I say to myself that I can be loved...it is by no means impossible. But the problem is...I know (or at least I think I know) that nobody will fall in love with me. That means I can have friends and people around me....but seems like I'll never get a boyfriend... I am able to think rationally..and say m being wrong ...m too young to know anything at all...all my life is ahead. But the problem is not reality....but how I feel. I doesnt really matter even if I had a million boys liking me......if I dont know it... I'll feel like this anyway.
I dont want to fall in love anymore....because it is useless.....it is always unrequited. And seems like it'll be a long time before I'll be able to change my way of seeing this. I wonder if I'll really find someone in my life... There are people who never find anyone, r8? So how can it be sure m not one of those? Remaining faithful to my true self....I wont change what I am for someone to like me for my outside.....so I'll have to find someone that sees my differences as qualities.......Or more presicely: they'll have to find me

Awww

Here is what I know for sure. The more you grow and evolve and embrace the fullness of who you are the less you will feel the need for a life partner. And the less you feel the need for one, the more likely you are to find one. It is an interesting paradox.

Fill yourself up. Create a big, beautiful happy life for YOU! Because it is joyful and expansive for YOU! That will be the biggest turn on for any guy. You will know what you want. You will be fulfilled and less likely to settle for less than you deserve and desire. And you won't cripple a guy under the pressure of having to make you happy. You will be free to love and enjoy the heck out of one another.


...and ... Try reframing your point of view to being a hopeful romantic rather than a hopeless one. Words have power.

I just read your profile, it explains some things to a layperson like me, you said nothing about yourself, I would bet money you have great things to offer and receive, but I would be guessing. Put yourself out there, you're worth it :)

i do get what u r trying to say..just be true to myself..u know you dont need a partner to be happy which i came to know much much later. Life is so much harder when you have a low self esteem... so I try my best not to think about it too much... I always imagine myself being gorgeous and hope that one day I will be

u know everyday when I see myself in the mirror... I frown. Where I come from m just surrounded by beautiful people who have no worries or a care in the world and I always wonder why I didnt turn out to be like them..Everyday I try my best to keep myself smiling and laughing instead of staying quiet and depressed about all the things that make me wanna cry and so far its been working....m not the same person I used to be a few years ago when I started to get all these negative emotions which is a good thing... m starting to enjoy the small things in life and I dont feel so sad like I used to....n yes i find somewhat difficult to actually describe me..so i just leave that portion out

Low self esteem is not a life long curse ... It is just a set of beliefs that you bought into that didn't originate with you in the first place.

I had very low self esteem growing up. You can change anything.

And finding love doesn't mean you have to be gorgeous by societies standards. When I started loving myself, other people started loving me ... Even those guys for whom I wasn't their 'type'.

Learn to accept and love you. Embrace the amazing gift you are to the world. Create a full happy life. The rest will take care of itself.

instead of comparing yourself to others that you feel
have all these great attributes that you feel you dont

change you attitude and outlook as to how fortunate
you are for the things you have & things you can do

I remember having discussions with my dad when
things felt like they weren't going so well in my life
& the bottom line was " there's always somebody
worse off than you, you've only have to take a look
around".
so when I remember that, it snaps me out of that way
of thinkng, and makes me think of the misfortunate
people of life.
with problems that are irreversible: great loss, health, severely bad
history.
not to say that some of the people in these situation can't improve
their life either.

so the way of thinking is everything! very powerful.
its up to you

We all know how you feel, most of us have been there a time or two along with way, keep positive and listen to the positive feedback, start with your profile, tell the world that you have arrived :))

I'm just gonna say this bluntly. Right now...you are your own worst enemy. I can tell you realize who you are. And yet you also use this as a crutch. I know this because...a long time ago I was like this. However, what you have to realize is that you do not need to feel that no one will ever love ya. You keep thinking this then you'll just end up that way. Thinking rationally is fine. But what is going to make some guy notice you is (1) a physical attraction and then (2) your awesome self. That's it! You'll end up with a dude because of these two things. Be who you are because that is your true self. But also realize that men want to be attracted to a woman. Is true. We are just shallow like that. Lol. When a chick is awesome and has a great sarcastic humor and you add that with an attraction.....that equals man being into you. Good luck to ya! Goof out!

well things are been getting better..its just a matter of time..anyway thanks for you suggestions

WOW!!thanks for ur concern

well i did took ur suggestion n have edited my profile

Wow girl, I must say "Go there, but don't stay there!" At one time or another I think we have all felt like that. First, understand this, in order for someone to love you, you must first love yourself. Remember no one is responsible for your happiness but you yourself. Yes, the sun shines so much brighter and the flowers smell so much sweeter if you have that someone special to share it with, but what if that never happens? Are you going to waste the life God has blessed you with just because you don't have someone to share it with? Take joy in what you have and when you can love you then God will bless you with the right person. You could have anybody, but it that what you want? Or do you want the best. Anything worth having is worth waiting for.

I know it's probably cliche, but there are plenty of people in this world who date people just to fill their own insecurities..As far as "everyone is already in relationships", it goes to an old saying, "When you're single all you see are couples. When you're in a relationship, all you see are single people."well m kind of bored so i have just lost my patience.

It's my belief that you can't expect other people to be excited about who you are when YOU'RE not even excited about who you are.

Of course if the frame of mind you're presenting us now, you may think you have nothing to be excited about yourself for. That's just your bad perspective talking. Teach your bad perspective to have good perspectives by writing down all your good qualities that you're proud off. I know it seems silly, but if you do it, you may be surprised how powerful that exercise can be in reminding ourselves of the good qualities we overlook when we're in a such a s slump.

Yes, I believe everyone here who has said we all have gone though this at some point in our lives. You can also be thankful that you're going through this early and getting it out of the way. Consider it a growth tool in your journey to discovering your deeper self.

Yep; I feel the same way but you have the advantage of only being 22 and have many years ahead of you so life can change for you and hopefully for the better. Me, I am 53 and there is nothing to look forward too at my age.

He's got alotta esperience in caring for the womens

Love can break you as well as make you , its a leap of faith and the strength it gives you can move mountains . The fall leaves us lost and in pain like no other , in life be careful what you wish for and if it finds you cherish each moment as though it was your last .