yea everyone says that..about the whole sexual drive thing..but I am fine in terms of that, um right now I guess ill just see what happens but to (gypsy) I guess you are right..I mean we did go out for a few months but yea I guess it wasnt meant..also alot of ppl blame it on the age sayin that we as 17 18 19 yr olds dint really know what they want which I do agree w/ to a certain extent but I feel like for the most part I do...anyway once again I appriciate all the help it is helping me out...

im saying you going to be 25 on this site still lonely....depending on if you going to date women

dont move to fast i chased my first until we got engaged and she pulled the same bs and dumped me by text message

Yea im like going to let whats going to happen..just happen..shes at the college ive been set to go now for a while but for now shes two hours away from me..but even when I go there ill try to just remain friends like she wants to be.. I wont push anything

Well I am seeing a lot of GOOD advice here. To precis? "If you could wait until you are like 25, having obtained plenty evidence (called certificate) of what you studied, you will be a great magnet to women. Loaded first and "handsome too!" They will say. "A DOUBLE whammy!"

To some youth, even though that is true, that is ONLY GOOD on paper and like 'words are wind.'

Some or all of those persons advising were not able to do that WHEN they were your age.
You know why?
Because the raging hormones (like little babies running in your veins) is part of physical development, and it affects everyone. Like when a female dog is calling (ready for sex) The feeling is overwhelming. More overwhelming for some.

So for everyone when they are around that age feelings are the STRONGEST that it will ever be in their WHOLE lifetime ESPECIALLY since it is NEW TO THEM.

There is ALSO the curiosity about the UNKNOWN and how this or that feels; or how should I do this or that.

THERE IS also the desire to be loved and embraced. Some people FORGET THEIR PAST and hope that for you, it will be different.

Some people study BEST when they HAVE a good relationship. They walk around happily singing all the time; some can't because as soon as they get into a relationship, that takes over. Then again, a good relationship might turn sour, and now you can't study. Only God knows what will be you story and advice next 30 years.

Now you ask if 'this' will hurt you later?
What is the 'this?'
(A) That she says she doesn't want a serious relationship now?
(B) That you never had a girl friend since she being your first?
(C) That you are hurt as you feel dumped?

Well 'A'
People like her mother, and here, would have given her the SAME advice you are getting here now. "Don't get serious because of education pursuit." This will not hurt you later.YOU WILL UNDERSTAND BETTER maybe why she said that.

Others will tell her: "Generalize for now?" She might also tell herself that, if found to be having sex with someone else (while you are waiting with she being in the glass case,) she could tell you: "Remember I told you I wasn't serious!"
This could hurt now, but later it will be experience to better you, and you might realize then that when you start a next relationship, do not punish someone for what someone else did to you. Do not start one's account with somebodyelse bad debts.

Well B?
That will not hurt you. That will help you. As one advisor says: "She wished she had a daughter." You might be worried about 'making-love art and no experience.' Don't worry about that! That will not hurt you. When two people are in love, anyhow they touch, they are on fire, and pleased, and you will invent, positions and learn what makes you two satisfied. Then you will learn a few moves as you watch movies and internet which I'm sure you watch plenty of already, even though some is fake.

And C'
How this hurt now will affect you later? I do not think it will. BTW get prepared to expect some possible coming hurts.

Start, as some advise, to have plenty friends(without sex If you have sex with a pretty drama queen and she gets pregnant what will you do?)
While doing this dicuss the things that you FEEL cause breakups of relationships; things you absolutely can't live with, and things you can tolerate. Filter it down from your many, many, down to one who seems most compatable.

Then the script the Almighty has, or foresaw for you, will unravel.

Listen to what men, in men talk say about women and what to expect. One of the main things is that most women, (by far)like to have things THIER way and men coud do nothing about it. Have you ever heard that: "This is a woman's World?" Well that is true. So when you find your woman is like that, do not let that be a ground for break-up because the NEXT woman will be JUST SO or worse. The next thing, plenty women don't like to KEEP their word. Their word is not like the Apache's word. So, get prepared not to be surprised when they don't. But keep yours.
And as a young friend here advises, 'wait until THEY say' that they are READY for a serious relationship while you BEHAVE ready, if you are. Do not play any games with women, because you can't win with women. They could set you up on an innocent rape charge and that would be the end of your life. Your motto, if you find them cheating at that time, should be: "If you don't want me, please release me peacefully." Don't try to spite them back." Try to ease out peacefully.

When this woman sees that you have other female friends she might SUDDENLY want a serious relationship. Do not be surprised when or if that happens but do the filtering down first inclusive of her. Tell her you are not ready until you have done it unless you did that already which I don't think you did.

This is the best I can do now under the existing stress so any mistakes of unclear thing just let me know. I was not intentional. And I haven't edited this.

That's great that you don't like playing around with just anyone. A real relationship takes work and a comittment. There's nothing wrong in waiting for the right woman to come along. In fact, it's rather admirable.

I thought I was pretty much the only guy that felt that way until I came here... I don't feel as special now, but I do still feel wonderful about it :)

get a hmaster and you'll have a friend for years to come...never ask if your are late and lets you stay out all nite with your friends...hell, they'll even let you get more hamsters and won't be jealous

Nothing is worse than a jealous Hamster!

only if they bite

Good advice.. I wish I had listened more carfully to that kind of advice. I just got out of my first major relationship. Things moved way too fast and it hurt like hell . I guess it could have been worse though..

the more u look for, the less it comes.
the key is wait
make friends in the meantime
a good relationship always starts with an awesome friendship

gerbils are less apt to get clingy...hurts less when they leave you for some other rodent

lonely walker, u are so right...friends first... and foremost

yes......I want to be friends with some really hot guy!!!!

gypsy...me tooo!!!

all the advice is great..thank you Greiving for the long but informational post..(no sarcasm) seriously it does all help..

now go find a cheap 'ho and slap it tap it rub it down, and call me in the morning...welcome to the dark side

Like i said playa i really hope you took my advice and at least checked it out........

why do u have my name?