This is a great topic. It says so much about people we come in contact with in our daily lives. And just like in real life when I come in contact with person I find arrogant and inconsiderate I avoid them like the plague. My grandson is dating a girl who never knows when to keep her mouth shut, it is always about how wonderful she is. I've made it understood to family that I have no time for her, when she tries to engage me in conversation I give her a deaf ear and walk away.

On the serious side I could be rude but try not to be. I try and think before I speak. Sometimes I am not so good at this. Like when my temper gets the best of me. I work on controlling my temper its not always so easy. Some people just rub me the wrong way.I try and stay away from those people as a rule of thumb.

My father always told me that it was far easier to keep from committing a sin when we consciously avoid the near occasion there of. He also said if you have nothing nice to say keep your mouth shut. I learned a lot from my pop about diplomacy. Of course my dad is the type of man who could explain anything I could've ever asked him in great detail in just about any language I wanted to hear it in and did. My brothers and I used to call them snickers talks cause when he sat us down for a good talking to we weren't going anywhere for a while.

One major thing I learned was having and using diplomacy skills are very useful.I try to put them to the best use I can. But on another hand I am a bit of a ball buster. Kinda how I grew up with my brothers. We throw insults back and forth at each other like a game and sometimes I see a one liner or joke waiting to happen and I just can't resist. Sometimes I can go a little overboard. Thats the problem with having fast wit. I end up wanting to use it.

Yeah and look what it created? An angry hypocrite, who wants to dish it out and can't take it back? I admit my faults, as im far from perfect. Maybe you should look at yourself in the mirror and see what I see? A man with a lot of anger inside?Plain and simple!

Since joining mingle i have been told to join in the forums to get to know members and let them know more about me. This i have been doing as well as starting my own questions on here. Just seems to me that some come on a post to be impolite or arrogant to show their stature they think they have here(old and young) to ruin and disrupt conversations"starting trouble" Sometimes to the point that a member just gives up and deletes their profile? Or you can be nice explaining to a member about situations,and about accused of"talking down" to them? A lot of members Have been Nice to me here,Some are Friends. Others impolite,arrogant,snobbish,overbearing,rude, seems their importance in life just includes themselves "selfcentered" When i meet people i've never met before"i say Hi" not turn up my nose and keep going. Or meet a man for the first time and act like i'm a "BIG MAN"? That's why this post started for ME to find out who YOU are ?
YOU to know Me more?

And if i find new Friends its Good!!

Plain and simple...post a topic and you will get all kinds of opinions. Whether you agree or not. Making posts directed at members instead of the topic isn't tolerated

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Lets do another study? To me i'm being polite if i answer you or join in a forum that i can be comfortable in to give and receive knowledge about!! Lots of times some arrogant members post snide remarks to me,or about other members that also join in on that particular subject? To me this is rude and uncalled !! Yes i am also guilty of sometimes interpreting others answers and"in that forum" i apologise to them!! I hope all have some fun with this and get to know others better!!

I have found that some people just like to argue. You just have to really watch those people and when you see them post, ignore them. I try to stay away from the drama because I am not here to get sucked into anything. Some people get off on being rude and thinking they know it all. I usually just walk away and shake my head...oh yes and say things to myself that I can't repeat!!

I knew about personal attacks, and I don't initiate them. However, I did not know about the rule that we cant defend ourselves.

interesting,, guess I have to participate less.....lol

Yes there are all kinds of different people on the forums here, just like in real life. Just like real life, you will get on with some better than others. If someone else is overbearing, rude, or snobbish you are best to ignore as fighting is not allowed on the threads. We all have our moments when we may not be at our %100 best. Please keep that in mind also. I find it best not be too judgmental about others and not take anything on here too seriously. More serious conversations are prolly best left to PM.

It takes time to get to know others. Welcome! If you stay around, I am sure you will get to know new friends

I agree with Sweet...Plus, for obvious reasons, social norms are different on the net...In fact, since anonymity has a tendency to produce a false sense of bravado, other than enforcement of forum rules, the only social norms that exist in cyber are those we, as individuals, pick and choose to apply and adhere to at the time we post...These social norms are very flexible, highly conditional, and not necessarily what someone else might choose or consider appropriate....Keeping that in mind, when I post I think about it like I'm standing in a very crowded room with a bunch of people who don't know me shouting at the top of my lungs ...It's a mental picture that never fails to slow me down and give me a little time to think about what I am getting ready to post and how it might affect ALL these people who don't know me....

I agree with Sweet...Plus, for obvious reasons, social norms are different on the net...In fact, since anonymity has a tendency to produce a false sense of bravado, other than enforcement of forum rules, the only social norms that exist in cyber are those we, as individuals, pick and choose to apply and adhere to at the time we post...These social norms are very flexible, highly conditional, and not necessarily what someone else might choose or consider appropriate....Keeping that in mind, when I post I think about it like I'm standing in a very crowded room with a bunch of people who don't know me shouting at the top of my lungs ...It's a mental picture that never fails to slow me down and give me a little time to think about what I am getting ready to post and how it might affect ALL these people who don't know me....