I messaged a girl in my area. she's active here and looking for a good guy. She replies Thanks for the message but I recently got married. WTF You ever thought about updating your profile? What's your husband think about you being on a dating site? Hows that make me feel? Bad that how

Maybe she didn't get married at all, but just told you that as you live in the area.
I did a similar thing myself not so long ago, saying I had met someone, as the guy knew where I lived and I didn't trust him. There was something really weird about him. Just a form of self-protection.
And saying you recently got married can be a way to get rid of someone quickly, without any to-do. Not the nicest way maybe, but effective.

Also, she may not have been on here, or she has friends on here she messages, but received an email update from you and thought she best be polite and let you know. She may have even met her husband on here and decided to stay to share her wisdom with fellow minglers (as some do). She could have just ignored your message. You did put in your rate profile thread that people don't message back...

If she is married then update your profile. Don't lie you can say Thanks but i'm not interested

Why do you make such a big deal out of it? You sent one message, she declined, however whatever, who cares?
Move on. There's that many ppl on here, most won't be interested. Which is cool if you're looking for that special ONE.
If you get hung-up every time this happens, you'll have an ulcer before Christmas.

@Crystal--OP is posting a topic which invites answers and as long as he follows forum rules, he is free to post whatever and whenever he chooses. I don't see a "big deal" being made here, just asking for opinions.

@OP I think the profile should have been updated or removed from the sight if what she said was the truth. If she was only "not interested" she should have just said so. Unfortunately, in cyberspace, any possible answer could have been forthcoming--sad but true.

What indicates that the woman was recently active here?

her reply perhaps?

AquaDave, I would not let this get you so upset. If it was your wife or girlfriend then yes I could see you being really upset. However at least she told you in the first email and didnt string you along that would of been more upsetting as well. perhaps she was emailing her friends on here.. and forgot to change it, however I dont understand why you would not email her with these questions? maybe you did? if so I would hope she had enough respect for her man to go and change her status.. I wish you better luck next time..

Whether she was being truthful or just saying that to not hurt your feelings really is just one email on a internet dating site. You will find a lot of dishonest answers on the internet.You sir however are honest and expect the same in return, good for you its a very good quality to have and I'm sure someone nice will take note of that. Good luck in your search!

@ Mrs Robinson @ crystal
Was there something deleted that I missed here?
it seem the OP was asking for an opinion and
Crystal just gave him some???

I think we have to be careful about telling others how to manage their online accounts. It's really not anything that you can control. But if she reads your thread, it might give her a good idea to fix things, so good for you there :)

She perhaps has been too busy to worry about her profile. We do have lives off of here yanno...lol

You did not get the results you wanted. That's unfortunate, move on.

Wow Crystal, I never took you for a liar but nice atempt at justifying it there by saying that the guy was creepy and of course, as a woman in a man's world you have to worry about your safety and can't simply tell him to F off.

1 I don't message creepy and rude. It's hi I'm dave and something in common relating to profile

2 Don't lie, ignore the message or say thanks but no thanks

3 If you're married change your profile or suspend it.

As far as the replies I can't see anyone supporting a liar, if you have friends here I'm sure they're on FaceBook or email. I know it's a one and done message, but you women sit here and cry about the creeps (you have all right to) women constantly say I want honesty and no games So who's the liar and gamer? It hurts my feelings getting lied to. and it works both ways. There are some ligament guys out there like me. So all you women out there be honest and no games

I disagree, I don't think anyones obligated to update their profile on other peoples schedule,

it took two minutes to message and two minutes to say no thanks, whatever the reason,, bottom line is it was a no thanks and the person was honest about the reason,,,

Aquadave.. I feel bad for you that the lady was probably just not interested.. BUT at least you did get that, a response!
So many of us are left to wonder? Does he/she not like me? Am I not his/her type. Why aren't they interested?
I know some in this forum will say.. " Whatever.. it's his/her loss" I wonder about it... I don't dwell on it, but I wonder.

Really? are yall kidding me? It takes 2 min to change a profile and it's ok to lie like that? So she's not interested no reason to lie. If she's really married, you must keep in mind if so she just got married still extreme newlywed, why is she here? It's not I'm upset over the non-interest I'm upset over the response. I don't like liars or cheaters she's either one or both. I bet if I was a woman posting this It'd be a whole different story. Over and over I read (yes I read yall's profiles) be honest and no games, Do men not deserve the same?

This is not my first dating site. I've never received a reply like that

And to think...
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