Since when you marry you promise to stay with her (or him) for richer or for poorer, should you hold out for richer before you get married just to give yourself that extra edge in life?

It seems to be so popular to proclaim that money does not matter, but as short as a century or two ago wealth was a major factor in determining someone's suitability as a spouse.

When you marry someone poor you may find yourself working two jobs and never having family time or vacations. When you marry someone wealthy you may find yourself working 8 to 5 and golfing on weekends, with vacations twice a year. Arguments over paying bills and housekeeping might diminish as well.

Mike...

My soon to be EX made less than 1/2 the amount of $$$$ that I did. That did not stop me from marrying him. Although we never really fought over money, the demise of our relationship was his lack of AFFECTION and ATTENTION........


He only cared about himself and how he could make me feel like a paycheck

I have always been the money bringer in, but my ex did work also and she didn't have to ,just wanted to.
But I believe that if she is humble and willing to work, THATS as good as if she did work or found a job.
I am simple and non demanding in any relationship, and SHE would also have to be THAT way, so MONEY wouldn't be a issue,
or a TALKED about much kind-of thing, just doing what the bills require and setting aside some each week for fun..
Money WILL NEVER be WHAT IM ABOUT!! Or looking for..

wheni get marry i want to give my wife a good life


and give her what ever she wants and put her in college

filoss....you keep talking about marriage......

I knew a bro who met a nice lady, she moved in with him, and she drank a little to much but said she loved him and then she wanted to go to Culinery School, he had no problem doing THAT for her, but it was in another state from them, and she then told him she met another dude, and said good-bye to my bro.
But, life went on and she got her degree, and he got her bills.
Then I think, wow, isn't life so full of caring and feeling what others do for YOU!!!

Can I marry someone for love and money???

I married for love once.... did not work out. We didn't have much money. I didn't even get child support when I divorced him.

I am not sure I will marry again, but I would love to have a partner to grow old with, do things with, and enjoy things with. Is that possiable?

who knows what life will bring

ya maybe if I go to hollyweird Matthew McCaunhey will marry me!!!!

Hands off Mathew... *S*

You're in trouble if you're marrying for those reasons.

Money helps, but it's not EVERYTHING.

It's more important to agree on the type of life/lifestyle you want to have together.

Eh. It's too early in our relationship for marriage talk anyway, Philosopher!

MY THEORY IS ......


IF YOU AINT GOT NO MONEY TAKE YOUR BROKE (_(_) HOME!

I noticed you covered the negative for marrying someone with a less income but didn't for someone with a higher salary. The negative would be with their hours there could be less time spent with their mate, increasing a gap between the couple.

Personally, I will take a low income gentlemen versus a high class income snob any day. When you die money means NOTHING.

I thought the wedding vows are "For better, for worse"

if you agree to work as a TEAM in ALL things then money only plays a small factor in a marriage.. there has to be trust too for the management of those funds.. either way.. with or without.. if there's not a common RESPECT and a good solid Friendship base.. you have nothing.. but that's just MY opinion

zero effected hit it right on the nail

applause~ lol

for better or for worse......hmmmmmmm he better not be worse!!!

oh and that part....for richer or "poorer" we didnt hear the poor part.......we became deaf at that part!!!

I can see where money issues can become an important part of the marriage and it also can become a big stresser in the marriage when one spouse is not very good with money and is not keeping up his/her end of the financial part....I can see where it can be very hard on the marriage because BOTH spouses have to work 2 jobs and there is NO time for each other or the kids...Money ISN'T everything but it sure helps...