Wanna know something weird? I've never dated a guy older than me. They always happen to be younger than me. Just the way it is I guess? I won't complain. They're very light-hearted, and more adventurous. The one I date about five years ago, the sweetest ever, but of course it couldn't last, because he had to move to another country, to keep his job. A call centre he worked for, had told him they were moving to India. So, crap happens.

I disagree that age is just a number. As you age; you get wrinkles, grey hair, weak bones, harder to keep weight off, prone to more age related illness, injure yourself more easily; takes longer to heal (that is if you do heal at all); prone to arthritis; and are no longer employable. Nope age is not just a number when you are older; you are that much closer to dying. These are things a man or woman in their 20s and 30s don't and will never understand.

I do agree with you here, my Dad married a lady that was 19 years
younger and it did hurt their relationship when my dad
got older. He was ready to sit at home and do nothing and
she was still young enough to want to go out and do everything.
In the end they ended up getting a divorce but only after my
Dad had a head injury accident and he said that he never loved
her. We all knew better but he thought he still loved my
Mom. If anyone knows anything about a head injury patient,
you all go through he!!. It is very confusing for the patient
because they have lost track of time.
I have always said that age is just a number, but I now know
that I don't think I could keep up with someone who is a lot
younger then me. I have a lot of health issues and I would
never want to drag anyone into my life and my problems. This
is why I am here just for friends...my life is a maybe life.
If anyone is sick, they understand what I mean.

I am sorry to hear that you are suffering from health issues. I was lucky to recuperate from a crippling car accident and I am fairly healthy and only have some minor pain in my knees; however I am finding that I don't do the bar scenes or stay up very late anymore. I can't stand loud music as it gives me headaches. Age is a number but with me its a high number. I think when people get into these older/younger types of relationships; they really don't look at the whole picture of how it can play out.

Thanks navygirl, I am glad that you are better from you car
accident. I know when you have cancer, it just takes a toll
on you. After that I ended up having horrible migraines and
my body is just not the same. I live a maybe life because I
never know if I am going to feel good or not. I can not make
plans ahead because of the migraines...I live my life day by
day.
I know my family does not understand when I say that I am ready
when the good Lord calls my name. BUT they do not live in my
shoes every day. Then my boys get very upset and tell me that
they want me to see their children and they need me. I know how
I felt when I lost my Dad almost 5 years ago and I still have
not gotten over it, and I doubt I ever will. But when you are
sick all the time, what kind of life do you really live? I just
can't make my family and friends understand that.
This is why I am not afraid of death, I know someone started a
thread about that a few days ago. I look forward to seeing my
Dad and step brother, nephew, grannies and grandpas, aunts and
uncles again. But until my name is called...keep smiling and
moving on!!!!

I do not want to be a 'cougar' in my relationships. I have dated a couple years younger but that was Years ago.

I find the thought of an older woman appealing. Not for money, maybe for the sex :) but mostly because I believe that most know what they want and how to get it and ain't going to change their mind halfway through. Also you could learn a lot about life from them with their past experiences. Don't know if I would spark a serious relationship with one though maybe just for some fun. I'm a very good learner and they older they are the better the teacher. But wouldn't go for someone that is over 50 though. Would hate for her to have a heartache lol

If you're not looking to be in a serious relationship, then just tell her, because setting someone up for heartbreak is cruel. If you just want to mess around, again, make it clear to her, and make sure she also want's nothing serious.

How do you know that you would not be the one with the
broken heart? LOL sorry just teasing!!
This is a BIG reason why I do not believe in the whole
"friends with benefits" thing. Sure some people might
think it is fun and maybe it is, BUT eventually someone
is going to get hurt.
You can not tell me that if you have a sexual relationship
with someone for a year or whatever, that there are no
feelings there. Some type of feelings have got to form.
How in the world do you have sex and not get close to that
person? I don't know, maybe I just don't understand the
whole concept of the friends with benefits thing. I myself,
like the feeling of being close to someone and sharing those
same feelings. I don't think I would like having sex and then
getting up and dressed and saying thanks and out the door I
go? WTH is that? I think I would feel terrible about myself.

Hmmmmm. It doesn't matter how old I am, no guy will get away with using me for sex. It's not age dependant. It depends more on intention's. He'd be gone from my door in a nano second, if that's all he wanted. I need something I can treasure. My body isn't a machine.

Yeh lol cuz us 20-30 ur olds will never age lol. Immortal?

Dirty old man
pervert
malo


No, I'm not speaking from experience...

Hahha never said u could never get attached hence the "would hate for her to have a heart attack"

I have to say that I have never gotten close emotionally with any of the guys I was with who were more than 8 yrs younger than me..sure they treated me well but other than fun..it just wasnt there

You are missing the point. I was talking about relating between a 2030 year old and a 50 year old; however you did prove my point that you don't understand.

Haha no I do understand ur point hence my last post "wouldn't do anything with 50+ yr old cuz wouldn't want her to have a heart attack lol

Puleeeeeeeeeeeeeeease

really

the young are pretty unaware regarding sexuality as one ages - to the point of ignorance really, but that is pretty normal. why would they know anything about it?

It' s just that it's kind of rude and ignorant to comment insultingly and offensively at all & especially something about which one really knows nothing