I think only half of mankind stays "on the hunt". The other half is content with their mate and sees no value in straying. I am loyal and I know some of my friends are too. I have family and friends who cheat also. Many animals mate for life. Whether or not mankind is wired that way is certainly open to debate.

As I get older monogamy seems more like a goal and less like a natural act.

Towards the original post, I would suggest just asking for an open relationship, and if that doesn't work then understand the likelihood of getting caught cheating eventually and just end it already or change your behavior to fit the expectations of the woman you're married to.

Or just own up that cheating isn't about sparing her feelings, but your own. Be self-aware in deceit.

Wow, what an attempt to explain all men . . . one that is flawed.

No woman can explain all men, just as no man can explain all women.

Plenty of men are able to be monogamous because they have God in their lives.

Lol im a nympho to and it's very distressing when. you don't have someone in your life that is the same even worse when your not getting it period if they don't want to put out I say go else where

Don't beat yourself up too bad. But maybe you are hooked on the endorphins and sex is how you got hooked. So maybe if you look at it as a medical issue and get some support you can do right by your lady who you obviously love. Best of luck!

Wow beauty and brains..! :) But don't forget that women are hardwired to be the one under the strong dominant man. Which is how the kids come in. We are primal survivors...We are at top of the evolutionary ladder and its been a pretty bareknuckle shitkickin trip.

You are a jerk... your wife probably senses this at some level which is the reason she does not respond to you. With the right man she will probably be a fire cracker.

You consider yourself to be good, you sure are into yourself, so I suggest you take a look at yourself before you put all the blame on your wife. Move on she deserves better!

I've known guys like you and I'm not turned on by their self love.

Usually men are not referred to as a nympho, men are naturally horny and want lots of sex.

Just because a man is Godly doesn't mean he is monogamous, Solomon had God in his life, and over 900 concubines, and he was considered one of the wisest men to ever live(but that could be because men get smarter when they are having sex...because they are plugged into geniuses...and he had a plethora of geniuses to plug into!)


However, I will agree if a man has committed to being monogamous God can give him the strength to remain so, so that he honors his commitment

I hardly talk about religion, because I'm not religious, but seeing as others are, I have a few Christian friend's, and they're always saying how unimpressed they are, that true christians don't come across as true. Especially in dating.

Hmm.
A. Make yourself comfy in front of the flat screen.
B. Shove a cattle prod.
C. Tie one end of a string to the trigger, the other end to yer hoo-ha (make sure the string is tight)
D. Watch pornos till you're cured.

Incorrect. I may be weird, but when I have a woman in my life, I honestly don't think about other women.

Email a copy of yourOP to your wife, that should solve the problem....

When the ex and I were first married I was a professional musician. I had so many opportunities to be unfaithful but I never acted upon them. I came from a broken home and I wasn't going to do that to my kids. I think that a man, or woman, who cheats is only concerned with themselves. Very selfish behavior plain and simple.

By having an affair, you have stopped working on your marriage!
So, don't continue to disrespect her, let her go! Get a divorce or at least move out!

Your assumption that she has a low sex drive is fully entertaining your "nympho" fantasies and gives you "permission" to go elsewhere for sex.

For a woman sex isn't just about physical sex! It's about intimacy! It's about a loving and caring relationship. It's about doing something for the other person with no expectations other than to please him/her. It's about knowing and acting upon little things that excite him/her! I could go on and on here...

It's obvious all you want is sex and perhaps the endorphines you get while cheating! Quit degrading yourself, your wife, and your (children?) family and LET HER GO.

She deserves a man who loves her physically, spiritually and emotionally. And that is certainly NOT YOU!

AMEN !
I have to agree totally ...
MAN UP !
And MOVE ON...
JMHO
And good luck !

And plenty are able to be monogamous and don't need religion to be that way.

$20.00 n u can scew all ya want then again muliple stds come with it too.... just sayin or there is always porn

wow. do I really live in a world where someone has said this? I am hardwired to find a lover and best friend who thinks I'm food for the body and mind and vice versa

not wanting to dominate me, which is not possible


anything else is just weird to me

All I can say is in my first marriage, my sex drive became low when I was the only one working while he entertained himself with internet porn. In my second marriage, my sex drive became low because 1 there was the lack of affection & 2 he was just too darn rough. I have an extremely high drive, but want someone with a balance of affection, passion, compassion, adequacy( well endowed), financial stability & also knows when to slow rolly & when to beat it up. Cheating does and will occur when one does not receive what they want or need at home...

sounds like you want alot