Do you guys find it as tough to meet someone on here as you would, say, in a bar or other social gathering? Just to get a conversation going seems like a garble of mixed messages and self-defeating projections. "Selling yourself" in the real world seems a little less complicated. Much easier to pick up on body language and the like.

Im struggling to meet anyone too

It seems to me, all those who have hooked-up on here
have used the forums as the tool it can be.

You enjoin them, and people get to know you, and vice-versa.
They can be fun, enlightening, and productive, date-wise.

Best of luck:-)

I've met women that weren't on the forums. There are no local women on the forums.

It is hard to get any of them to talk though and even harder to get them to meet you. The last woman that I met I only chatted with for three days and she said that she wasn't really into chatting like this and thought that I might have been a robot, so she just asked me if I wanted to meet up so that she could find out what I'm like in person.

Ya, I guess it's a question of perspective. A lot are on here testing the waters, wondering if they can solicit interest via "winks" and "matching". Few actually follow through for fear, I guess, of rejection, suspicion of automated prompts, and just plain strange people :)

Ah, I guess it doesn't hurt to keep one's presence on here and engage as much as one can, not banking too much on success--even if it can happen.

Ive met some really awesome women on here. I had a couple of relationships. Talking with people online is about the same as talking in person. Also its easier to get attention of others if your fairly active in the forums.

Participate in forums. Got it! Thanks guys!

It seems to me that forum people only talk to people on the forums and then they say that most people on the forums hook up by going on the forums.

How far are you prepared to travel to meet somebody? How are you going to date somebody if they live hundreds or thousands of miles away? Most of the women in my area on here that I've talked to weren't interested in the forums at all. Only a tiny fraction of Mingle users go on the forums and although it can be a good way to make friends, unless you are prepared to travel or relocate it's not that realistic to expect anything apart from friendship from it.

I moved from Philadelphia, PA to Orange county,CA . Anymore plane tickets aren't as expensive as they once were. Now this next part is purely my opinion on why being active in the forums is important. You get to see what those you may be interested feel about certain topics and how they interact with other people. Which you can't get in a P.M., E-mail or instant message. To me it kinda helps weed out the liars and fakes. But as I stated beforehand that is my opinion. Hope it shed some light for ya.