okay so my GF of 3 years has been "friends" with an ex for a while and heck I have even met him. However recently, she was int he hospital and they were taking her back for some tests and asked me to send her friend a text just keeping him updated. I thought nothing of it so I opened her phone and went to where she was texting him. Funny thing, those text message windows. You can always see several previous messages on the screen. I saw one that said "Romance me completely"
Obviously I was going to read further.
I wont go into details but earlier in the week she had told me that she had a meeting at her job a couple of hours before her shift (which was in fact true) and that she was going to hang out with him during the break. At that time I trusted her and was okay with it. So as I read the other texts, she was telling him how she was bringing her lingerie and asked him about his room and told him how she wanted him to kiss her and lay her on his bed and pretty much how to do EVERYTHING!...Yeah I got pissed.
Anyways, I am ending it 100% but want to do something as a "going away" gift.

See, her family does not like nor trust the guy. She was told by her mom that he wasn't allowed in or near the house, around her son, or anything. When the guy showed up at her work that was a big fight with her family as well. SO......

My plan is to buy a very crappy bouquet of flowers and have the card written to say something about how incredible she was last week and how I can't wait to get her alone again etc. Sign the other guys name on the card and have it delivered to her house while she is at work and her mom (who is extremely snoopy) is home knowing that she would read the card and get pissed!

Then, from that point walk away and never speak to my now ex gf again. PERIOD!

My question to everyone is, is this going too far?

Don't stoop to that level. You wrote out what you want to do and that is fine, leave it at that. Tell her why you are leaving the relationship and leave. Be thankful you didn't marry her.

What's the point of doing that? You'd only come off as immature and bitter because she betrayed you. As the other poster said, break up with her and move on. Sorry that happened to you.

I tottaly agree! Move on and find another g/f.
Best of luck to you!

I would say take a lesson from Grand Theft Auto 4. I think this guy in that game talks about slashing his GF's tires, scratched her car and took a dump in the air filter.

Now every time she turns on the air conditioning she has to smell my crap.

That is a bit edited for this site. But that was a funny thing in the game. lol

But seriously what you said you want to do is purely destructive and serves no real purpose other than to hurt someone who betrayed you. It isn't going to help anything. So just break it off and no matter what she says. Walk away.

Do nothing.........just walk away...She would feel the guilt

The bit from GTA 4 made me

I agree, don't go there. The desire to do this, is only hurt ego that's trying to get even and hurt her like she's hurt you.
Don't lower yourself to that standard (is she worth doing that?). Do the right thing (for yourself) and break up and leave it at that.
Yes it will hurt, so wanting to do this is rather normal, but just don't go there

The thing is if you hurt and confused now and its normal to want to get her back bt reality is that when the anger subsides and you calmed down you gonna miss her again. Deal with how you feel and be sure that you wanna let her go find out why she went to her ex what is missing ask her straight then take that and work on it or then decide to move on strongs my friend

Indeed true.

I almost wonder if she wanted you to see the texts?

Best revenge..walk away like she never mattered..

Yeah, if I was creeping around behind my bfs back, no way in hell would I let him look at my phone....maybe she wanted him to see them?

Not a question of going to far, it's a question of stooping too low....Rise above it, you never know what tomorrow will bring

Well that's just sucks,especially when you trusted her
fully.
I've done that too,but a don't know if they
cheated? Ya know I bet they did those.........
...IDN,I have been in relationships that
you think you have a lot more,then you piece it
together later,it was just a really good movie,
that kept you wanting more,real tear jerker.

Ok man,they are right don't do that, make her
feel bad, marry her ..say she has a little
accident& goes back to the hospital at some
point as soon as they swap out her saline bag
and she's napping you swap it out for a bag of
Something or other that they could or mistaken.
leaving her stone _ _ _ _.
then call the Best personal injury Lawyer in
the Country on a wrongful death beef.
Of course I am making light of a very sad situation. Its a lose for trust and for woman.
very sad, I agree with these guys,and be thankful
you found out now, people cheat because they're cheats.
A cheats a cheats a cheats a cheat. and don't you
ever forget that.
Don't look for fault in yourself,or to change
yourself as to; if I could be this person for her.
and thirdly,don't ever hate the other man.
It was in her you trusted not some other stupid
stiff prick.So don't ever look beyond "cheaters cheat" because its not more complicated than that.
~Word~
having said that don't sabotage the next relationship,it just come back to don't change you.
Very Best
Pony

Just leave. There's no point in being a jerk about or doing something that will get you in legal trouble. Don't be rude or mean just end it in a respectable nice/neutral way and leave.

My thoughts also.

Walk away.

I think that it is all too common, and not as bad as people think, that one person is able to be with more than one person to let yourself get such a sore thumb over the likihood. Events play out, much out of anyone's ultimate control, and to try to be a puppeteer if even oneself seems to be the greater folly. I don't see the intensity of the situation as appropriate, and would see where it goes for a spell, so as not to act out of agner or intial instinctual inclinations, and moreso from how you think when you get you thoughts together. Even if the strings holding together your old warmth seem frail for a short time. Or if they are in too bad repair, cut them, but just try to do it in a way that you wouldn't be ashamed over someday.