I have been single.... forever! Is it me? Is it my profile or both? I am not any good at this and frankly, I've been disappointed by responses in the past and on other sites. I would really like some feedback, but please be gentle! Thank you!

I'd add more photos. And to be honest, I'd scrap everything you've written and just describe what you like to do and what you're looking for. As it is now, it seems as if you're lamenting a past relationship, not looking forward to a new one.

JMO Good luck to you.

Your profile is fine,maybe you should expand your search to farther than 50 miles thats not even a 1 hr drive. Best wishes in your search.

Sounds like you are still in a bit of pain/confusion/heartache from your past...and yet,reads like a poem on pain and confusion/shock!?

More pics would be nice too!

Review from a simple person,

As people havve said. Stop thinking of the past. Look forward to the future, it's a bit long, I like short profiles that leaves an element of mystory, makes me want to find out more, also new pictures,

Sorry about my spelling mistakes. As I say I'm simple :p

Best of luck

Honest? I'd delete the whole text and come up with something more positive and uplifting.
The whole things has a sad feel to it, says "look how awful life has treated me". The main theme seems to be "I am willing to serve and fulfill your every need!!"
I think men prefer a more independent woman who can stand on her own feet, beside him, not someone that leans on him and hoovers over him all the time waiting for an opportunity to please him.
What is it YOU want? What is it YOU like to do?
With this text you're bound to attract the wrong type of guy, abusive men would probably love it!

You hit the nail on the head yet again Crystalpicasso! Thats what I like about you? Your Dutch commonsense! Personally, I wouldn't like a woman who tried to please me as I want someone who does their own thing, just like I do. If I wanted to own anything, i'd buy a new car or clothes.

I think most of the responses are right it is the sad inquiring tone/mood of your profile that is kind of the moat around your dating castle.

People will get that it is hard to pick yourself up when someone has kicked the emotional sand out of you by walking out. Wow if you only knew. But as long as you are still walking wounded they aren't going to be able to say Oh yippee lets go out dancing. It is NOT because you are a bad person they know you are still healing. It is not to be mean it is just most people only have the strength to carry their own wounds.

I don't know why your past relationship failed but right now I would like to give you a get out of jail free card. Later if you want to go back and sort out your basket of stones you can do that but moving on and attracting someone who wants to be in your life is going to be selling who you are as the best thing since peanut butter.

Personally I would go with your strengths. Sounds like you could write something like the following and it be true and engaging.

Then I want you to go back to the photo idea and reframe that. Should be easy if you put on a little smile. LOL Not talking some come hither, hoochie, you can rip my clothes off look just a nice glad to see you look you would give a friend who greeted you. Then you will be cute as a button. Already have the pretty hair, nice feminine features, great skin; girl next door look. Like the blouse with the stylish collar. You already have the look that is approachable and good guys are going to say I wouldn't mind being seen in public with her. She looks so friendly and together. Throw in a couple of shots with you at your computer, maybe shopping for music you like, hey a full length shot of you grilling steaks and you should be home free. If your pictures tell a thousand words about you the short upbeat profile text will seal the deal.

Example profile...

"Billing specialist by day, homemaker Mom and pampering Chef by night. Weekends off find me scouring the web for best places to find vintage music and books. Do you enjoy a great cup of coffee and a relaxed smoke at a street caf�? Hurry quick my calendar is filling up. :)

Thank you so much everyone! Every reply has been extremely helpful and very nice!I will get to work right away and keep you posted! Thanks again!

ok I think I've got it! Let me know your thoughts, please!

"I can bring home the bacon...." If you know the rest of that commercial and what product it was for, you get bonus points!

I am a single mom of 2 grown kids and 1 very scaredy cat. I am always in the process of organizing and improving - including myself.

I love to cook and bake, but sometimes have questionable results. Yes, I have blown up an oven in my time. However, no one was seriously hurt in the production of dinner. ;) No matter! That's why God invented takeout!

While I may have a lot going on, I don't have any drama and I always have time to say hi, go out for a bite to eat, or settle in for a netflix marathon! If you are a happy, caring man near my age and area, I would love the company. Care to join me?

One last note, I am working on more (and better) pictures - the Mona Lisa wasn't painted in a day!

Well, that's a whole lot better!!
This feels happy, positive and a bit of humour. Nice!

Awesome update. Hopefully it will shake one of the really great fellas on Mingle up enough to send a nice email.

Make a point of being visable. Every time you post in forums or add new photos it gets you seen. Good Luck.

Thank you! Your replies gave me a whole new perspective on this - which I apparently needed!Keeping my fingers crossed...

Thank you, Larss, totally missed that comment

Not sure, but I get the feeling the Scottish are quite similar to the Dutch. I will have to find out for myself one day and go to Scotland.

@ Whoknew, good luck!

Now-this IS a very different woman all together!!

This makes one smile!!

Yes for me.

Very nice!