I hope that can lead to messages in my inbox.

Usually nice messages lead to messages.

Shhh. That's supposed to be a secret.

Ha ha! The cats out of the bag now!

Little efforts generally lead to little responses too.

Minimal effort produces . . . ?

Did someone say "cat"?

I thought that by sending a wink, letting a person know you are interested, would result in a wink if they are at all interested. Then once you know there is a mutual interest, then a message contact is made and then information may be exchanged.

Why take the time to do a message, to not get any reply?

You already filled out the online info, so they can look at your photo, read what you basically have to say then decide to wink back to let you know that a mutual desire to go further is desired.

Please help me to understand.

Hummm all a wink will get from me is a delete... But then I state that I only seek local...

If they are local and don't have the time to say something in an e-mail then I don't have time for them either...

Myself if you could turn that option off I would...

Stop sending winks. Start sending emails.

But what if you are shy and don't wanna make yourself out to be an idiot. I am not like this mind you, I jump right in there and don't give a dang! But back when I was young and weighed over 300 lbs, it would have taken a lot of courage for me to send a wink.

True dat

Jmo....

In reality it depends on if the person is interested in you
Or not...sad but true...

Ok so do 2 shys make a right... or
do opposites attract... or
is there a difference in winks...
or are cats in trouble here...

I'm soooo confused!!!

If you're so shy online that you can't muster up the courage to send an email, how are you going to get to the part where you actually meet people?

To be honest, I hardly even notice my nudges. By if there is a message I am more likely to read it and look at someone's profile. You don't have to be crazy or super talkative just say hi. Then see if there is a response.

You would probably be better off tossing stones in the air and asking the girl that most of them hit if she would like to go out to dinner some time.

Replace the I in 'Winks' to an A.

Why beat around the bush? I know a few shy people, but they know themselves that if they can't be straight forward about telling someone when they're attracted to them, they miss out. And then you'll regret not telling them. Then they'll be with someone else instead. Better to hear a "No thanks", than never try at all. Over time, you can become attracted to others who cross your path. Never leave only one person as a dating option.