If you had your life to do over again, would you do it all just the same? If not, what would you do differently?

Under the same circumstances, there's no way
I'd want to go back.

I would have become a Christian sooner, if
I could. Not that I was a horrible or bad
person. I think it would have given me
the faith to forgive those that hurt me
back then.

It would have subsided all the anger and
rage I felt as a teenager.

I'm sorry I wasn't set on the right path
years ago. Thankfully now I am.

I would think a lot of us would change some things about our lives, but i know there are a lot of things we have had to go thought to get us where we are today as far as growing and learning about ourselves. Some good experiences and some not.

It's a good thinking question ...because of my kids I would do it over again if I could change a few things I would .if I didn't have kids I would change a lot .

This is easy!

Every mistake and failure through the years has finally led me to the woman I love and the place I call home.

I would happily go through all the heartache and loneliness again just to look into my woman's smiling eyes.

Wading through crap sucks...But ,when you find peace....it is all worth it.

I wouldn't change a thing, everything I've done, and decision I've made is who I am today. And changing one thing may result in me not having met friends in my life.

I would not let friends influence me.

I would have still would have joined the military but I also would have gone to University so I can have a good high paying job. Most would say I missed out on marriage or relationships but after meeting jerk after jerk; I don't think I have missed out on anything.

Not trying out for the Royal Marine Commando's will be one of my biggest regrets....or even the Territorials.

Having said that im not sure i follow the morals of current campaigns. But then again its not the job of a serviceman/woman to question morals, just follow orders....

so maybe it was a good thing i didnt

I'd not have taken my first ever boyfriend back, so many times. It's not that I was a push-over, far from it. It was that my family would witness him begging me for another chance. So if they were in the same room, or same house, where we were, then they'd spur me on to give it another go. Yet at the same time, my gran would always tell me "If only he could see you now. Bet he'd regret it. You look good with that new hair". So, as you can imagine, I was always in a difficult position. Did I listen to my gut, even if it made my family think I was bitter by not taking him back? This is what I had to think about, every time we broke up. I kept telling myself I know who I am, so I shouldn't let anyone try to dictate me. And I know it. I know who I am. I'm someone who doesn't take no crap from anyone. If I do happen to ocasionally let a "bully" get to me, I normally ask myself "Why are you being like this? This isn't you. You normally rise above it. Be yourself and ignore it". I have a strong sense of self, but can't help thinking certain people would rather see me fail. I'd just tell em to grow up ;)

Sorry, I've blabbed on. I could have kept this brief.

nothing to be sorry about just shows your n open person a good quality

"Great topic" I plan to take some time to think about it before I answer. I like where I am in life right now but... I certainly thought I had all the answers when I was younger only to realize I was just another kid that needed to grow up.

The world is changing, the rules are changing, the same rules don't apply today that I lived by growing up.

I'm 53 now, single and happy in my life. I wouldn't have married and had kids so young and would have worked on a career earlier. Other than that, I think I've had a good and interestimg life

Pushing 60 with grown children and my elders passed I have thought a lot about it lately. I often wished I had come to California earlier and loaded up my Dad and ailing step Mom and taken them back to Atlanta when I first considered it. I like California and the peaceful life I had here but I wish I had kept my home there.

Less anger move love and logic,however if I had a do over I would make new mistakes so I guess my journey is why I'm really who I am now.

Relying on all what I've learned and came to know, I'd change absolutely everything without a doubt.

Thanks. Nice of you to say so :) Thinking about it, maybe my family got as used to mine and his relationship, as much as we ourselves did. After all, we were together a long time. And they hated the idea that I would ever dare date anyone else. I just knew I wasn't putting up with that on-off crap anymore. I knew I could feel attracted to other men if I tried, so it's not as if it was life or death for me. I guess he finally stopped trying to win me back, because he hasn't knocked on my door since "that" last text message. I can't deal with his mood swings.

It sounds like you stayed with him more out of peer pressure you could say from your families.and perhaps a bit of since you were together so long being afraid of being alone .the family thing I can understand with you I have a large family and sometimes they can pressure you

Very true, Shadow!

Yesterday is gone. It's better to forget about
it. Better to live in the present, than worry
about the future and think about our pasts.
It's gone and it ain't comin' back. Hehe!

Life has a big learning curve, and we have
to learn from both the good and bad experiences
we've encountered in our lives.

I don't think I would change anything...I have 2 wonderful young men that I have raised and now one is gone and the other one is starting college tomorrow. I had a lot of great friends in my life and had great times with them.
I might have changed the getting married part and just living together, it would have been cheaper to keep him. LOL I am just glad it is over and all finished.
I guess we are who we are by what we have been through