Hi
Newbie here.
Bit of an awkward one really.
I am in a long term relationship bit for the past 5 years or so we have lost the connection/spark.
I do love her as the mother of my children but will just don't get on any longer.
I would like to meet up with some new lady friends for friendship as I have no real lady friends and can relate far better with women.
Is this wrong of me to be looking like this?
I don't want to split the family up, which would all be directed at me!!
Don't really know what replies I will get but feel I need to put my thoughts out there.
Cheers for reading
Dan

I have found, that if one needs to ask if its wrong, or WHY its wrong,,,

its usually an attempt to justify what one has already decided they want to do

and it usually isn't a good decision,,,


I personally find nothing wrong with true friendships, in which case gender isn't an issue

but if there is some doubt about it, perhaps ur conscious is considering that it may be an issue WITH YOU,, and it may not be wise to pursue ,,,,

just my opinion though

If you don't want to slit your family up, then why not work on what is wrong, instead of finding a new gal.

ditto

I believe you already know the answer.
The truth is sometimes very hard to look at directly.
No judgement here!

If you are hiding in looking for female friends, then yes, it's wrong.
If in asking your partner if this is ok, and her answer would be..., then it's wrong.

Try to remember what it was like at first with your partner. The love and excitement you shared. The little things that meant so much. Having children has added lots of responsibilities so things have changed. Ask her out on a date and organize a sitter. Take her to a nice romantic dinner. Try to rekindle what you had by doing little things to show your appreciation. This will also teach your children how a man appreciates and loves their mother. Food for thought.

Pfffft. U should wake up dude and make an effort with your misses. Nothing worse than a cheater.

There's nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex...but all too often, I find that people sneak around looking for opposite-sex 'friendships' online because they are tired of their relationships or are looking to 'spice up' their personal lives, as I believe it is in your case.

The others are right. Work on your relationship. Or, leave it. There's nothing worse than dragging your entire family through misery.

Thanks for all your input guys!
It's nice to hear other people's views on life, as what's in front of you is sometimes never that clear!
Personally,I don't think I could try any harder than I have over the past couple of years! Things have just changed!
Thanks again.
Dan

No intention on cheating on her mate

Talking is always the first step.
Trying harder isn't!
I wish you the best! Stay honest and true to yourself!

Thankyou
Your words mean a lot.

Before you search for a different female friendship I would get a babysitter take your wife out to a nice restaurant take a long walk sit down and have a life heart to heart talk to see if things get get repaired again. It will either pull you together or make you realize its over. Good luck to you both and God bless!

Great advice.

I agree. I am currently going through a divorce with my wife & mother of my children. We let our relationship dissipate with little or no effort to recapture the love we once had for each other. I would do everything you can to rekindle your relationship.

If you are not looking for another relationship, then
maybe you should get off of a dating site and put more
effort into your lady that you already have? Everyone
always thinks the grass is always greener on the other
side...most of the time, its not.
If you have lost that spark, it means that you both have
stopped trying. Obviously you have stopped trying because
you my friend are on a dating site. Look how much effort
it took for you to sign up here...BUT yet you are not
looking for anyone else? I think you are kidding yourself!
If someone emailed you to meet up with you, you know you
would in a heart beat.
My advice to you is, get off of the computer and put some
effort into your mate. If you are IN love with her, actions
speak louder then words so go show her how much you love her.
You have to work on a relationship, it just does NOT grow
on its own!!!
Good luck

well, you are splitting your family up. set aside your feelings for a moment and ask yourself what your goals and priorities are, then act on those with the choices that will help you attain those goals

No intention of cheating? Ummm then why the hell are u on a dating site? Lol

Is this just a full on dating site then? No chance of finding friendship?
You may have me a little wrong! There are a few out there that do genuinely want friendship with the opposite sex, as stated in"a little about me"
Someone of the opposite sex who i can have fun with( I think fun is maybe the wrong word to use on here lol)
Is this such a bad thing?why does it have to resort to me wanting sex with a female!
The reason I am on here is to hopefully find someone with genuine interest as me and to become friends lol.
Everyone seems to be directing it to sex.
Or maybe I have the wrong site? Who knows.

To put you in the picture a little bit.
My partner is fine with me having male friends but female friends are a complete no no!!
This really was why I asked the main question.
Cheers.

If you mean just friend's, then I think it's harmless. We all have friend's of both sexes. And maybe you just feel like you can't talk about it to your OFFLINE friend's? Just like when I never tell anyone if I feel ill.