I'm a single mom of a beautiful 3 year old little girl. It's so hard finding a decent guy. I want someone who's going to be good to me but also good to her. I don't want to bring a guy around that shes going to get close to then them walking out of our lives like the last guy did

Hello,Welcome, a d Good Luck in your Search....

I am in the same place though the "man" i was with is the father to my beautiful baby daughter and i thought he was good for my son as well but as soon as my daughter was born he got jealous and betrayed us all couldnt handle that to me my children always come first. I think the best way to look at it is not finding a guy but letting the one find you, because the right one will come for.you and stay for a family

another no decent guy thread... only thing i can say is that if out of all the guys in the world, and you can't find one to fit the bill, maybe you need to change your search criteria... a lot...

its so sad to see so many wounded people........i was in a negative relationship,i went to see a dear friend of mine.oh by the way she was much older and wiser,,,she look me in the eye and she said....the right person is always there at the time..........it took me years to really get it..............

That's exactly why your search will be a difficult one.

Shes not exactly asking much!

I (fairly recently) got back with an ex girlfriend who now has a little girl. Her ex bf, the babys dad, took exception to it and started giving my ex a realy hard time about it, so we ended up splitting up.

I find it can be too much drama getting with someone with kids...this is just me though, but i would only do it if there was a garuntee for no drama lol

Why do you feel the need to have to have a man? Enjoy your children being young and enjoy your time with them..it goes so fast. I don't understand why all of these women bringing men around their children before they know it is going to work out.
You can date without involving your children. What do you think grandma's are for? If you want a date night, have granny keep the baby. You do not know who you can trust to bring around your children esp. when they are young.
I have a neighbor that has a new man in her life every 3 months..she brings him in her house every time. She has 2 young kids and those kids have to be confused. I think OMG you will be sorry one day. Now she lets people come there and drink and do drugs..she does not need her kids, this generation is something else.
STOP THINKING OF YOURSELF AND PUT YOUR KIDS FIRST!!!

Sorry you are going through that, but you have discovered most young men are not ready for children yet. Good luck.

perhaps focusing on other single parents may give better odds at finding a 'decent' guy that can accept the whole package

I think many otherwise 'decent' guys presume a single mother status somehow makes us less virtuous or trustworthy,,,,

unfortunate,, but I do think its a prevalent belief amongst those 'decent' guys,,,,

Uh, there is a difference between a mother becoming single as a result of death or divorce, and a single mother who has never been married (and did not become pregnant as the result of rape or another sex crime).

The former may have lived a godly lifestyle before she became widowed or divorced.

As for the latter, if she is a woman of faith, then I would not reject her just because she became pregnant out of wedlock.

If the latter is not a woman of faith, then her status as a single mother would be irrelevant to me.

What is your definition of a decent guy?

i understand where u are coming from. You seem like a nice person