Ok, so I'm new to this site and all I seem to be getting are perverts.. Or men asking to have sex with me on the spot. I'm really losing interest in this site. Please tell me this is not some kind of site for people who are only looking for fun..

Which spot?

Meaning that they want to meet up and have sex today. sight unseen..

The username Spicy may not help you avoid them. I understand that you're a chef, but the men the word spicy appeals to are not reading profiles if they're playing a numbers game here.

Thank you for that.. I truly didn't think of that.. I guess I should change my name then.. But I don't think that would really make a difference.. Guess I should just keep it to the old fashion way and try to go out more often..

You should give it a shot.
Lots of cool people hang, you would be a welcome addition.
And you never really know who is waiting..for you..and where :-)

so a couple of guys are up front, and since their wants offended you, the whole site sucks. when you go shopping and a shop has items you like but a few items you don't like, do you give up on the shop and say it sucks? you ignore the items you aren't interested in and enjoy browsing the items that have your interest. a guy who tells you he wants sex from the get go should be helpful to you. the guy who pretends to want your heart and after he gets your vajayjay is the one you should be upset about. i guarantee i guarantee this site is what you make of it

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Hey there, a big hello from BC. I just like to have fun! That's what life's all about. Not just the incredible sex that may come after a relationship. Live your life to the fullest and the best will just fall into place. Take your time, they are out there... He'll, drop me a line. Lol. Take care and enjoy whatever you do...

OK. This is not some kind of site for people who are only looking for fun..

Hey, since you are a chef, tell me something. Do you know any recipes for cat? Sure, being that I am a Melmacian, I have the Ultimate Melmacian Cat Recipes book, but I was hoping to learn some Earth recipes for cat.

The question is sex and love which comes first?

Even with some you know, it still takes time, there has to be that mutual feeling first..

I kinda understand the comment about your screen name and how its just a reference to your line of work. I too have a screen name that may sound provocative but is not really who i am. Its more of a nickname that incorporates my real name into it. I am more of a relationship type of guy who falls in love with the wrong type of girls. My 'shameless' comes from not harboring remorse for the poor choices I've made but learning from them. Remember...often "we accept the love we think we deserve."

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You should just ignore them. That'll get the message across. As for decent, I'm not sure there's only one place they can be found. There were many decent men my age in college, and one I got talking to became my bf for a long while. Just keep hanging out at the places you like. Best not to worry about it. I try not to even go looking anymore.

I like your advice. And especially don't put your life on hold when it's summertime, as that's when you're most likely to meet more men, because it just happens that way. lol. Sure I don't expect to find a new lover, but I won't stop going on holiday with friends, and other stuff. Love life is just a small fraction of your WHOLE life. I wouldn't rely on just one place to find Mr Right. He could be anywhere ;)

LOL

I'm a very decent guy, that may not shine right through as I laugh at soufiehere with her "which spot?" comment. I just had to laugh though, cause well it was funny.

I had tried this site before but never found any women in my area at the time, i'm not holding my breath for this time out either, but I figure what have I got to lose? If you don't put it out there you will never know. So here I am again trying to put it out there and hopefully one day i'll find another woman who will make me happy and let me do the same for her, any way I can. Breakfast in bed, doing the dishes, folding the laundry, picnics on the beach and long walks with the dogs, damn I hope shes not allergic to dogs! I love dogs and I am hoping to get another one in the future.

There are always going to be those sick depraved individuals who only think sex,sex,sex,sex,sex,sex,SEX!!! And most of them seem to believe that is the only reason people join these sites, which is very sad and there is never going to be any way around that. They will always be lurking online waiting to show you a pic of there poor overly abused gentiles, and beg for you to pleasure their sick fantasies, all you can do is set your blocks and write a brief message stating that your not looking for such behaviors in a person and hope to whatever god you pray to that they skip over you.

There are however many of us decent guys that just need to catch a break with the ladies again and not have to crash back into the dating scene head first like unknowing fools and hope we can find someone who might understand, no, im not retarded... I just haven't done this in years! and yes I do know how to zip my pants, I just can't keep my hands out of my pockets, cause im nervous as **** and don't know what to do with them, and that is what makes my zipper slowly fall to the floor! Damn that was an embarrassing night! I'm sure she thought I was doing it on purpose LOL.

This was much longer then I intended sorry for that.

New to the site just wondering who is out there.