Topic: What about you & why?
SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Mon 11/25/13 11:40 AM







What makes me Attractive/sexy?



Modesty....pitchfork







That's my favorite quality in another person, modesty and humility. Very attractive.


Same here Paintbigsmile ....It's a hell of a turn on too....drool


Ditto on modesty! drinker :thumbsup:

Beauty physical or otherwise should be in the eyes of the beholder. Different people behold different things. Ego inflation is not necessary for self-esteem. JMHO happy :thumbsup:


Exactly. I hate it when a guy introduces himself as hot or good-looking, my reaction is, according to who?laugh

That's a completely different scenario from being asked directly what is sexy and attractive about yourself.
I find it most amazing and somewhat amusing that a number of people come up with "modesty". I don't find it modest at all if you cannot even come up with what you find attractive about yourself. There's nothing wrong with knowing this, being able to tell about your strong points - without being arrogant.
Maybe it's a cultural difference, my English ex partner always came up with the argument of it being arrogant when I said I was good at something (regardless what it was). Why is it arrogant? If I'm good at baking cakes (which I'm not by the way) or have great boobs (which I do), why is it arrogant to say so? Should I play it down, pretend, which is dishonest?
If you don't even know what is sexy and attractive about yourself, how can you present yourself in the outside dating-world?
One thing you learn when you do intuitive/personal/spiritual development and growth is learn to be empowered. And an empowered being can also voice what is good about him WITHOUT being cocky or arrogant. Nothing wrong with it. Someone that knows him/herself is attractive.
Modesty is invented for keeping ppl small, not empowered. We're reared to believe it is wrong, which doesn't mean to say it IS wrong.

Phew, time for coffee

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Mon 11/25/13 11:46 AM
Edited by KiK2me on Mon 11/25/13 11:47 AM
YEAH !
{I think you have SEXXY b(@)(@)bs and legs too !}
..biggrin
:banana:

MAN WE'RE PRETTY !


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Mon 11/25/13 11:50 AM
I don't mind when someone points out their talents or skills. I can admit that I am a talented artist and writer, but I would never boast about how good-looking I am. I think it's better if someone else points that out, and I'd really rather be known for my skills instead of my looks.

To me, beauty is relative, so what is good-looking to one person won't be to another. Artistic and writing talent can be measured, cooking skill can be measured and so on. Beauty varies from culture to culture, and region to region; ie. I live in an area where 98% of the population is unattractive to me, based on what my conception of beauty is. A person may think they look good, but if the other person doesn't agree, what is the point? It's fine to have high self-esteem, I believe everyone should, I just think it's tacky to brag about looks, just my opinion.

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Mon 11/25/13 11:55 AM
Edited by KiK2me on Mon 11/25/13 11:56 AM
^^^{She's pretty}

:wink:

larsson71's photo
Mon 11/25/13 11:59 AM
I'm not the best at football ( soccer ) but I am good at it as I used to play semi-pro when I was younger and I am a good Carpenter and Roofer. I was also a good Dad, cos my son told me so. I can also be a good pain in the arse, but at least I admit it! laugh laugh

dcastelmissy's photo
Mon 11/25/13 12:00 PM

I don't mind when someone points out their talents or skills. I can admit that I am a talented artist and writer, but I would never boast about how good-looking I am. I think it's better if someone else points that out, and I'd really rather be known for my skills instead of my looks.

To me, beauty is relative, so what is good-looking to one person won't be to another. Artistic and writing talent can be measured, cooking skill can be measured and so on. Beauty varies from culture to culture, and region to region; ie. I live in an area where 98% of the population is unattractive to me, based on what my conception of beauty is. A person may think they look good, but if the other person doesn't agree, what is the point? It's fine to have high self-esteem, I believe everyone should, I just think it's tacky to brag about looks, just my opinion.


I have to agree with Paintecards 100% here. Reflects my sentiments exactly. Also JMO and others are free to differ. :thumbsup:

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Mon 11/25/13 12:02 PM
^^^Pretty

flowerforyou

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Kevincanuck's photo
Mon 11/25/13 12:03 PM
I'm Canadian. Nuff' said.

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Mon 11/25/13 12:06 PM

I'm Canadian. Nuff' said.


Indeed.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Mon 11/25/13 12:09 PM

I don't mind when someone points out their talents or skills. I can admit that I am a talented artist and writer, but I would never boast about how good-looking I am. I think it's better if someone else points that out, and I'd really rather be known for my skills instead of my looks.

To me, beauty is relative, so what is good-looking to one person won't be to another. Artistic and writing talent can be measured, cooking skill can be measured and so on. Beauty varies from culture to culture, and region to region; ie. I live in an area where 98% of the population is unattractive to me, based on what my conception of beauty is. A person may think they look good, but if the other person doesn't agree, what is the point? It's fine to have high self-esteem, I believe everyone should, I just think it's tacky to brag about looks, just my opinion.

Sure beauty is relative. But that's has nothing to do with the question posted here by Lionsbrew. And also nothing to do with boasting. No one asked anyone to boast.
We were asked to tell what we think is attractive and sexy about ourselves. I actually think it is a bluddy good question as we are so brainwashed to be modest and NOT mention anything that is good about ourselves (as this is received as boasting/arrogant in our society). This runs so deep that most of us cannot even accept a compliment properly, most people play it down "Oh, it was nothing!", that kind of thing instead of saying "Thank you, really nice of you to say so!"
There's something really screwed up in our society if we can't even say "I'm good at ..." or "I feel my .... are attractive" without being judged --> arrogant b**ch or @ss!

So technically we are arrogant if we voice what we feel is good (looking) about ourselves, so we don't do it. And if someone else mentions it, we play it down. Totally ridiculous if you think about this! Basically we are f***ed if we do and f***ed if we don't.

We're not measuring here, not comparing, not judging. It's just what do YOU feel is great about you. Think Lionsbrew explained it pretty clearly in the OP. Shame so few people actually dare / are willing to simply reply.
Knowing your assets is not arrogant unless you are arrogant.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Mon 11/25/13 12:09 PM

YEAH !
{I think you have SEXXY b(@)(@)bs and legs too !}
..biggrin
:banana:

MAN WE'RE PRETTY !



lol

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Mon 11/25/13 12:10 PM








What makes me Attractive/sexy?



Modesty....pitchfork







That's my favorite quality in another person, modesty and humility. Very attractive.


Same here Paintbigsmile ....It's a hell of a turn on too....drool


Ditto on modesty! drinker :thumbsup:

Beauty physical or otherwise should be in the eyes of the beholder. Different people behold different things. Ego inflation is not necessary for self-esteem. JMHO happy :thumbsup:


Exactly. I hate it when a guy introduces himself as hot or good-looking, my reaction is, according to who?laugh

That's a completely different scenario from being asked directly what is sexy and attractive about yourself.
I find it most amazing and somewhat amusing that a number of people come up with "modesty". I don't find it modest at all if you cannot even come up with what you find attractive about yourself. There's nothing wrong with knowing this, being able to tell about your strong points - without being arrogant.
Maybe it's a cultural difference, my English ex partner always came up with the argument of it being arrogant when I said I was good at something (regardless what it was). Why is it arrogant? If I'm good at baking cakes (which I'm not by the way) or have great boobs (which I do), why is it arrogant to say so? Should I play it down, pretend, which is dishonest?
If you don't even know what is sexy and attractive about yourself, how can you present yourself in the outside dating-world?
One thing you learn when you do intuitive/personal/spiritual development and growth is learn to be empowered. And an empowered being can also voice what is good about him WITHOUT being cocky or arrogant. Nothing wrong with it. Someone that knows him/herself is attractive.
Modesty is invented for keeping ppl small, not empowered. We're reared to believe it is wrong, which doesn't mean to say it IS wrong.

Phew, time for coffee


Understand, but I think it's more about personalities than culture and being modest does not mean you are oblivious to your strengths (or weaknesses:wink: ), it could mean you are not comfortable talking about them in front of a crowd, it might mean you are a person who likes to let people form their own opinion(s) about you .....That's where I fall, I just don't feel comfortable singing my own praises, even when asked to do so and compliments mean so much more to me when I don't question the sincerity...The only time I will do it if I'm asked is during a job interview because I understand the relevance....

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Mon 11/25/13 12:11 PM









What makes me Attractive/sexy?



Modesty....pitchfork







That's my favorite quality in another person, modesty and humility. Very attractive.


Same here Paintbigsmile ....It's a hell of a turn on too....drool


Ditto on modesty! drinker :thumbsup:

Beauty physical or otherwise should be in the eyes of the beholder. Different people behold different things. Ego inflation is not necessary for self-esteem. JMHO happy :thumbsup:


Exactly. I hate it when a guy introduces himself as hot or good-looking, my reaction is, according to who?laugh

That's a completely different scenario from being asked directly what is sexy and attractive about yourself.
I find it most amazing and somewhat amusing that a number of people come up with "modesty". I don't find it modest at all if you cannot even come up with what you find attractive about yourself. There's nothing wrong with knowing this, being able to tell about your strong points - without being arrogant.
Maybe it's a cultural difference, my English ex partner always came up with the argument of it being arrogant when I said I was good at something (regardless what it was). Why is it arrogant? If I'm good at baking cakes (which I'm not by the way) or have great boobs (which I do), why is it arrogant to say so? Should I play it down, pretend, which is dishonest?
If you don't even know what is sexy and attractive about yourself, how can you present yourself in the outside dating-world?
One thing you learn when you do intuitive/personal/spiritual development and growth is learn to be empowered. And an empowered being can also voice what is good about him WITHOUT being cocky or arrogant. Nothing wrong with it. Someone that knows him/herself is attractive.
Modesty is invented for keeping ppl small, not empowered. We're reared to believe it is wrong, which doesn't mean to say it IS wrong.

Phew, time for coffee


Understand, but I think it's more about personalities than culture and being modest does not mean you are oblivious to your strengths (or weaknesses:wink: ), it could mean you are not comfortable talking about them in front of a crowd, it might mean you are a person who likes to let people form their own opinion(s) about you .....That's where I fall, I just don't feel comfortable singing my own praises, even when asked to do so and compliments mean so much more to me when I don't question the sincerity...The only time I will do it if I'm asked is during a job interview because I understand the relevance....


:thumbsup:

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Mon 11/25/13 12:14 PM









What makes me Attractive/sexy?



Modesty....pitchfork







That's my favorite quality in another person, modesty and humility. Very attractive.


Same here Paintbigsmile ....It's a hell of a turn on too....drool


Ditto on modesty! drinker :thumbsup:

Beauty physical or otherwise should be in the eyes of the beholder. Different people behold different things. Ego inflation is not necessary for self-esteem. JMHO happy :thumbsup:


Exactly. I hate it when a guy introduces himself as hot or good-looking, my reaction is, according to who?laugh

That's a completely different scenario from being asked directly what is sexy and attractive about yourself.
I find it most amazing and somewhat amusing that a number of people come up with "modesty". I don't find it modest at all if you cannot even come up with what you find attractive about yourself. There's nothing wrong with knowing this, being able to tell about your strong points - without being arrogant.
Maybe it's a cultural difference, my English ex partner always came up with the argument of it being arrogant when I said I was good at something (regardless what it was). Why is it arrogant? If I'm good at baking cakes (which I'm not by the way) or have great boobs (which I do), why is it arrogant to say so? Should I play it down, pretend, which is dishonest?
If you don't even know what is sexy and attractive about yourself, how can you present yourself in the outside dating-world?
One thing you learn when you do intuitive/personal/spiritual development and growth is learn to be empowered. And an empowered being can also voice what is good about him WITHOUT being cocky or arrogant. Nothing wrong with it. Someone that knows him/herself is attractive.
Modesty is invented for keeping ppl small, not empowered. We're reared to believe it is wrong, which doesn't mean to say it IS wrong.

Phew, time for coffee


Understand, but I think it's more about personalities than culture and being modest does not mean you are oblivious to your strengths (or weaknesses:wink: ), it could mean you are not comfortable talking about them in front of a crowd, it might mean you are a person who likes to let people form their own opinion(s) about you .....That's where I fall, I just don't feel comfortable singing my own praises, even when asked to do so and compliments mean so much more to me when I don't question the sincerity...The only time I will do it if I'm asked is during a job interview because I understand the relevance....

Thank for being open, appreciate that.
Thing is, is not feeling comfy about it the same as being modest?
Not judging what you're saying, just thinking out loud, lol

dcastelmissy's photo
Mon 11/25/13 12:15 PM










What makes me Attractive/sexy?



Modesty....pitchfork







That's my favorite quality in another person, modesty and humility. Very attractive.


Same here Paintbigsmile ....It's a hell of a turn on too....drool


Ditto on modesty! drinker :thumbsup:

Beauty physical or otherwise should be in the eyes of the beholder. Different people behold different things. Ego inflation is not necessary for self-esteem. JMHO happy :thumbsup:


Exactly. I hate it when a guy introduces himself as hot or good-looking, my reaction is, according to who?laugh

That's a completely different scenario from being asked directly what is sexy and attractive about yourself.
I find it most amazing and somewhat amusing that a number of people come up with "modesty". I don't find it modest at all if you cannot even come up with what you find attractive about yourself. There's nothing wrong with knowing this, being able to tell about your strong points - without being arrogant.
Maybe it's a cultural difference, my English ex partner always came up with the argument of it being arrogant when I said I was good at something (regardless what it was). Why is it arrogant? If I'm good at baking cakes (which I'm not by the way) or have great boobs (which I do), why is it arrogant to say so? Should I play it down, pretend, which is dishonest?
If you don't even know what is sexy and attractive about yourself, how can you present yourself in the outside dating-world?
One thing you learn when you do intuitive/personal/spiritual development and growth is learn to be empowered. And an empowered being can also voice what is good about him WITHOUT being cocky or arrogant. Nothing wrong with it. Someone that knows him/herself is attractive.
Modesty is invented for keeping ppl small, not empowered. We're reared to believe it is wrong, which doesn't mean to say it IS wrong.

Phew, time for coffee


Understand, but I think it's more about personalities than culture and being modest does not mean you are oblivious to your strengths (or weaknesses:wink: ), it could mean you are not comfortable talking about them in front of a crowd, it might mean you are a person who likes to let people form their own opinion(s) about you .....That's where I fall, I just don't feel comfortable singing my own praises, even when asked to do so and compliments mean so much more to me when I don't question the sincerity...The only time I will do it if I'm asked is during a job interview because I understand the relevance....


:thumbsup:


Exactly! Well stated Leigh. :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

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Mon 11/25/13 12:26 PM











What makes me Attractive/sexy?



Modesty....pitchfork







That's my favorite quality in another person, modesty and humility. Very attractive.


Same here Paintbigsmile ....It's a hell of a turn on too....drool


Ditto on modesty! drinker :thumbsup:

Beauty physical or otherwise should be in the eyes of the beholder. Different people behold different things. Ego inflation is not necessary for self-esteem. JMHO happy :thumbsup:


Exactly. I hate it when a guy introduces himself as hot or good-looking, my reaction is, according to who?laugh

That's a completely different scenario from being asked directly what is sexy and attractive about yourself.
I find it most amazing and somewhat amusing that a number of people come up with "modesty". I don't find it modest at all if you cannot even come up with what you find attractive about yourself. There's nothing wrong with knowing this, being able to tell about your strong points - without being arrogant.
Maybe it's a cultural difference, my English ex partner always came up with the argument of it being arrogant when I said I was good at something (regardless what it was). Why is it arrogant? If I'm good at baking cakes (which I'm not by the way) or have great boobs (which I do), why is it arrogant to say so? Should I play it down, pretend, which is dishonest?
If you don't even know what is sexy and attractive about yourself, how can you present yourself in the outside dating-world?
One thing you learn when you do intuitive/personal/spiritual development and growth is learn to be empowered. And an empowered being can also voice what is good about him WITHOUT being cocky or arrogant. Nothing wrong with it. Someone that knows him/herself is attractive.
Modesty is invented for keeping ppl small, not empowered. We're reared to believe it is wrong, which doesn't mean to say it IS wrong.

Phew, time for coffee


Understand, but I think it's more about personalities than culture and being modest does not mean you are oblivious to your strengths (or weaknesses:wink: ), it could mean you are not comfortable talking about them in front of a crowd, it might mean you are a person who likes to let people form their own opinion(s) about you .....That's where I fall, I just don't feel comfortable singing my own praises, even when asked to do so and compliments mean so much more to me when I don't question the sincerity...The only time I will do it if I'm asked is during a job interview because I understand the relevance....


:thumbsup:


Exactly! Well stated Leigh. :thumbsup: :thumbsup:


@ Missy and Paint

Thank you my beaut(ies)flowers flowers

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Mon 11/25/13 12:35 PM
I'm comfortable with my assets. Allegedly, I have pretty eyes, nice teeth, a great smile, pretty hands, beautiful legs, great boobs, a decent butt, strong thighs (don't ask), a nicely rounded tummy (I hate it, but others don't seem to mind) and nice hair (when it's properly arranged) however, I realize that all of that together won't make me beautiful to everyone. To a large segment of the population, I'm not their cup of tea....

I can admire these things about myself without telling everyone how attractive I am. I don't think I'm hideous, but I don't think I'm the most beautiful woman in the world. I think I look okay. I have a decent amount of self esteem without going overboard or wanting to hide under a blanket.

I guess it's hard to explain and it's a personal thing, I just value my skills over my looks, I always have. And even though I love a hot man more than life, if he leads with how attractive he thinks he is, it's an automatic turn off. To me.

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Mon 11/25/13 12:44 PM
Leigh is pretty !

:wink:

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Mon 11/25/13 01:21 PM












What makes me Attractive/sexy?



Modesty....pitchfork







That's my favorite quality in another person, modesty and humility. Very attractive.


Same here Paintbigsmile ....It's a hell of a turn on too....drool


Ditto on modesty! drinker :thumbsup:

Beauty physical or otherwise should be in the eyes of the beholder. Different people behold different things. Ego inflation is not necessary for self-esteem. JMHO happy :thumbsup:


Exactly. I hate it when a guy introduces himself as hot or good-looking, my reaction is, according to who?laugh

That's a completely different scenario from being asked directly what is sexy and attractive about yourself.
I find it most amazing and somewhat amusing that a number of people come up with "modesty". I don't find it modest at all if you cannot even come up with what you find attractive about yourself. There's nothing wrong with knowing this, being able to tell about your strong points - without being arrogant.
Maybe it's a cultural difference, my English ex partner always came up with the argument of it being arrogant when I said I was good at something (regardless what it was). Why is it arrogant? If I'm good at baking cakes (which I'm not by the way) or have great boobs (which I do), why is it arrogant to say so? Should I play it down, pretend, which is dishonest?
If you don't even know what is sexy and attractive about yourself, how can you present yourself in the outside dating-world?
One thing you learn when you do intuitive/personal/spiritual development and growth is learn to be empowered. And an empowered being can also voice what is good about him WITHOUT being cocky or arrogant. Nothing wrong with it. Someone that knows him/herself is attractive.
Modesty is invented for keeping ppl small, not empowered. We're reared to believe it is wrong, which doesn't mean to say it IS wrong.

Phew, time for coffee


Understand, but I think it's more about personalities than culture and being modest does not mean you are oblivious to your strengths (or weaknesses:wink: ), it could mean you are not comfortable talking about them in front of a crowd, it might mean you are a person who likes to let people form their own opinion(s) about you .....That's where I fall, I just don't feel comfortable singing my own praises, even when asked to do so and compliments mean so much more to me when I don't question the sincerity...The only time I will do it if I'm asked is during a job interview because I understand the relevance....


:thumbsup:


Exactly! Well stated Leigh. :thumbsup: :thumbsup:


@ Missy and Paint

Thank you my beaut(ies)flowers flowers


flowerforyou (((Leigh)))

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Mon 11/25/13 01:46 PM
Edited by Leigh2154 on Mon 11/25/13 01:48 PM










What makes me Attractive/sexy?



Modesty....pitchfork







That's my favorite quality in another person, modesty and humility. Very attractive.


Same here Paintbigsmile ....It's a hell of a turn on too....drool


Ditto on modesty! drinker :thumbsup:

Beauty physical or otherwise should be in the eyes of the beholder. Different people behold different things. Ego inflation is not necessary for self-esteem. JMHO happy :thumbsup:


Exactly. I hate it when a guy introduces himself as hot or good-looking, my reaction is, according to who?laugh

That's a completely different scenario from being asked directly what is sexy and attractive about yourself.
I find it most amazing and somewhat amusing that a number of people come up with "modesty". I don't find it modest at all if you cannot even come up with what you find attractive about yourself. There's nothing wrong with knowing this, being able to tell about your strong points - without being arrogant.
Maybe it's a cultural difference, my English ex partner always came up with the argument of it being arrogant when I said I was good at something (regardless what it was). Why is it arrogant? If I'm good at baking cakes (which I'm not by the way) or have great boobs (which I do), why is it arrogant to say so? Should I play it down, pretend, which is dishonest?
If you don't even know what is sexy and attractive about yourself, how can you present yourself in the outside dating-world?
One thing you learn when you do intuitive/personal/spiritual development and growth is learn to be empowered. And an empowered being can also voice what is good about him WITHOUT being cocky or arrogant. Nothing wrong with it. Someone that knows him/herself is attractive.
Modesty is invented for keeping ppl small, not empowered. We're reared to believe it is wrong, which doesn't mean to say it IS wrong.

Phew, time for coffee


Understand, but I think it's more about personalities than culture and being modest does not mean you are oblivious to your strengths (or weaknesses:wink: ), it could mean you are not comfortable talking about them in front of a crowd, it might mean you are a person who likes to let people form their own opinion(s) about you .....That's where I fall, I just don't feel comfortable singing my own praises, even when asked to do so and compliments mean so much more to me when I don't question the sincerity...The only time I will do it if I'm asked is during a job interview because I understand the relevance....


Thing is, is not feeling comfy about it the same as being modest?



Not feeling comfortable may or may not be due to modesty Crystal...Speaking strictly for myself it is modesty...I think more people than not feel this way, most especially those who know exactly who they are (and why)......Ask yourself this, " Is posting a list of your attributes being narcissistic?"....See how easy it is for that door to swing either way?:wink: ......I think the truest measure of a man or a woman is not how they see themselves, but how others see them...flowerforyou

@ Warren...I think you're pretty too....tongue2