ok ive got myself a girl and have popped the question to which she said yes. However i can't get in touch with her for weeks on end. Do i consider the relationship over or no?

Why can't you get in touch? Is she not answering your phone calls? Going straight to voice mail? If so, that means she's not interested, and it's time to call it quits, hon.

thats what i was afraid of.

Woah, horsey. Let's rewind slightly :) You don't mention how long you've been talking to her for. If you've only been talking to her for a few months, then no wonder she didn't reply to your proposal. Would anyone in their right mind marry someone they'd only known for a little while? You both still wouldn't know each other that well. If you've known her for a few YEARS, well that's different.

If she's blocked you from contacting her, she is trying to keep you away. She left you hanging. It hurts. It can be painful. But at the end of the day, there's nothing you can do about it. She clearly doesn't like you as much as you like her. So I'd move on. You both feel too opposite about each other. That's no good. Give yourself time to grieve, and then maybe you'll feel ready to date again. Jmo.

Woah, horsey. Let's rewind slightly :) You don't mention how long you've been talking to her for. If you've only been talking to her for a few months, then no wonder she didn't reply to your proposal. Would anyone in their right mind marry someone they'd only known for a little while? You both still wouldn't know each other that well. If you've known her for a few YEARS, well that's different.

If she's blocked you from contacting her, she is trying to keep you away. She left you hanging. It hurts. It can be painful. But at the end of the day, there's nothing you can do about it. She clearly doesn't like you as much as you like her. So I'd move on. You both feel too opposite about each other. That's no good. Give yourself time to grieve, and then maybe you'll feel ready to date again. Jmo.

Im srry should have given a little back story. We've known each other for 8 yrs. She had given me an answer which was yes. Unfortunately i do understand what your saying and was afraid that it was what i would hear.

Im srry should have given a little back story. We've known each other for 8 yrs. She had given me an answer which was yes. Unfortunately i do understand what your saying and was afraid that it was what i would hear.


No need to apologize.

Eight years is quite a good while, but I guess she had other plans. I think breaking up with someone is one of the hardest things in life. No matter how much we try to be happy. And actually, it would just feel a bit robotic, to keep jumping into one relationship straight after another. Which is why I never go back on a dating site. Until I know for sure that I feel ready to move on. At least you're not left in agonizing lust. Where you keep waiting for her replies, or hoping to impress her so bad that it drains you emotionally. At least you can take your time with your love life. Not sure anything I say can make you feel better. I don't really know what else to advise. Don't let it ruin you and spoil your day.

thx ya its tough but my dad always says "**** happens, get over it and move on." So im not gonna wait any longer to start my life. You are really nice and i hope you have better luck than i am having

:) - "My dad always says 'ShI+ happens, now wipe my a$$!'" Sometimes it pays to be funny!

Its called xanex aka alprazolam talk to your Dr

define badly...

lol, my next question was "is all the parties involved still alive"?

Im thinking video games

in the basement? with lotion?

Did anyone notice this is a relationship that started in grade school? Come on if it lasted past high school it is a kid thing ran it's course and time to face up to the fact that now life moves on. Get out and experience the world.

I have noticed that many people try to have relationships with
people who are really not interested in them in the first place.
Seems common that people try to get someone who is perceived to'
be much better than themselves. That usually does not work.
Best relationships are when people are more equal in appearamce,
education and other compatable aspects.
Form relationships with someone who likes you a lot first.
In the beginning you might not be as attracted. But when someone
is really attracted to you first, many times that makes your part in the relationship more stable.

when i say badly i mean they cheated on me. mabie im too much of a nice guy. or perhaps to old fashioned in holding open doors, pulling out chairs, and offering my coat to keep them warm. but in any case its their loss cuz i am as loyal as a puppy when it comes to those i care about.

sometimes, just because you want something to work doesn't mean it will... there are other women out there, go find one... or 2

Not easy when the only mode of transportation is a 21 speed bicycle. On top of a lack of confidence in myself. But I'm getting better as far as that goes.

Don't try to get laid; just be friends who get along. Over time, you'll meet Miss Right.

Possibly you are panicking or foreseeing a negative outcome before anything ever takes place. It could be that you are choosing to have relationships with the same types and kinds of women! Maybe it is just that you and these types of women just don't click! It could be that you need to surround yourself with different types of women, therefore resulting in different outcomes!
The main thing is Be Yourself and Be Kind and don't put so much pressure on yourself!