and tell them to come talk to me here because I am not comfortable with facebook but they never do.

Cowards, the lot of them....

Sometimes it depends on my mood or how tired I am. I find sometimes when I'm tired I do much dumber things then when I'm more awake. I bet that's kind of like being drunk. lol

It probably was just a coincidence like being parked there or something, but it did startle me a little. I'm not really one for taking those kind of risks. I prefer to believe the best of people, but I'm not stupid.



Thank you, Izzy. I know it's a little sad that I almost feel like I need those assurances that it's OK to be cautious. A sign of the world we're living in? Just look at Gossipmpm's post that basically says I should be grateful for the attention.



@Fear: Nope, I'm not into either.



@PacificStar48: I only have his first name to go off. People at work are aware of what he looks like, so I'm sure someone will let me know if he turns up again. At least it's a public place! Certainly not as bad as the guy that pulled up in his car twice over a 2 year period and going on about how he'd seen me around, which days and times, which route I took and how he wanted to take me out. Don't think that guy realised I recognised him though... that was really odd. Shame I wasn't close enough to his car to get the REG - I'd have reported that!

Maybe it was. If it happens again you'll know for sure. I just hope he doesn't find where you live. If he shows up there then you really need to file a report. I would say you could take the guys phone number and the police may be able to find out who he is without much effort. Especially if he's on parole or probation, He would have to have contact info for his officer to get a hold of him if he needed too. As Star said it's better to get this documented now rather then later.

Is this why men tend not to approach women much these days? For fear of being considered a nut-job? XD

I kind of feel bad that he may just be very lonely or feeling a little desperate and just trying to reach out to a friendly face... only to find it's not reciprocated in the manner he wishes.

I didn't really sense any malicious intention from him, so I don't think I'm going to pursue the situation in terms of reporting him. I just didn't feel comfortable, that's all. I know that sounds conflicting, and it's difficult to explain...

Seems he was scared of u to leave the number in a paper... if he had been a real male he would have come to you and said it and saved us from one post here

Don't feel bad. People with issues are the ones who have a hard time approaching others. But those issues can manifest in scary ways. You kind of make me think of my sister who is pretty friendly and because of that guys would ask her out because they took it as flirtatious. I think this is a problem for a lot of people. They have this conception that if a person is nice to them it means they are interested in them.

I say people because I once had a girl who asked me out most likely because I was just being nice. But I couldn't imagine really developing a relationship with this person and I expected they had the idea it would go further then I ever thought it would so I pretty much rejected the advance, Later when I told my sister about it she kind of griped at me for the way I handled it and then eventually mentioned that the girl had emotional issues. She had told her she might break out into sudden fits of crying and that (if I recall) she was taking medication for it. To me that seems like a crisis averted for me and I think it's odd my sis was originally upset with me when I didn't accept this person's advance.

Lets just say that crazy isn't always really evident. That sometimes it's little things people do that make you uncomfortable and it's those things you should probably pay attention to.

This one female comedian talked about being at a party and she was getting ready to go home when this guy after talking to her for a bit asked her for a ride home. She replied she didn't know him and so she wasn't comfortable with doing that. The guy's reply was "You would be a lot prettier if you were nicer." Her thoughts were something like, gee thanks. But I don't know how important me being pretty is going to be when I'm a head rolling around in the trunk of my car.

I was just thinking about that joke because of this thread and figured it fit pretty well.

It is a shame that you can't really know you're right unless you're injured or dead though...

In other news, random guy I liked tonight didn't seem interested (may have been 'involved'?). Really young guy who was a pushy chav was interested... but not my type (what with being pushy, for a start). Was dancing with a random guy and had a laugh, then he started complaining that women ignored him... seems I'm not a woman. What's going on in the world?

*sigh*

Oh well, have to be at worrk in like... 7 hours. twatbags.

Guys are getting dumber.

wel ya in that way you can say dat, dat particular boy leaves his number in evry place he goes and takes chances to talk with girls. Another thing is he is shy to talk to girls face to face that is why he has left his number on the table without even knowing your name

wel ya in that way you can say dat, dat particular boy leaves his number in evry place he goes and takes chances to talk with girls. Another thing is he is shy to talk to girls face to face that is why he has left his number on the table without even knowing your name

If you had a crystal ball that let you see into the future you could know for sure. Maybe if you find a magic lamp in your bag you can use a wish to find out. hahaha

As long as it is not the one she promised me.

Generally speaking had this guy gone about the initial approach a little different I would have a lot different vibe about it.

When I go out to dinner with friends if a guy sends over a drink, dessert, or just tips the waiter to give me a business card with a name and phone number rather than come up and intrude on my group I actually prefer that.

Then I will smile and nod and usually check it out with in 24 hours. With a landline number and a name for a buck you find out a lot. I have never had a legit guy be offended that I verified he was who he said he was.

Most people are smart enough to have and email address on their business card now days and it is easy to send them mine with a very generic "Thank you for your interest lets chat during our lunch hour. The majority of the people I meet are more than glad to sign on Mingle or a couple of business sites to see the profile, read an assortment of posts and start conversations. Lot of international travel comes through Sacramento being California state capital so I have dated some interesting people. I just not really wanted to get into a commuter romance even when the guy can afford it because there is enough local talent.

What I took affront to was he was waiting in the parking lot.

Had he even left a message in your "club" for you that he would be at a near by restaurant if I wanted to come in with friends to have coffee after work I would have seen that as normal. But with out warning to be in the parking lot? Nope, NADA, NOT Happening. I would think that the business has his face on security tape. I know even years ago when I owned a club/resturant if someone was pestering my employees at work I would have their picture up in the employee only area fast with a DO NOT give this customer ANY INFO or Service. Stalking an employee in a parking lot would get them "stomped" and more than likely paramedics called. Wasn't much need to call the cops on private property.

Any guy with half a brain knows you don't hassle someone at work. That is pretty lame. It is almost universal anyone who tries to do anything more than say I am interested in chatting with you out side of work, leaving a number and full name, and totally dropping the subject is falling on his own sword in my world.

I don't even particularly like receiving gifts or flowers at work. I don't mix business and pleasure. My private life is VERY private.

haha. He seems that way.



He knew my name as I have to wear a name tag at work, which is how he was able to specify to my colleague who the number was for.



Exactly my thoughts! I'm happy to talk to random people, but it is my work space and I don't like that he's involved colleagues in his approach. Especially since I didn't really have the opportunity to talk to him. I'm not calling someone when I don't know them. I don't even give my number out on nights out unless I get a really good feeling about someone.

And I'm so private that I've been at this new work place about 6 weeks and very few of them even knew I was single!