I cannot tell a lie ...He only told me where to find the elements....They came with instructions, I read, I comprehended, I repaired ...I also neglected to drain the damn thing before I opened it...The force of the water swept me right off my feet!

Absolutely. We should help each other do things. As far as I am concerned; there is no male or female jobs; just a job needs to get done and both of us working as a team.

This is what I was trying to say 50/50 all the way, relationships or marriage there should be no gender based jobs, it's a partnership, oh and when I had made reference to female entitlement, I was referring more to the younger generation, the poll I ran across estimating men are now doing over 60% of household duties wasn't broken down for age, etc...

Oh and only a handful of women perform the more traditional male jobs around the home, such as lawn maintenance, repairs, and lets not forget the ever popular killing of bugs, I would never let my ex perform these task anyhow, oh she would help from time to time, but to me anything involving heavy labor should fall to the male of the household, I see this the same as opening a door or pulling out a chair for a woman, it's the gentlemanly thing to do.

Are you serious? I know men that are terrified of bugs. Where I live; I see lots of women doing lawn maintenance as its not that physical of a job. There are a lot more stronger women out there than you think; both mentally and physically. My friend does everything for his wife but when he was away due to his work; she took control of the household repairs and lawn maintenance. I have male friends that have bad backs so they can't do heavy labour; so I will do it for them. You really need to get with the times. We are not in 1950 anymore. Polls are very inaccurate as they are only based on people that want to take the polls. Most people like myself for instance can't be bothered with them so we aren't counted. I know of plenty of young women that are not afraid to do heavy labour or fix things. I think its only a handful that do believe in being traditional as in what is woman's job as that kind of thinking is very outdated.

Lol my friend Joe is deathly afraid of spiders so if he sees one the first thing to come to his mouth when he sees one is "DiDi get it"

My older sister has had to artificially inseminate cattle as part of her training to become a vet. So I mean as far as being equals I think my older sister is pretty damn awesome. Cause shoving my arm up a cows whoha is not very high on my things to do list.

Nicely put.

I do also believe culture plays a large part in it, in the US women still expect their men to do the heavy lifting and be their protectors, I totally agree that women are capable of performing hard labor, but men will always dominate as a whole in these areas, for the simple reason nature has made men psychically stronger then women, generally speaking of coarse, there are always exceptions to the rule, and believe me I have been with some very strong woman in my lifetime both psychically and mentally, and they still expected me to fulfill the traditional male role, show me one heterosexual women that don't get a bit excited when a man exerts dominance, just the way the sexes are wired, of coarse there are times and places when this is appropriate.

Also a lot of women haven't had the benefit of serving in the military, where one has no choice but to pull their own weight, I'm still unsure about putting women in combat, (former US Marine), we still don't put our female Marines in Combat as most women aren't suited for the rigorous training and hardship a US Marine must endure, if that makes me a chauvinist then so be it, weather we will admit it or not there are areas where women will always excel over men and men will excel over women.
Nature is Nature, can't change it only except our limitation's.

I never kiss and tell!!!!

I got plenty myself, but I made them work for it LOL

Whenever I have to do stuff with a drill, electric saw or whatever, I do swear an awful lot and wished to god I had a bloke
I need two hands to hold the drill, most men can easily hold it with one hand, so they can use the other to hold whatever in place. I can't. Meaning it takes me at least twice as long to get it done.
Had to sod around with tools the other day to fix my fence as the wind was about to rip it to pieces. NOT happy. Some things are just psychically too heavy but I still gotta do it as I'm on my own. Keep telling myself I'm not frigg** Bob the Builder, but sometimes you have no choice.
I want to have a worktop in my kitchen, meaning drilling in the tiles. Unfortunately there's sockets and electricity cables in the wall where I need to drill the holes. So I daren't do it myself I hate electricity
Just gonna wait till I got a bloke, a nice neighbour or simply forget about the worktop altogether.

If I was near you Crystal I would gladly help, I have assisted many of my female friends with minor home repairs, I like to be helpful, I am very good with tools, repairs, minor elec. a little plumping even, I rarely need help in any of these areas, I even build and upgrade computers, get asked more for my tech savvy then anything else.

I put up a smaller worktop to put the cooker on. Didn't like it either, gass, water and electricity in the wall and I didn't know where. Just guestimating. At some point I did hit one of the pipes. Not a clue which one, but I was not amused. Thx god no damage to the pipe. And let's say it was water, it wouldn't make a difference whether I create a fountain in the kitchen or a bloke. But at least if a bloke did it, I wouldn't have to panic, just rely on him to sort out the mess.
Another thing that can really get me p*ss** off: I have limited tools. My ex had basically everything, from compressor, huge circular saw to every nut and bolt you can possibly need.
I ended up wanting to drill a hole in a plank, realizing I didn't have a single wood drill, Go to the DIY, get back home, drill the holes, next problem: don't have the right size screws.
And all the stuff you need to hump around in order to do some silly little thing.

I must say I got more respect for men doing the Bob the Builder bit.
If I can get the same respect from a Bob the Builder for me cooking and cleaning, we might be in business

FYI Crystal, always try to obtain a blueprint for your home, before breaking into any walls, also use a stud finder (not that sort of stud LOL)

Bit difficult in a rental and I think some previous tenants did some stuff themselves.
Stud finder?? I'm all ears

You're wrong! The only woman in this world thats always right, even when shes wrong, is my mum. Or as me and my brother call her - she who must be obeyed !

My mom was always right, and I mean always, wow its been over 20 yrs. since her passing and I still miss her terribly.

Sorry to hear that m8. My friend lost his mum 2 months ago and hes in tatters still. My mum just turned 62 there and still gives me and my brother a clip around the ear if we step out of line!

I am curious as to what size drill you have? I can hold mine with two fingers as it's light, portable, and has power. Biggest thing about electricity; just turn off the power where you are working. I don't like electricity myself but as long as the power is off; I am good. Actually; if I have a question about electricity; I ask my friend Kiri as she is an electrician.

Crystal, im a 1st + 2nd fix Carpenter to trade. I'll do your worktops when im in Holland next month to see Celtic play Ajax in the Champions League?