Every relationship I've had has ended badly. Now i find myself unable to hold a decent conversation with the ladies. What should i do

just playing pard !
Seriously just be yourself...

Just practice with woman that your not sexually interested in and go out of your way to make an effort, even if its your little sister, it helped with my kissing.

At your age I would recognize that most of my experience was with girls, not women, and work at getting to know women.

Since you are the only consistent factor in a series of failed relationahip's I would see what it is they complained about most. And then I would look at the type of women I was picking.

Didn't she say, "Daddy said she kisses better than Mommy?

At your age, how many serious relationships could you have had already?

Stop trying so hard and don't worry about it. Your young focus on what you want in life and make a plan,then move ahead. When you know who you are, and what you want, a special woman will take a interest in you for sure. Good luck and have some fun.

HEY,How did you know?
...oh yeah,I forgot your from the south...

Some people don't like to be poked .....

Review your own behavior in your past relationships, if you find anything that needs improving, try to improve it and move forward. You can't change the past but you can improve your future.

As for being able to talk to women, remember we only bite if you ask us to.

Good luck.

Hi Painted!

Hi Leigh

That's right some LOVE to be poked and live to
be poked and some JUST like to be poked.

Its a big difference!
how about you Leigh?

Forget about the past it does not exist. It has nothing to do with your ability to carry on a decent conversation with the ladies.

Now pay attention. Become familiar with some great opening lines for a conversation. Not pick up lines, just normal conversation. Practice them until they roll off of your tongue and sound natural.

Practice talking to total strangers.

Don't make negative statements about yourself like "I am unable to hold a decent conversation with the ladies." Your subconscious mind takes the statement, believes it, and puts it into your reality over and over.

Say this out loud:

"I am very good conversationalist, especially with the ladies."

Say that a hundred times. Practice opening lines.

Don't sabotage yourself with negative self talk.

Depends on who's doin the pokin Studley !

as for talkin 2 strangers i do all the time. thx 4 the advice though but my problem is i can never think of what to say when the opportunity rises and i end up missing out on what could have been a very good conversation. I just don't know how 2 fix it

You know how to fix it.

First, Do not make statements like "I just don't know how to fix it."

The advice I gave you:

Become familiar with some great opening lines for a conversation. Not pick up lines, just normal conversation. Practice them until they roll off of your tongue and sound natural.

Make a point to learn some great opening lines for a conversation. Eventually you will pick up more and eventually you will become more relaxed and come up with YOUR OWN.

YOU CAN FIX IT if you make the effort.....unless you just want sympathy.

...unless you are just one of those people who whine and complain about something and ask for advice and then respond with...

Yeh but.... I just can't.... etc etc.

If so, and if you really believe you "can't fix it:, then I'm sorry, and I don't know what else to say.


Go to charm school? Learn basic manners and etiquette?
Take a speech class? Go to broadcasting school?

The problem is that you lack confidence and you are shy.