Just a curious questions.

I know older man/ younger lady relationship has been round forever but it seems in the last 20 odd years older woman / younger guy relationship is become more frequent.

My question is what's your views on the whole 'cougar' relationship?
Has anyone or is anyone on this forum in a older woman / younger guy relationship? If so how did you find it and what was the age gap?

I'm a 27 year old guy who's recently ended a relationship of 4 years with a beautiful 42 year old.

Like any relationship..it can definitely work, I have heard many stories where the age gap is up to 20 yrs or more and ended up married. No relationship is guaranteed to last forever no matter what the Gap is.

The hardest part is getting past what other people think. I have dated a few..obviously since I am here mingling,it did not work, but neither did the ones my age. Theres nothing wrong with it. Do what you want, its your own life and its too short.

Have fun

If you read statics this whole cougar sensation is primarily a myth inspired by popular media, in other words sex sells, what the reality is of guys 20 yrs younger or so dating older women, some have mother and abandonment issues, but for most of these men, what with woman becoming more and more successful (they now outpace men as business owners), well quit frankly these guys are male gold-diggers, I have known several of these types of relationships and in most of them the woman winds up being more of a mother to these young men, several women have been taken for everything they have by these male gigolos, the same can be said for the men in similar situations, which is still more common.

For the record not saying a younger guy can't find an older woman attractive, but ladies come on were guys, and guys really really like sex ...lol

I can only speak from my experience but I don't agree with the male gold digger tag(that's not to say it doesn't happen) I genuine find older ladies extremely attractive, more so than ladies my age.
I also don't agree with the abandonment issue. I was brought up in a loving family.

What the phuck is up with all the cougar questions lately? Has Mingle become cougar central?

This is still not the norm, more common still for older men with younger woman, its just a fact that men age more gracefully, have more maturity then younger men do, and as well woman want someone that helps them to grow as individuals, now I have known some very mature younger dudes that have earned and gained my respect, but it is more an exception to the rule.

I would never date a younger man over 10 years age difference. We have nothing in common and unless I lower my mentality to his; the relationship simply will not work. I think of things like being in an old folks home while he is in his prime which wouldn't work for me. When I gave a rat's *** about dating; I often thought how nice it would be to retire together at the same time so we can enjoy our retirement. I have no wish to babysit a younger man and I have found younger men are more focused on just having sex with an older woman rather than actually getting to know her. However; if it works for you go for it but history has shown that vast age differences usually don't work as you have very little common ground.

Very well put and so spot on.

Well I dated a guy briefly when I was 43..he was 25. He blew me away one day when he messaged me on yahoo after I had moved to another city but didnt tell him. He was quite upseet and accused me of using him for sex. What a twist..I felt bad. At that time I was broke and jobless.

Another guy I was in a relationship with and lived with [8 yrs younger] still wants me back after 4 yrs. Its not always about money and sex and if it is..thats easy to figure out. I actually get along much better with younger men as I have been told I have a young mind [dont confuse that with immature]

I really would love to find someone my age who thinks young but they are too busy chasing young women..thats the truth

I would like to also mebtion that common interests and communication are important. Not all older men are good commnicaters.

Just saying

It is kinda wierd..isnt it?

Yes they turn 40, buy that lil red sports car they always wanted and decide all of a sudden that they LOVE hiphop and start chasing 20 yr olds then send dirty and obscene messages to women on chats.
I litterally get more of that from men my age than younger..its sickening

YUP..more mature

I don't agree that men age more gracefully though. A man in mid-life crisis is not graceful about his age as he will grasp at any straw to feel younger which means buying toys, dating younger women, and foolishly trying to raise another child when they are just about to retire. I see nothing graceful in that. I have dated lots of men who have stomachs of a 6 month pregnant woman. Women are more accepting of man that gains weight, grey hair, and wrinkles but men think women need to look like a 19 year old model which is I think is unfair. I certainly don't look like I was at 19 and yet men my age can't understand it. I do accept my age and don't come on here with the " I feel like 30" crap. I am going to be 53 this Friday and although active; I am not nor do I pretend to be 30. This is called aging gracefully which is accepting your age and accepting how you look.

I find women around my own age much more appealing, when I look at most younger woman they just remind me to much of teenagers, as they are still in that phase of their lives, I love most is conversation, can't really have that with younger girls, and it's not always the older men chasing younger girls, more like the opposite, I have had a few younger ones attempting to date me, since I am 52 my cutoff is usually no younger then say late thirties. most women I date are mid 40's and up, I just have a lot more fun being with women in this age group, I am also a person that thinks young, I still enjoy a little silliness once in a while and the simple things in life, not a partyer though, been there, done that.

And of all the relatonships, only 2 cheated..they were my age and cheated with much younger women. The younger ones didnt.

Not all older men do I know but the good ones are happily married and if not, then they are few and far between

Age will always be a number...if the body chemistry was not there,,it would be a total waste of time irrespective of the age gap.....Some men find older women more attractive than the younger...Besides,,older women do have the impression that they have really come of age and would like to stick to one man....Just unlike younger ladies that claim they want to live life to the brim by flirting around.....

Guess my outlook has lot to do with the way I was raised, having a strong mother figure and a dad with that quiet strength, in other words I was taught moral's most the guys my age that I know are widowers, some just don't understand the dating scene anymore, after being married most their lives, they believe they have to act like teenagers, cause in most cases they don't know any better