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I'm not saying that we don't have fun or anything like that I mean we go out cinema eating and all the rest of it. It's just these few little problems and I'm sure once they are out the way things will be perfect once again. Of course I respect her why wouldont I?
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As I recall, you did actually like the advice that I gave you the last time that you posted about this girl, so here goes. I've been in a similar situation with an ex that didn't introduce me to her family and didn't exactly shout it from the rooftops that we were together. It hurts. I've talked to her since and she said that she was like that because she couldn't see a future in it. Could be the same with your girl and if I recall, this was the one that didn't mind other guys coming on to her and asking her for blowjobs. It's a bit like trying to shut the stable door after the horse has bolted but it really doesn't sound as if this girl wants to get as serious as you do and if you get too wrapped up in her she's likely to break your heart. Go with the other girls I say. Why the f**k not? You're a really young guy and this girl isn't making you happy. She may do if she ever gets her act together but a relationship won't work when only one of you really wants it to and is trying to make it work. Stop thinking about it as such a big serious thing. You have years to find someone that's right for you and that doesn't mean that you can't keep seeing her. Just means that you shouldn't put up with being treated badly and you've got to lay it on the line to her. Say that you love her but you don't like the way that it's been going and things have got to change. Yes folks, that's right, I said the C word. Shoot me. But like when I see her she's all over me and she says she loves me, she says she still really wants to give It another go and then when she found out I was going on holiday she wouldont stop crying because she's scared that I'm going to get with other girls and I know she loves my family to bits. and apparently she has good cause to be concerned about this from what you stated in the OP. I know I would not date someone with your attitude abour cheating, but apparently she's willing to give you a chance. perhaps if you can keep you zipper up while you are gone she will feel that she's found someone worthy to take into her parents home. she may be avoiding taking you to see her folks until she's sure you are worth it (with respect to RESPECT). ya never know, her parents may be discouraging her from seeing you. which after reading the OP, I would certainly discourage my daughter from seeing you. feeling unappreciated is no excuse for cheating. that's pretty immature, really. To me, that's the first issue to resolve. you can't blame your willingness to cheat on how she treats you. you have to make the decision that you are not the kind of person who will behave that way irrespective of what anyone else is doing....jmho good luck and chin up..all in all I am betting you are a good person at heart :) Can you explain to me how is it cheating if we arnt in an realsonship :/ that is not the point. it is your attitude. you are the one who made the statement about cheating. I replied. Have you asked her why she doesn;t bring you to her family? |
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Based on what you've told us about this situation, I wouldn't even be talking to her. She doesn't sound trustworthy. She doesn't sound mature. She sounds like she's playing games. And you're letting her do this. You're letting your feelings about her cloud your judgement. When someone loves you they don't treat you like ****, and if they do, they apologize, make amends, and stop the shitty behavior. There is no way in the hell I'd be willing to be anyone's secret. If she wants to date you or whatever, she should be woman enough to admit it to whoever asks and stand by her decision. What she's saying is, the opinion of her parents means more to her than her relationship with you, whatever that even is, whether you're just friends, or getting back together. I wouldn't put up with that. Children value their parent's opinions about what they do, not adults. I would walk away from her, and on my way out of the door, I'd tell her when she's ready to be an adult, when she knows exactly what she wants, and when she's ready to treat me like she'd want to be treated, with dignity and respect, to give me a call. Until then, I'd tell her to leave me the **** alone. But that's just me. What she's saying is, the opinion of her parents means more to her than her relationship with you, whatever that even is, whether you're just friends, or getting back together. I totally understand what your saying however I feel like I've lost everyone one, my friends won't even talk to me now because I'm still communicating with her and it just feels like she's the only thing I've got left. What you have to understand is that I'm in love and it's easy to sit back and say oh I'd say this and I'd say that but when your emotionally involved in a situation with somebody that you've had a decent past with it really Isent as easy as that. I just hate being away from her because I just feel totally miserable, however this situation Isent making me happy either. Although I love seeing her and spending time with her this whole parent thing has to stop and I'm aware of that, however she was like oh I'll tell them this week once we've moved and now she's saying oh when the time is right. I'm not being funny and I told her this earlier that when I go on holiday I'm going to do me, she can't expect me just to hang around and wait for her to tell her parents. Do you ever get that feeling in your body that you know what ever your going throughn well it would work out in the end? This is what I'm going through but I just don't know when the end is Yeah, I feel that way sometimes, but when I see red flags that tell me otherwise, I recognize them for what they are. You're not doing that. |
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