I've been on a few weeks and no interest :-(

Please be honest and tell me if there's anything in my profile or pics that is putting guys off.

ok first your not completely single…lots stuff going on with kids…..older kids still around is a problem for a lot of men….i suggest after the divorce,,,and the kids gets all set and grown and gone…..you are a attractive woman,,,you will be a lot more attractive once the lose the loose ends……men don't want more problems the same as women don't…..i wish you well…... you can have fun with the forums you just have to jump in and ruffle some feathers……...

Thanks sparky - not much I can change there though :-)

Maybe it is because you are still married.

Dodo_David could you have another look please? I've made some changes. Thanks

Having your marital status as "No Answer" can backfire on you. Someone may think that you are covering up something.

Being separated doesn't mean that nobody will be interested in you. It just means that it is an issue for some people.

Yea married, problem adult kids at home, all the critters, not many of your hobbies would be that appealing to men.

I don't know if you smoke or drink but couple of your photos are not real together. Freshen up your hair and improve the lighting. and maybe it will look like you are not sneaking around behind your husbands back.

I don't know if it is a typo but if you are 45 I would have to see your birth certificate to believe it. You look more like my peer and I am pushing sixty. That is not to say you are not a pretty woman because you are but if I reported you as 45 on an intake they would have my head examined.

All this is pretty tough but you ask for why and the guys in your age frame worth having are going to have enough life experience to be wise enough to pick up on all the red flags on this profile.

And yes you can change almost all these problems if you set your mind to it.

I thought the rules were to be constructive. I am 45 and you are a bitter woman.

Change ur pic to the one of u in the pink shirt with ur
Hair down :) and maybe just shorten ur about me status stuff like instead of listing all ur animals say ur an animal lover... :) good luck!

Wow!!

Thanks Charlotte, will do. I like that one but the lighting isn't brill. I struggled to find pics that were suitable so resorted to the webcam.

Like always, PacificStar48, speaks the truth.
Your profile looks good now.
You will meet more people as you participate more in the forums.
Good luck to all of us.

Read your profile, even though I understand you've already changed it. But to be honest, I wouldn't start off by talking about my kids. You're looking for a guy for YOU, aren't you? Not a stepfather?
So okay to mention you got kids at home (not in the first sentence or paragraph), but I think men would like to know about you instead of your kids. So ... put the emphasis on YOU.

I do love that second picture, you're a stunning woman, absolutely great smile and spark in your eyes! But I agree it doesn't seem to work that well as a thumbnail. Shame, as it does show your inner strength, love and light.

Thanks CrystalFairy, that was really useful and your comments made me feel good and not like a haggard oldie I've made changes and would really appreciate your feedback as it was truly constructive.

You're welcome, and I like your new text! Feels good and tells a lot more about who you are as a person than the previous one. Nice!

I really like the second photo in ur gallery. It's nicely lit and u have a beautiful smile :)

I agree with CrystalFairy - the new text u added is great. I would be really surprised if u didn't get lots of people contacting u.

Wish u the best of luck !