My whole life I never really understood people, I still don`t. But I manage. I`ve been looking for a girlfriend most of my life as well, but it`s always these games and stuff you know ... Am I too dumb to date, or too smart? What?! It`s so annoying, growing up I thought it was the norm to find someone to love pretty early in life, and then be together with that person for the rest of the life - what is the deal with all this nonsense, I don`t want to waste years of my life on dating alone, it`s so good to have someone to love. Is the reason because you want to have as much fun as possible before you "settle down"? Or you are too insecure? Do you think living with the same person, and having kids together, is a nightmare, so you try to avoid it as long as possible? Perhaps I`m just born old-fashioned. Or perhaps, I`m too ugly to be loved!

What is it with you people, can you explain how you think? :P

Well i am no judge of mens "looks"
But if i were to say...i would say you are a nice looking young man
And certainly NOT ugly pard
As far as the questions with ladies here
I think that the internet is both a blessing and a curse
The field of choices in men or women has become so vast
That MOST ...not all are overwhelmed and always trying to find the BEST possible candidates to suit them
Given such a large selection of men or women to choose from
It becomes easier and easier to just move on and hope for the next best "trade up"
Courtship has become such an effed up mess
NEVER compromise your beliefs and what makes you unique in being you
I believe you have just not had the good fortune of meeting her yet
NOTHING is wrong with you
And you just have to keep searching until the ONE comes along
I also believe that there are MANY folks who still hold morals and values
Above all this virtual "Cosplay" and Fantasy
Stay the course my friend....
SHE is out there somewhere and i know you will find her
Be Blessed !
And welcome

KiK

We have all had ideals, some we stick with pretty much our whole lives, others change. I wanted the happily ever after, that didn't work for me, but it has worked for others. Sometimes, you don't get what you want, very sad, but very true. Life teaches you, some lessons are not pleasant and down right painful, but all of life's lessons can be beneficial if we let them and learn from them.

Are you unable to love, is that why you have "ideals"? Sounds a little off, if you ask me.

Yeah, this is stupid really. But thanks!

well,its been a years am searching for true love and i dont know whats the problem in me..i am sweet,kind and loving person very simple but yet i still cant find him..i fall for a wrong person here in net wasting my time for himfor 8 moths only to found that he is a big liar its really hurts me but it will not stop me for hoping that someday the right person will come on my way so to u,dont be hopeless..

Just seen his account has been deactivated. I was gonna reply, but guess it's pretty pointless if he ain't here anymore.

How does that work anyway? I mean, he still shows up here with his picture even though his account has been deactivated??

That a man hang calabash on his neck does not mean , he is drunk , most people make mistake because they want to believe on what the see , all that glitter are not gold but all gold glitter , some people are not God fearing , honest and truthful , those who do not have real love to give are not truthful , if you are in love with somebody let he or she know that , because love is like madness and can only be cured by the people involved .

If they fail to remove their picture
before deactivation, it stays :-)

Thx for the info!

It's easy to blame other people or society and make excuses for your own failures and it's unreasonable to expect anyone to want to jump into a relationship with you without getting to know you properly first. Dating is meant to be fun and if you are going to be too serious and come out with stuff like this you are going to put off everybody apart from loonies and players.

it does seem that couples marry later and stay together for less time than when I was younger. Most of my friends including me were marreid out of college to their college or HS boyfriends, but that seems to happen less often.

Part of it maybe that women are now equally making choices based on their careers. also I think many young men and women saw one or both parents suffer financially and/or treated badly by the court system after a divorce so they hesitate to go that route. can't say I blame them.

we are seeing a slow evolution of people marrying later and not as often with an official "state" marriage. dating these days is not always intended as a predecessor to getting engaged like the past. just my thought. Good luck to you in your search.

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