Hello all, i have recently joined up and was hoping to increase my awareness on this site. I get a few people viewing me but find i dont get any messages and the ones i do get just say "Hi" and that's it?
Strange.
Anyway, have a look and let me know what you think.
Please be gentle as character assassination is not a good thing for anyone lol :-)

First off, your photos are nice, especially the last one. As for you not getting many messages, try emailing women. I will never understand why the "new man" wants women to make the first move. We still like to be pursued. I don't email guys first. Ever. Maybe it's old-fashioned, but whatever...

On to your profile, leave out the cliches "I can be serious and I can be funny" that is over used on every guy's profile I've read and it's unnecessary; everyone can be serious or funny. Come up with something unique. Take out the bit about how you're tired of the games, that is also cliche and it's negative.

When I skim a profile, I'm looking for things of interest, not complaints or overused catch phrases. My favorite overused cliche is "I love to laugh" and my response to that is, oh really??? I assumed you liked to cry.....Focus on what you're like, and what you like to do, do you like to run? Play ball? Are you looking for someone to go dancing with? What kind of woman are you looking for? Things like that.

It also helps if you join in the forums, you can get to know lots of people that way. Good luck to you.

Thank you paintecard01, i really appreciate your feedback and i scanned a few other profiles before doing mine and thought that was a normal thing to say you laugh and cry etc lol

I will revise my profile a little later when i get more time and i will also put more things in my profile about what i do and want in a relationship.

I also have emailed some women i when i have liked their profile and still no response but thats how it goes i suppose.

its early days for me really and the dating scene is a bit past what i am used to. some women are really forward and some shy under a profile.

as for joining forums more, i have also done that too, this being my second but i have also commented on others, in a positive way of course...

thank you again for your time.

You're welcome. Your profile isn't bad, it just needs tweaking.

Online dating, to quote a friend of mine, is a crapshoot, you might get lucky, you might not. It also helps if you don't rely on it as your only means of meeting people.

Pictures are good but smiles would add face value. The variety help a lot.

your lifestyle information is honest even if I don't think you are going to be or get many desirable people while you are only separated. Hurts your credibility as a good guy over all.

The tone is negative several places. Wasting valuable profile real estate on what you don't want rather than what you do is counter-productive. Especially when swapping out something like "no game players" for "I really appreciate honest straight forward people" is always going to be better.

Your close could be better. At least you request contact.

It is not your profile but the comment that you get several "just Hi" contacts is overlooking that those women are extending an invitation to consider them, the digital drop of a hankie" and expecting you to man up. You can read their profile and respond if there is interest. If they were not interested they would not bother. Generally views mean nothing unless they are repeated in close succession over a period of time. My guess is often women wait until your status changes from separated to divorced to proceed. I can't honestly say how many expect a switch in status to be honest but if it is immediate most will think it is BS. Most women do not want to be the rebound to dating girlfriend and may wait longer. You are attractive and employed so maybe they will put their name in your black book and hope for the best.

Over all it isn't too bad. I grade hard so that is probably high praise by other's standards.

Welcome to Mingle.

The advice to jump in the forums is good however.

Thanks for pointing that out, Pacific, about the women expressing interest by saying "hi." I understand the OP's frustration, because I'm not much for emails that just say "hi" either, but it does show they're interested. So if someone emails you and just says "hi," you can reply back with a question about their profile, maybe, to get the conversation started.

Yea that is how I think people who have a little respect for their own time and allowing the person to express mutual interest do it.

I don't see it as hard to get or being disinterested unless I have sent them a Hi and all I get back is a polite but distant hi.

I tend to pick people that have a lot on their plate work and socially so if I get a note back fairly quick saying a minor reference to my profile and lets talk such and such time then I am moving that person onto my agenda. Social courtesy says a lot to me about a person. Blow off a chat date and that sets a bad tone.

Respond with way too much enthusiasm for a stranger I am backing up fast. It is the subtle tells that reveal the most.

OP not trying to Bogart your profile rate. Chime in if you like. Each time there is and entry it bumps you back up for a view.

wow, ladies... im touched that you have taken the time to do this.
Some very valid points raised and when i have some time i will adjust my profile.

I know you say people shouldnt put anything negative on however when some people have had that "issues" for a while they are just saying (to me anyway) that they have had enough and they do not want that in the future, which i think is understandable.

I can't believe how this is turning into a CV ! :-)
I dont find it comfortable selling myself, makes me feel big headed and cheap.

opinons anyone?

I don't understand the question, what do you want opinions on? I suggested you remove the part about being tired of the games, because it seems as if you're focusing on past relationships. I don't like games either, but I try to view each new relationship as a new experience, and try to forget about the ones that came before it.

Also, most people prefer positive people, I know I do. Your profile isn't bad at all, and I know that writing about yourself is hard to do- depending on what you write you can give a false impression about yourself. I don't think there's any such thing as the "perfect profile," if there is, I've never seen it.

I'm convinced that most people don't read profiles anyway, they look at the pictures and make their judgements. Just my experience.

My best advice to you is don't worry so much about what's on your profile, most people have luck with those they've met in the forums. You can have the best profile ever, but if I've never seen you in the forums, I'd be very hesitant to talk to you via email....

Again, good luck.

Good morning all.
Ok I have tweaked my profile a little and I think it looks better.
What do you think?

Good morning all.
Ok I have tweaked my profile a little and I think it looks better.
What do you think?

The profile is mostly good. I would get rid of the main profile pic and replace it with something better, since the main picture is the first one that everyone sees of you. It would be nice if you smiled in the main picture and maybe showed you doing one of the activities that you love.

"Get rid of my main picture" !!
Bloody cheek! LoL
Let me have a look and see what I have...
Bit hard to show a smile while diving though? Ha ha

I actually like the profile picture, you got this smirk, lol
But it's a bit on the dark side, maybe you can do something with Photoshop or Gimp, make it a bit lighter.

Personally, I think pictures 2 or 3 would be a better profile picture (#3 shows your smile best). As for the profile, just a couple of typos it appears, but, otherwise I feel it's good. Best wishes in finding who you are looking for.