I made it plain to my Daughter long ago before her 18th birthday that i was on her 18th birthday her " "Best Friend"and not a parent anymore, meaning that i would always be there for her and try to help out all i could! Anything she does from then on nomatter what was her responsibility from then on! That i would watch out for her well being without interfering(much)! My Son-in-law got the same talk before they married with emphasis to it! My Grandchildren know if they disrespect me or their Parents what the consequences are as well as i can turn Daddy and Mommy over my knee too! "They are all spoiled to a point" In saying this maby you need to take this girlfriend aside and let her know your feeling to maby educate her more on real life? I would really hate to see her become a "relative" then more have animosity towards you? "Just a suggestion"You do seem like a nice person!

On the serious side I could be rude but try not to be. I try and think before I speak. Sometimes I am not so good at this. Like when my temper gets the best of me. I work on controlling my temper its not always so easy. Some people just rub me the wrong way.I try and stay away from those people as a rule of thumb.

My father always told me that it was far easier to keep from committing a sin when we consciously avoid the near occasion there of. He also said if you have nothing nice to say keep your mouth shut. I learned a lot from my pop about diplomacy. Of course my dad is the type of man who could explain anything I could've ever asked him in great detail in just about any language I wanted to hear it in and did. My brothers and I used to call them snickers talks cause when he sat us down for a good talking to we weren't going anywhere for a while.

One major thing I learned was having and using diplomacy skills are very useful.I try to put them to the best use I can. But on another hand I am a bit of a ball buster. Kinda how I grew up with my brothers. We throw insults back and forth at each other like a game and sometimes I see a one liner or joke waiting to happen and I just can't resist. Sometimes I can go a little overboard. Thats the problem with having fast wit. I end up wanting to use it.

Yes, I know that feeling very well from my Father Disrespect was not in his vocabulary! I've had those talks with him and believe me when i say this,I would rather of had a whipping! His Voice could cut you to the soul without shouting! But there was always that leather shaving strap to put the emphasis on Good!! It had 3 straps in one to hone a streightrazor he always shaved with and popped more that hurt never did have a welt,just a red azz! If i used any of those 4 letter words that most do on here Guaranteed i wouldn't of had TEETH in my mouth neither!! TRUE STORY and i wouldn't consider it Child Abuse neither as most on here, All you have to do is go through the forums and read. disrespect And selfrespect are shown a lot!!

Yeah and look what it created? An angry hypocrite, who wants to dish it out and can't take it back? I admit my faults, as im far from perfect. Maybe you should look at yourself in the mirror and see what I see? A man with a lot of anger inside?Plain and simple!

I answered you and gave opinions,not threats! Your abilities don't impress me any and if you want to see hate filled opinions with disrespect to others read what you have said in these topics!! I've shown you no disrespect in any of my statement! As well as share some of your feelings towards an abusive,Wife both physically and mentally towards me and i walked away to raise my daughter myself!!No i don't take the Childish namecalling or other approaches you use to impress others or have others stand up for me in any form on here! So now if you want a confrontation showing "size matters" look elsewhere i won't be your pawn!!Words and threats are easily put on paper anyhow!! I won't turn you into the forums nor block you , but this is not allowed here and you are starting to agitate me" just a little"as a fly would!

Maybe you should read the words of your topic? I've yet to see you be anything, but those 2 words? You don't impress me either. Just the opposite in fact! I've saw you jump the gun, not read posts and throw your 2 cents in yesterday, as you followed me round the threads? Why? Then you're throwing in my face that you were ' Special Forces? ' So what! Was that meant to impress me or intimidate me? Yeah right! I don't care if you're King Kong? You talk down to me and show me contempt, you'll be shown the same in return! Simple as!

Yes there are all kinds of different people on the forums here, just like in real life. Just like real life, you will get on with some better than others. If someone else is overbearing, rude, or snobbish you are best to ignore as fighting is not allowed on the threads. We all have our moments when we may not be at our %100 best. Please keep that in mind also. I find it best not be too judgmental about others and not take anything on here too seriously. More serious conversations are prolly best left to PM.

It takes time to get to know others. Welcome! If you stay around, I am sure you will get to know new friends

I knew about personal attacks, and I don't initiate them. However, I did not know about the rule that we cant defend ourselves.

interesting,, guess I have to participate less.....lol

I am normally respectful, patient, and empathetic to a flaw,,,,but I also get to a point where I give what I get,,,,,,, without childish namecalling or vulgarity though, I try to address the person directly about their behavior or answer the ridiculousness of their attack


though its a case by case basis that can take a while

I agree with Sweet...Plus, for obvious reasons, social norms are different on the net...In fact, since anonymity has a tendency to produce a false sense of bravado, other than enforcement of forum rules, the only social norms that exist in cyber are those we, as individuals, pick and choose to apply and adhere to at the time we post...These social norms are very flexible, highly conditional, and not necessarily what someone else might choose or consider appropriate....Keeping that in mind, when I post I think about it like I'm standing in a very crowded room with a bunch of people who don't know me shouting at the top of my lungs ...It's a mental picture that never fails to slow me down and give me a little time to think about what I am getting ready to post and how it might affect ALL these people who don't know me....

I think that is a good point of clarification...if we defend our point if view ...that must be OK, right? So just cannot return a personal attack in kind I guess??? That's how I interpret it, just no personal attacks back at the attacker

I plan on staying around for awhile since i'm the one that started this post and should monitor it to the end. As for some Childish namecalling people i plan on ignoring them as advised by you and others here!! I'm not going to escalate an argument any further than it has already went! Hopefully others join in as well but "Be Good"! This may give them that message,then we can finish in peace,or they may be kicked off for awhile when caught? Anyway please excuse their Childish behavior while participating in My post!!

That's a good practice. I feel it took me awhile to learn to communicate in this cyber realm and awhile to realize how things are said can really color or pervert ones original intention.

What i've said is Fact never to intimidate anyone on here. I was in the Army Special Forces but that's my burden to bear and not anyone else's. Anyhow thank you and missharmony for joining my post!

I am locking this topic. Everyone need to refresh themselves on the forum rules

Kim