Now, to save a lot of people going nuts, this isn't everyone here.

Alas, it seems too often. I try to talk to someone, get chatty and after awhile or a few days, i hear nothing.

I just wanted to chat and i'm not rude in any form but i find it happening a lot and wonder why are people on a meet and greet site if not to talk and get to know people?

I stress, i'm not staring at the pictures like a creep or saying stuff that is bad/rude. Just get left here wondering why no one seems to just chat?

I need to get my head down but ild love to see others thoughts on this when i can tomorrow.

Thank you for reading

I may be wrong but I'm guessing people have lives outside of Mingle

I have an idea. How about making friends by participating in the regular forums much more often?

This

Just the way I see it....

This site in many ways mirrors regular life.

Some people will talk your damn ear off but not actually say anything.

Some people can chat up a decent and enjoyable friendly conversation.

Some folks are shy and ya gotta drag them out of their shells before you can get them to chatting.

Some freaks are just antisocial pricks ...that rarely speak...and when they do...it is mainly combative bitching and griping.

Believe it or not...there is a surprising number of people that actually refuse to carry on a conversation unless they think it will lead to an immediate relationship and those dumbasses want to skip the friendship /getting to know you phase.

Just take it with a grain of salt brother....all you can do is make the effort to connect to potential friends /lover's.

Beyond that.....ain't much you can do.

Hanging out in these forums is generally your best bet for finding someone to talk with.

(If you dig holier than thou verbal combat...I would suggest the politics or religion threads)

wow! 18 000 posts! You're the chatty type eh Krupa!

Yep Mel....hard to shut me up.

Though in comparison....there are plenty of kids here who only been here a year or two who got waaaay more posts than me.

:)

To me, "chatting" is often meaningless waste of time unless two people have a common interest.

What did you do today? How's the weather? What about politics? What is your religion? blah blah blah blah.

What are you wearing?

Meaningless chatter.

" what are you wearing ?" is a bit creeper status dont u say ?? lol

What? You stop just as it begins to be interesting?? ;)

Getting conversations going is always tough if you limit the conversation with posting minimal interests and experiences.

Adding photos and not repeating the same info is going to generate more exchange from folks. Especially if that carries over into conversations that you build on common interests and ask some general questions that are not too invasive.

You mention drinking several times in your profile so the first impression is you are probably more comfortable doing that rather than things that most women in their later teens and early twenties, the age frame that are going to most often be interested in you, are going to be into. First apartment, work, maybe expanding their education, favorite recreation, maybe some future plans; saving for a car. Now days there is a good chance they have a child or at least a room-mate.

Also after the initial novelty of talking to someone who lives out of country wears off the conversation is going to die out for someone more locally accessible. Few people are looking to be a travel host or can afford air fair and a passport.

Since more of the Nigerian scammers are getting hip to the fact that they use a local address it won't even generate a response they pick up a fake photo and UK address and most online users know it so innocent UK guys take the rap.

Thank you all for posting :)

I understand if people are out and about a lot, it was merely odd to me, nothing mean.

I know i should talk more on the forums but i honestly find it hard to talk to groups due to mental problems, even this post has taken me 20 mins as i have to keep myself going. It's a pain in the arse xD

It's fair enough if people tend to get bored or lose interest, which is fine, i kinda wish that people would just say tho. it may not make sense but im finding it hard to explain.

Krupa- Thank you for the kind words and tips, i shall remember it :)

PacificStar48- Thank you as well, i shall look at my profile and rethink it a bit. As for the convo's they were along the line that you described but not worries.

I also find it odd.

See, that's what I'm talking about. Chatting is just sex talk. Sorry, that doesn't do it for me.

People begin to talk to you--or anyone--out of politeness. When they stop, it is because they are not interested.

Move on.

That is correct.

Correct!

The day that texting took over phone calls was the day conversation died.

Yep. I hate texting, I don't do it.