Wuld you keep her

Assuming she wants to be "kept", that will depend solely on whether or not you can accept being with someone who does not and may never love you as you wish to be loved.

I think resentments could easily grow from this situation though.

If you don't fully accept that she does not love you and choose to stay with her, you may resent that she does not love you.

If you do fully accept that she does not love you and stay, you may feel content for a while but eventually resent both her and yourself for giving up opportunities for the kind of love you really wanted.

That's what I've seen happen in similar situations anyway. Good luck friend.

ok,but what culd be the feelins if seen around with a guy

As Cynderella has very well explained, that's the whole point!
If she does NOT love you and says she is not ready to love, staying with her is going to be very painful for you.

Quite often, the person not ready will then meet someone else and everything changes. Maybe then she thinks she's "ready" and goes for it. In the meantime, you are waiting for someone who is not "ready" for YOU. She may become "ready" for someone else.

Your heart will be broken if you stay with her, don't you think? How will you feel when she meets someone she wants to get to know better? You deserve someone who cares for you the same as you care for them. Not someone putting you off right now. "I'm not ready is a nice way to say no thank you".

That's what I see. I wish you love in your life and not on "stand-by"!

You love her.

She don't love you.

You see her with another guy.

Do you really need this explained to you?

Ok....You see a Ferrari or a Lamborghini.....You LOVE that car. But...it isn't your car. You can love it and want it...But, it belongs to someone else.

Even if you steal it for a little while....sooner or later you will lose it back to where it belongs.

Women are no different.

Think of it like this...put yourself in the woman's place.

A guy decides he loves you and wants you...But you don't want him....would you do what you know is wrong and let him have you just because it is what HE wants?

I doubt it.

Women have the right to chose who they love..

Great ideas!!

Best of luck to you brother.

We all deserve good love. ....the very best love is freely given.

If the girl doesn't appreciate you for being a good man...then she probably isn't very smart. Let her settle for someone less and move on to find a better woman who can appreciate you for you.

Trust me....I have fallen for some truly stupid women....I am glad those relationships failed....cause those failures led me to the woman who really loves me.

possibly jelousy

I totally agree with this. I will give you a very wise saying:
I you love (truly) something or someone, set it (he, she) free.
If it was yours, it(he, she) will return to you.
If not it (he, she) was never yours.

I went through this exact problem and I didn't think I could live past the pain it caused me. But I did and the one I loved married someone else and got divorced. He came back to look for me only problem is that when he came back I no longer saw in him what I thought I once saw. We stayed friends, but I would never give him my heart again.

Hope this helps. Best Wishes.

thats the spirit

tanks it really helps alot

hey grab a cup for that

I would temprory make some sexy girl friend and start kssing infront her to make her jealus.

When that happens.....it's time to call some hookers and party like Robert Downey Jr. did back in the early 90's.

hahahahah,u got an idea

yeah cheers for that

amen to that

we're just glad u were smart enough to know a good thing when it hopped in front of you!!

You can not make someone love you, in fact IF you keep
talking to this girl..you will freak her out. If she is
with another guy, that is your answer. That is a good way
to get your a$$ kicked or shot!!
Find you a woman of your own because even if this woman
gave you a chance, she might end up back with the guy
she is with now!!! WE LOVE WHO WE LOVE...WE CAN'T HELP
IT!!!

do you really think so but some girls dont knw what they want

Do you really believe that? When it comes to the type of men we
want, we know exactly what we want. Just like...do you men know
what you want? If you think you can change her mind, I think you are
making a mistake! Why would you want her if she is IN love with
someone else?