So here's a question for the guys out there. If you met a girl with a serious illness, and you wanted to get to know her better, would the illness matter to you?

If the illness is insanity, then yes.

Me dating an insane women is how I ended up with an ex-wife ...

... and a 2-inch scar on my left arm.

I was lucky. She shot the next man who ended up with her.

(((( David))))

That's sad. I'm sorry for everyone involved.

Obviously I'm not a guy, but as a person I can honestly say I wouldn't try to date anyone with a serious illness. I could be their friend and try to support them emotionally, but the other, that's a responsibility I'm not willing to take on.

It happened a long time ago, but thanks anyway.

My kids mum stabbed me mate, so i've an idea what you went through, as she slashed the next one and me and my brother, had to bail her out, cos she was in trouble with the wrong people!

I've done it before. Why wouldn't I do it again?

I would say it depends on the illness and what you mean by getting to know the person better. Getting to know someone doesn't have to mean looking to marry them. It could mean developing a stronger friendship.

But regardless of to what you want to develop. I would say that if they have a disease that I could catch from them and die. Then chances are I wouldn't want to hang out with them that much as I kind of like being alive. If it's something like cancer then I would not reject them for that. I can't get cancer from someone else who has it.

As for if they are crazy. I'm crazy anyway so it could be a perfect match. lol

"in sickness and in health" goes for a partner or a friend for me

Don't see it as a factor, unless I am not able to handle the responsibilities of it.

I believe, could be wrong, we all get sick and die. Could just be me though. Maybe you guys don't age or get ill or have maintained to live in your judgement bubble without anyone having a pin in their pocket.

I would ceratinly hate to live a life that shallow. I have seen way too many people of value that have been afflicted with something who have had more on the ball than me to ever say I am above them in any way and can't be with them. They are afflicted, and the shallow person is just as afflicted, in a different way.

How is it shallow to not want to date a very ill person? And there's a difference in being involved with someone and they fall ill and meeting an ill person and taking on massive responsibilities.

If I was married to a guy and he got sick, that's not the same thing as meeting a sick person and choosing not to date him. I think you're the one being a bit judgemental here...

Beautiful.
I'm terminal..

Maybe our lives are just different. I happen to do a lot of things (have my whole life) where I am in contact with ill people. I think because of this I have never put the "different" sign up. I don't see anyone as being different from me when it comes to illness.

If I would not stop seeing someone because they become ill while I'm seeing them how is that different from me seeing them right off the bat with them being ill? I totally get the responsibility thing. I feel the same way if I can't offer them the right quality of life.

A relationship to me is not about me, it's about us. If I meet (and have many times) a cool person, they are cool. I don't get out my book and start writing down their illnesses. Physical parts to us are only that. We are so much more than physical and the part I personally start to love goes way deeper than the limited bodies we host.

And one of my favorite people, big kiss!

(((Paints))) it's not shallow really.. a lot of people
Feel this way
It's hard to understand.. unless you can see it from both
Sides.
Much love and respect

(((( hugs)))

2k

This isn't totally serious. But does that mean if you met someone on the character from the movie "fight club" who was most likely near to death because of cancer and she wanted one more fling before she passed on announcing she had lubes and porn. Does that mean you would sleep with her just as easily as lets say Julia Roberts? hahaha