yeah i am so tired of getting hurt. i feel as if there is no one out
there for me. i really am a sweet girl and i am a lover but i seem to
get the shitty end of the deal. ne1 have some advice......help me

Lavanna,

Listen"read" I have lived life on the basis of you are who you hang out
with. You hang out with dirt bags you tunr into one. You have to be
positive and think positive. If you think you are going to get shitted
on all the time then I can almost guarantee you will. If you think
positive and dont put up with anything less than complete respect then
it will happen. Dont rush. Youre young. Go enjoy life. You were born
alone you can have fun alone. :-) Of course unless you had a twin. Lol
Come on cheer up and think POSITIVE always. I guarantee you it will
carry over to work and personal life. It rubs off.

yea i guess thats right

This dude's advice is right on!
Listen to him.

Thanks Jimi,
I raised 4 kids. I learned alot from them. Lol

I agree, excellent advice Taino. LaVanna - you are still young and have
your life ahead of you. There is someone out there for you, just takes
some time to find the right one.

well my big issue is i have been told so many times that im not what
guys look for im not ugly but i am a big girl..... i guess you could say
i have a low self esteem

Don't believe them, you look good in your picture. You can work on your
self esteem. What is in your heart is more important than how skinny
you are, looks fade eventually with age, but your heart will always be
you.

you guys are great

how do i get my self esteem in order

Sounds lame but counseling helps, there are groups out there and even
self help books. What Taino said about hanging around with the right
people and working hard to think positive is a good start. I have been
doing that myself. Wasted a lot of my life stuck in a bad place,
working on pulling out of it now. Takes work to think positively when
you are not used to it. Do you have close friends you can talk to who
are supportive? That is helpful. Do you have a job? Positive feedback
from co-workers at work helps too, or doing well in school. You have to
teach yourself to take in compliments and not shrug them off when you
get them. It is a real learning process.

everytime i try to see myself as beautiful i look in the mirror and cry

I am sorry you feel that way, that is not what I see. I understand those
feelings though. Can I e-mail you directly so we can talk off here?

yea its baby_bullfrog2005@yahoo.com

dont feel bad! i think most people on here have been screwed with at one
time or a nother.

Good response 4fun - I think we all have.

i was left in the dust my love of 3 years he wanted a baby and i didnt
well i got pregnat he said it wasnt his and split but hey i love being a
mom atleast my son will always love me

That is true, and his love is unconditional.

hes a joy man when im having a bad day he always cheers me up

See he is a positive part of your life - that is a good place to start.
Make the positive grow from there.