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Topic: How to remain married when you're a nympho?
sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 06/29/13 08:44 PM
how to remain married when u are a nympho? easy marry a two peckered billygoat....duh next question!

ruffsnowman Joined Wed 02/27/13 Posts: 6	Tue 07/02/13 02:01 PM
Do you know one?

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Tue 07/02/13 04:47 PM
Mis-matched sex drives won't help. You should have married a nympho to balance it out ;)

Mirage4279 Joined Sat 09/04/10 Posts: 2466	Wed 07/03/13 10:41 PM
Mis-matched sex drives won't help. You should have married a nympho to balance it out ;) Nice filter on your email shy.... thanks alot for the advice....

esedize Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 97	Thu 07/04/13 02:12 AM
no woman ll meet ur high sex drive wn u dnt make her happy u r d problem cure urself

4evababy Joined Tue 02/26/13 Posts: 9258	Fri 07/05/13 04:26 AM
keep him chained to the bed? or marry soneone who is also a nympho

CremeBrulee Joined Tue 11/06/12 Posts: 2726	Fri 07/05/13 05:55 AM
keep him chained to the bed? or marry soneone who is also a nympho

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Fri 07/05/13 11:56 AM
You don't have to be with anyone to have an orgasm.

ruffsnowman Joined Wed 02/27/13 Posts: 6	Mon 07/08/13 07:10 AM
Where is the fun in that?

isaac_dede Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 10632	Mon 07/08/13 11:09 AM
The best advice i've heard is "You can 'sort' of make your wife have sex with you(guilt trip, beg, etc...) However, what you can't to is make your wife WANT to have sex with you. Basically in a nutshell as one poster already said, sex was great in the beginning....then kind of died off...maybe you need to look at what was happening in beginning that made her INITIALLY attracted to you...and start doing those things again. Now for a little science..... Dopamine is the chemical that is responsible for happiness and basically a 'reward center' for our brian...that is why the affair felt good to you...it was exciting...dangerous..different...it gave you a shot of dopamine. Likewise the lack of dopamine is no fun, it's likely that if your wife has a 'low-sex' drive(unless documented by a doctor) it isn't that she really has a 'low-sex' drive it is that she has a low-sex drive when it comes to you...meaning that you aren't being exciting enough to give her brain a shot of dopamine...try doing something different....i.e. if you know she has a fantasy try to fulfill that(don't ask, just do it, and do it with confidence). You may be surprised to find that he sex drive is just fine....just give her a little excitement to get her going. You sure you've heard it all?

isaac_dede Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 10632	Mon 07/08/13 01:21 PM Edited by isaac_dede on Mon 07/08/13 01:22 PM
...look at what was happening in beginning that made her INITIALLY attracted to you...and start doing those things again... ...meaning that you aren't being exciting enough to give her brain a shot of dopamine...try doing something different... ....i.e. if you know she has a fantasy try to fulfill that(don't ask, just do it, and do it with confidence). You may be surprised to find that he sex drive is just fine....just give her a little excitement to get her going. You sure you've heard it all? Good stuff but you are applying what works for a man to a woman. Women dont just want a different kind of sex when we lose interest. It means we have lost the emotional attachnment. I would sooner recommend being affectionate and kind with no strings attached before trina get her into sex she doesnt want by offering different kinds of sex she doesnt want. I still think its time for counseling to really get to the root of the problem and work on communication and what is lacking for her to make sex with him unappealing. ...unless she has already withdrawn from the relationship entirely...too late...divorce. I really wish the OP good luck. Having cheated in addition may just be her ticket out. I should have specified that the something different didn't just mean different sex...that was just one suggestion...anything different that is exciting for her!, or that was exciting for her to watch him do, for example if he was a surfer when they first met and she enjoyed watching him surf....or rock-climb..or anything that INITIALLY attracted her. Could even be taking an unplanned trip to a place she'd enjoy, doesn't have to be sex-related. The main point is get her attracted to you again...because generally a low-sex drive isn't really a low-sex drive...it's a lack of attraction to the other party.

isaac_dede Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 10632	Mon 07/15/13 11:10 AM
You don't have to be with anyone to have an orgasm. True, true, however it is like traveling much more fun to share the experience with someone. :)

jacktrades Joined Tue 09/11/12 Posts: 4395	Mon 07/15/13 12:04 PM
Every relationship hits a dead spot. Sit her down tell her you love her and still find her desirable. Buy her some sexy outfits,night gowns. Take her out to a nice restaurant, a movie, a walk in the park . Buy her flowers show her you still love her and I bet soon your sex life will be up a running again!

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14601	Mon 07/15/13 01:14 PM
If you continue to be unfaithful, then you don't need a wife.

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Mon 07/15/13 08:00 PM
Where's the fun in that? Well, that seems to be what you're looking for. What's the point of holding on to her, if you're thinking about sex with others? Are you actually taking in any advice people give you on this thread? It seems like you're not really bothered. Well what do you want people to reply with? Saying that, how would some of us even know, if we've never been unfaithful? Maybe try asking other unfaithful types. I'm sure they'd have a better idea of your situation.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 07/15/13 08:21 PM Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Mon 07/15/13 08:27 PM
So...basically your love life is getting in the way of your sex life? or more like, his love life is getting his own way for a sex life....lol whatever the case may be....she is telling you that for her, sex with you is a chore...sounds like more than a book is needed as klc said if she has checked out emotionally there may not be much that you can do you might try talking to her instead of us?

isaac_dede Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 10632	Wed 07/17/13 11:56 AM
"How to remain married when you're a nympho?" Simple! Marry a woman who is also a nympho! but then the question becomes "How to keep a job when both you and your wife are nymphos and can't get out of bed?!?!"

lilredhollyhood Joined Thu 07/04/13 Posts: 223	Wed 07/17/13 08:09 PM
This man represents the side of men that men pretend don't exist or don't want to admit exist. This man is a primal sex-driven man who is doing exactly what science wants him, as a man, to do. And that's f*** multiple women. Monogamy isn't natural. It's forced for the sake of keeping "the kids", "the house", and "the car". If men didn't repress themselves, they'd all be like this man. But being that men repress, is why Porn exists. If it wasn't wired into a man to crave multiple women, porn would not exist.

sybariticguy Joined Thu 09/27/12 Posts: 1639	Thu 07/18/13 06:19 AM
There is no way to determine the specific sex drive of these two persons. However, the sex drives of people vary tremendously and if a couple are incompatible ( she likes sex daily he likes it twice a week) it may not be negotiable while other differences may be compromised and workable. Seems sads that he finds out about this glaring incompatability after marriage rather than before...

Breezy612 Joined Fri 07/19/13 Posts: 9	Fri 07/19/13 10:30 AM
@lilredhollyhood ... good insight gurl ... mad respect!!!