Topic: returning messages!!!!
tripy333's photo
Tue 07/23/13 02:51 PM
i'm sure we all know how hard it is to send someone a message...wouldn't it be nice if people could just take a second and respond without being rude but just some kind of acknowledgment that they actually got the message...even though this isn't in person its just typing it still kinda leaves a mark on you....is there anyone out there who as well thinks this way....Sam

soufiehere's photo
Tue 07/23/13 02:58 PM
Welcome :-)

Sure, at first, I tried to reply to every action.
Carpal tunnel sets in.
Not to mention, if you reply with anything negative,
you get to see some REAL whacko personalities emerge.

Tis easier to just not reply to them all.

And, you can always check to see if they have read your email.

Best of luck :-)

Jesusprincessmt's photo
Tue 07/23/13 02:59 PM

i'm sure we all know how hard it is to send someone a message...wouldn't it be nice if people could just take a second and respond without being rude but just some kind of acknowledgment that they actually got the message...even though this isn't in person its just typing it still kinda leaves a mark on you....is there anyone out there who as well thinks this way....Sam


If I have not met someone in the forums, and/or if they send me a message I do not understand and/or there is no picture, I usually delete the message. I do not need an inbox full of junk

no photo
Tue 07/23/13 03:35 PM

i'm sure we all know how hard it is to send someone a message...wouldn't it be nice if people could just take a second and respond without being rude but just some kind of acknowledgment that they actually got the message...even though this isn't in person its just typing it still kinda leaves a mark on you....is there anyone out there who as well thinks this way....Sam


A few suggestions:

Put up some updated pictures.
Fill out your profile a bit more.
Make sure you're writing emails that give people something to respond to, rather than just saying hi.

That being said, not everyone is going to respond. It happens to us all.

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Tue 07/23/13 03:37 PM
No response means they're not interested. Not sure why someone has to type out "Not Interested" to get the point across.

Foxfairy's photo
Tue 07/23/13 03:50 PM
Edited by Foxfairy on Tue 07/23/13 03:55 PM


Welcome :-)

Sure, at first, I tried to reply to every action.
Carpal tunnel sets in.
Not to mention, if you reply with anything negative,
you get to see some REAL whacko personalities emerge.

Tis easier to just not reply to them all.

And, you can always check to see if they have read your email.

Best of luck :-)

Really true.

Youre right tho, its hard sending a message and it makes you feel like poo. Unfortunately some folks like to go off, even if you turn them down politely. Changes the kind niceties we used to afford each other.sad2


When joining this site, I did intend on being one of those people who ALWAYS REPLIES to everyone who writes me. What actually ended up happening though is people who seem incompatible often are, and rejection, even implied not direct, can make some people nasty. To avoid this I tried writing more details in my profile but, some people refuse to read them, or will write saying things like...I know I am not what you are looking for BUT. So I understand what other people are saying, after a while it becomes about not validating people who choose to ignore your feelings.

Dodo_David's photo
Tue 07/23/13 03:57 PM

i'm sure we all know how hard it is to send someone a message...wouldn't it be nice if people could just take a second and respond without being rude but just some kind of acknowledgment that they actually got the message...even though this isn't in person its just typing it still kinda leaves a mark on you....is there anyone out there who as well thinks this way....Sam


Nothing requires a Mingle2 member to read a message that another member has sent, let alone respond to a message. So, a member isn't doing anything wrong by not replying to a message.

tripy333's photo
Tue 07/23/13 04:13 PM

thanks to all just ran down stairs for a second and had no idea people would respond so fast... the carpal tunnel one was a go answer i guess i was just kinda feeling a little bit of self pity there for a moment but again thanks to ALL for your responses and i'm definitely over it!!!!!!!!!!!!! all the best....tripy!

no photo
Tue 07/23/13 04:14 PM

No response means they're not interested. Not sure why someone has to type out "Not Interested" to get the point across.


And those that have done that in the past don't as much anymore, because some men get incredibly nasty when someone isn't into them. It's just not worth it.

no photo
Tue 07/23/13 04:18 PM
Don't be discouraged dude. Who we are will never please everyone. Some girls just get off at the attention that thrives their ego, others may have different reasons. It's never personal mate.

Sethgg's photo
Wed 07/24/13 12:59 PM
Ur tottaly right man. But when it happens a number of times u just say to urself y bother u know

Sethgg's photo
Wed 07/24/13 01:06 PM
Just when I thought I was the only one going thru this.

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Wed 07/24/13 01:19 PM
Edited by a_simpleguy99 on Wed 07/24/13 01:24 PM
Jeez, quit whining. Any woman that reads this ranting thread who might have replied to one of your emails in the future probably wont now. If your messages are near as whiney as this post then thats why you arent getting any replies. Women like confident men, not ones that need coddled feelings

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Wed 07/24/13 03:15 PM
Ye don't ever beg women online, or infact real life. If you don't get a reply don't take it to heart remember they don't know you. You will usually find they have harems of men on their friends list they love the attention. Digital temptress' they find happiness from pettiness. Abolish your insecurities.

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Wed 07/24/13 03:25 PM

i'm sure we all know how hard it is to send someone a message...wouldn't it be nice if people could just take a second and respond without being rude but just some kind of acknowledgment that they actually got the message...even though this isn't in person its just typing it still kinda leaves a mark on you....is there anyone out there who as well thinks this way....Sam



Yes it would be 'nice' but we don't always get what we want.
Sometimes by being 'polite' u end up having a bunch of psychos trailing u in desperation.
Not cool.

motowndowntown's photo
Wed 07/24/13 03:55 PM



Welcome :-)

Sure, at first, I tried to reply to every action.
Carpal tunnel sets in.
Not to mention, if you reply with anything negative,
you get to see some REAL whacko personalities emerge.

Tis easier to just not reply to them all.

And, you can always check to see if they have read your email.

Best of luck :-)

Really true.

Youre right tho, its hard sending a message and it makes you feel like poo. Unfortunately some folks like to go off, even if you turn them down politely. Changes the kind niceties we used to afford each other.sad2


When joining this site, I did intend on being one of those people who ALWAYS REPLIES to everyone who writes me. What actually ended up happening though is people who seem incompatible often are, and rejection, even implied not direct, can make some people nasty. To avoid this I tried writing more details in my profile but, some people refuse to read them, or will write saying things like...I know I am not what you are looking for BUT. So I understand what other people are saying, after a while it becomes about not validating people who choose to ignore your feelings.



Just gotta say that is one heck of a cup of coffee.
I have felt the same way some mornings.

1Cynderella's photo
Wed 07/24/13 04:01 PM
I'll respond to most messages, but am never sure what to say to "Hi". what It makes me wonder if that's all they ever put in a letter too. I think a good rule of thumb when writing would be to ask if the contents of the message would be worth a stamp if you were mailing it. :thumbsup: