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It is a commonly accepted idea that men prefer the company of younger women, while women prefer men who are older. This is also in keeping with Parental Investment Theory, which maintains that men are attracted to women who advertise signs of fertility — that is, youth. Conversely, women are drawn to older men since they typically have greater resources. Indeed, this phenomenon of men preferring younger mates and vice versa is technically known as the age differential effect, and it has been well-documented. In a classic study of human mating from 1989, David Buss surveyed 37 cultures across 6 continents and found that in every culture in question, men preferred to marry younger women (2.66 years younger on average) and women preferred to marry older men (3.42 years older on average). In addition, Buss collected actual age differences at marriage for 27 of the 37 cultures, and across the board men normally married women who were younger than themselves.
And in a 1993 study that analyzed over 1,000 personal ads, researchers found that women typically sought older men, and men typically sought younger women. Similarly, in a 1994 study using a nationally representative sample of single Americans younger than 35, the results revealed that women were significantly more willing than men to marry someone older by five years; conversely, men were significantly more willing than women to marry someone who was younger by five years. In another study from 2001, researchers asked Dutch men and women between the ages of 20 and 60 about their age preferences for various types of intimate situations, ranging from sexual fantasies to marriage. They, too, found that men predictably preferred younger partners than did women. |
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Edited by
ridewytepony
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Fri 06/06/14 01:12 AM
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More of them, easyier to talk to or come on to,more impressionable (a six pack and I pack a smokes would sound like a good time)open schedules.
Those would be the main reasons I would think. |
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I think it's because people love who they love...
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I think it's because people love who they love...  "whats love got to do got to do with it" we are talking about dating at best aren't we. I stand by what I said and I think its just a higher avaliblity for the looks he my be looking for, I would think many men would not want to fall in love with her if shes too young. |
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Age doesnt matter whether you are old or young as long you love each other
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Who frickin cares anyways? I sure don't and don't know why anyone would give a crap.
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First..a young woman can make a man feel young again [even if its just psychological]  A man loves to impress and its easier to impress young naive women than older seasoned ones  What better way for a man to impress his friends?  He may want children She may have less stress and responsibilities and have more energy  She may look up to him and respect him more because of his age OR Shes just a sexy Hot young Thang  Very good,well done! You get an A+  in otherwords for all the wrong reasons. she is person not a trophy and none of that has anything to do with her value as a person. it sounds like a tradeable commodity is being discussed. reality is she will prolly be too young and naieve to realize that she is being chosen for all the wrong reasons...until it is too late What's wrong with the older man still wanting children? there is nothing wrong with wanting children, but women are people not brood mares. A woman is only going to be happy in the relationship if she is chosen because she is l-o-v-e-d...not because she is fertile  That's a bit rich. We're supposed to be providers and protectors and all of that stuff though and your average woman has a bill of particulars when she is looking for a man, as if she's buying a car that has to have certain specifications or something. There is nothing wrong with wanting to start a family with someone and seeing a woman being fertile as something that you want. Many women will not be happy if they want kids and can't have them but we, as men, are supposed to just say that, "It doesn't matter honey because I love you". Relationships don't work out when people don't want the same things. It's not about seeing a woman as a commodity. Even if there's a bit of that it doesn't follow at all that you can't love her as a person. It's like saying that because I want someone that will give me sex and companionship that there's something wrong with that and that those things shouldn't really matter at all. I don't want to be insulting but if a woman doesn't have things that a guy would like because she's not young anymore or has let herself go then you get into a situation where you're settling for less than you would have wanted. Maybe you can say that love is the most important thing but it's hardly the only thing that matters. I'm getting older too and I've got to accept that a lot of women are not going to want me because of that. I'm sure that you have your preferences too and most of the women on here do. Even if a man is looking at a woman as someone that might give him children he's going to be selective and look for a good woman with qualities that he values and can hopefully live with and that totally includes who she is as a person. |
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It is a commonly accepted idea that men prefer the company of younger women, while women prefer men who are older. This is also in keeping with Parental Investment Theory, which maintains that men are attracted to women who advertise signs of fertility — that is, youth. Conversely, women are drawn to older men since they typically have greater resources. Indeed, this phenomenon of men preferring younger mates and vice versa is technically known as the age differential effect, and it has been well-documented. In a classic study of human mating from 1989, David Buss surveyed 37 cultures across 6 continents and found that in every culture in question, men preferred to marry younger women (2.66 years younger on average) and women preferred to marry older men (3.42 years older on average). In addition, Buss collected actual age differences at marriage for 27 of the 37 cultures, and across the board men normally married women who were younger than themselves. And in a 1993 study that analyzed over 1,000 personal ads, researchers found that women typically sought older men, and men typically sought younger women. Similarly, in a 1994 study using a nationally representative sample of single Americans younger than 35, the results revealed that women were significantly more willing than men to marry someone older by five years; conversely, men were significantly more willing than women to marry someone who was younger by five years. In another study from 2001, researchers asked Dutch men and women between the ages of 20 and 60 about their age preferences for various types of intimate situations, ranging from sexual fantasies to marriage. They, too, found that men predictably preferred younger partners than did women. |
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Fri 06/06/14 06:00 AM
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First..a young woman can make a man feel young again [even if its just psychological] A man loves to impress and its easier to impress young naive women than older seasoned ones What better way for a man to impress his friends? He may want children She may have less stress and responsibilities and have more energy She may look up to him and respect him more because of his age OR Shes just a sexy Hot young Thang Very good,well done! You get an A+ in otherwords for all the wrong reasons. she is person not a trophy and none of that has anything to do with her value as a person. it sounds like a tradeable commodity is being discussed. reality is she will prolly be too young and naieve to realize that she is being chosen for all the wrong reasons...until it is too late What's wrong with the older man still wanting children? there is nothing wrong with wanting children, but women are people not brood mares. A woman is only going to be happy in the relationship if she is chosen because she is l-o-v-e-d...not because she is fertile That's a bit rich. We're supposed to be providers and protectors and all of that stuff though and your average woman has a bill of particulars when she is looking for a man, as if she's buying a car that has to have certain specifications or something. There is nothing wrong with wanting to start a family with someone and seeing a woman being fertile as something that you want. Many women will not be happy if they want kids and can't have them but we, as men, are supposed to just say that, "It doesn't matter honey because I love you". Relationships don't work out when people don't want the same things. It's not about seeing a woman as a commodity. Even if there's a bit of that it doesn't follow at all that you can't love her as a person. It's like saying that because I want someone that will give me sex and companionship that there's something wrong with that and that those things shouldn't really matter at all. I don't want to be insulting but if a woman doesn't have things that a guy would like because she's not young anymore or has let herself go then you get into a situation where you're settling for less than you would have wanted. Maybe you can say that love is the most important thing but it's hardly the only thing that matters. I'm getting older too and I've got to accept that a lot of women are not going to want me because of that. I'm sure that you have your preferences too and most of the women on here do. Even if a man is looking at a woman as someone that might give him children he's going to be selective and look for a good woman with qualities that he values and can hopefully live with and that totally includes who she is as a person. blah blah blah .....I didn;t even read all that because rationalizations are not on my morning menu .....I'm actaully more interested in Pony's 6 pack except that the generalization is that only younger women are fun? I think I got that right....I'd love to meet a guy who wants to go mudding by the river - wash off with a swim and drink a few beers on the flat bed...but Oh, wait, I'm too old for that.....I guess generalizations aren't on my plate today either  except that could be good reason for a tent |
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Q- Why do older men date younger women?
A- Because we can |
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Yeah, don't bother to read what you don't like to here Sweetest and just give us your usual straw man arguments and call us pervs. I never said that only younger women are fun. I do like a woman that hasn't become bitter though and that's honestly really hard to find.
It isn't about wanting to beast up little kids and that's really insulting. It's about wanting someone that's more than just young at heart. I try not to make it a deal breaker and I'm prepared to date women around my own age but I don't have to justify not really being into women that are as old as my mother and fancying ones that are young enough to be my daughters. I've just got my preferences and no more need to justify liking young ladies that are over the legal age of consent than you need to justify liking a man with a six pack. |
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I think it's because people love who they love... "whats love got to do got to do with it" we are talking about dating at best aren't we. I stand by what I said and I think its just a higher avaliblity for the looks he my be looking for, I would think many men would not want to fall in love with her if shes too young. OK, just call me slap head, short for dumbazz, right?  ..Yeah, I suppose we are talking about dating, but some of us only date when we feel there is strong potential for love to develop ...That would be me ....I stopped dating for dating's sake about the same time I graduated from high school...I am sure there are all sorts of reasons older men date younger women and many of them have been stated here...What I meant when I said "it's because peeps love who they love" is this...For me, attraction to the opposite sex comes in many shapes and sizes meaning it's not determined by rigid guidelines...Exposure is really the determining factor...If I am exposed to someone younger or older long enough to get to know them as a person, I might develop chemistry with them IN SPITE OF THEIR AGE....
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First..a young woman can make a man feel young again [even if its just psychological] A man loves to impress and its easier to impress young naive women than older seasoned ones What better way for a man to impress his friends? He may want children She may have less stress and responsibilities and have more energy She may look up to him and respect him more because of his age OR Shes just a sexy Hot young Thang Very good,well done! You get an A+ in otherwords for all the wrong reasons. she is person not a trophy and none of that has anything to do with her value as a person. it sounds like a tradeable commodity is being discussed. reality is she will prolly be too young and naieve to realize that she is being chosen for all the wrong reasons...until it is too late What's wrong with the older man still wanting children? there is nothing wrong with wanting children, but women are people not brood mares. A woman is only going to be happy in the relationship if she is chosen because she is l-o-v-e-d...not because she is fertile That's a bit rich. We're supposed to be providers and protectors and all of that stuff though and your average woman has a bill of particulars when she is looking for a man, as if she's buying a car that has to have certain specifications or something. There is nothing wrong with wanting to start a family with someone and seeing a woman being fertile as something that you want. Many women will not be happy if they want kids and can't have them but we, as men, are supposed to just say that, "It doesn't matter honey because I love you". Relationships don't work out when people don't want the same things. It's not about seeing a woman as a commodity. Even if there's a bit of that it doesn't follow at all that you can't love her as a person. It's like saying that because I want someone that will give me sex and companionship that there's something wrong with that and that those things shouldn't really matter at all. I don't want to be insulting but if a woman doesn't have things that a guy would like because she's not young anymore or has let herself go then you get into a situation where you're settling for less than you would have wanted. Maybe you can say that love is the most important thing but it's hardly the only thing that matters. I'm getting older too and I've got to accept that a lot of women are not going to want me because of that. I'm sure that you have your preferences too and most of the women on here do. Even if a man is looking at a woman as someone that might give him children he's going to be selective and look for a good woman with qualities that he values and can hopefully live with and that totally includes who she is as a person. blah blah blah .....I didn;t even read all that because rationalizations are not on my morning menu .....I'm actaully more interested in Pony's 6 pack except that the generalization is that only younger women are fun? I think I got that right....I'd love to meet a guy who wants to go mudding by the river - wash off with a swim and drink a few beers on the flat bed...but Oh, wait, I'm too old for that.....I guess generalizations aren't on my plate today either except that could be good reason for a tent Im sorry, of course all people are individuals and can't be grouped as one, many older ladies are fun and would love the outdoor activities you have describe, much younger woman than myself could say the same about myself being suggestive like they are all easily amused. I think generally I'm more comfortable following up with conversation after say a nice smile from a much younger woman than more age appropriate woman. I think many older woman that I would be attracted to that give me a very friendy smile in passing are likely taken and and just want to know you find them attractive when you return the same look & smile. So I guess I just called all'older woman' a tease. Idn,I'm assuming many are taken.I do prefer older and always have, many men are probably better with many personality types of older woman than myself though. I think older woman could probably help erect the tent better on that weekend at the lake. The truck bed? ...she's sitting on the truck box and I'm standing in the box while we 'drink some beer' are you great with tents..lol have a great day. |
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Mmmmm yea im 20 and my bf is 27 older men are just such a turn on
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Mmmmm yea im 20 and my bf is 27 older men are just such a turn on A guy in his 20s isn't old. |
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Mmmmm yea im 20 and my bf is 27 older men are just such a turn on A guy in his 20s isn't old. >.< |
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Q- Why do older men date younger women? A- Because we can ^^^ This.
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Q- Why do older men date younger women? A- Because we can ^^^ This. lol that's bout the size of it >.<. The real question is, do people really look at age specifically in their looking for a special someone? Why would anyone put specific restrictions as such when looking for love? Love comes in all shapes, colors, and sizes. |
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Q- Why do older men date younger women? A- Because we can ^^^ This. lol that's bout the size of it >.<. The real question is, do people really look at age specifically in their looking for a special someone? Why would anyone put specific restrictions as such when looking for love? Love comes in all shapes, colors, and sizes. Yeah, but compatibility can be influenced by age. For example, a young guy - such as a guy in his 20s - may not be compatible with a woman who is in her 40s. 
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Q- Why do older men date younger women? A- Because we can ^^^ This. lol that's bout the size of it >.<. The real question is, do people really look at age specifically in their looking for a special someone? Why would anyone put specific restrictions as such when looking for love? Love comes in all shapes, colors, and sizes. Yeah, but compatibility can be influenced by age. For example, a young guy - such as a guy in his 20s - may not be compatible with a woman who is in her 40s. Oh definitely. A younger person more then likely "USUALLY" won't have the same goals/plans for life as say an older person. But more in the context of this thread, this bit of age difference really won't make a difference at all lol. We're talking 7 years, that's sibling difference. That's not even technically an "older" person in this sense. |
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