Topic: Do we marry because we lack self control sexually?
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Sun 06/23/13 06:26 PM
Hello folks!
I need your openion on this one.

Was reading through the passage of 1 Corinth, chapter 6&7 (about sexual immorality & principles of marriege)

In my little mind could pick up that the apostle Paul wrote these things in respond of what was written to him by the church members. He rebuked sexual immorality & addressed the married ones' on how they should condact them selves in marriege.

This is what i'm trying to understand falks
"....Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband" that's chapter 7:2-5

"Let the husband render to he's wife the affection due to her, and like wise also the wife to her husband. Do not deprive one onother...."

Is sex the altimate purpose in marriege?
Do we marry to fulfill our sexual desires? (since he says "Because of sexual immortality let each man have he's wife, and each woman her husband"

He carries on in verse 5
"Do not deprive one onother, eccept when fasting and praying and come together again so satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self control"

What I like about the apostle Paul in this passage, is that: he does say when he expresses he's own openion & he does say when its God speaking through him.
In this regard its him expressing he's own openion.

Do you think is that a way to go about when getting married? (ofcause sex is part of the package, but is marrying all about it?)



William8's photo
Sun 06/23/13 06:51 PM
I would think that it is also because of love and starting a family.

When 2 virgins meet they generally have the heart and mind for romance and liove. They fall in love and of all the Christian virgins I know of that have married, they are still together and happy .

Paul might be talking about 2.virgins who burn with passion to get married.

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Mon 06/24/13 10:57 AM
Edited by CeriseRose on Mon 06/24/13 11:14 AM

Hello folks!
I need your openion on this one.

Was reading through the passage of 1 Corinth, chapter 6&7 (about sexual immorality & principles of marriege)

In my little mind could pick up that the apostle Paul wrote these things in respond of what was written to him by the church members. He rebuked sexual immorality & addressed the married ones' on how they should condact them selves in marriege.

This is what i'm trying to understand falks
"....Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband" that's chapter 7:2-5

"Let the husband render to he's wife the affection due to her, and like wise also the wife to her husband. Do not deprive one onother...."

Is sex the altimate purpose in marriege?
Do we marry to fulfill our sexual desires? (since he says "Because of sexual immortality let each man have he's wife, and each woman her husband"

He carries on in verse 5
"Do not deprive one onother, eccept when fasting and praying and come together again so satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self control"

What I like about the apostle Paul in this passage, is that: he does say when he expresses he's own openion & he does say when its God speaking through him.
In this regard its him expressing he's own openion.

Do you think is that a way to go about when getting married? (ofcause sex is part of the package, but is marrying all about it?)





"And God blessed them, and God said unto them,

Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it:

and have dominion over the fish of the sea,

and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth."

Genesis 1:28


Fulfilling God's command to us (mankind) should always be
in the forefront of our considerations.

And especially the mind of a Christian.


msharmony's photo
Mon 06/24/13 11:01 AM

Hello folks!
I need your openion on this one.

Was reading through the passage of 1 Corinth, chapter 6&7 (about sexual immorality & principles of marriege)

In my little mind could pick up that the apostle Paul wrote these things in respond of what was written to him by the church members. He rebuked sexual immorality & addressed the married ones' on how they should condact them selves in marriege.

This is what i'm trying to understand falks
"....Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband" that's chapter 7:2-5

"Let the husband render to he's wife the affection due to her, and like wise also the wife to her husband. Do not deprive one onother...."

Is sex the altimate purpose in marriege?
Do we marry to fulfill our sexual desires? (since he says "Because of sexual immortality let each man have he's wife, and each woman her husband"

He carries on in verse 5
"Do not deprive one onother, eccept when fasting and praying and come together again so satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self control"

What I like about the apostle Paul in this passage, is that: he does say when he expresses he's own openion & he does say when its God speaking through him.
In this regard its him expressing he's own openion.

Do you think is that a way to go about when getting married? (ofcause sex is part of the package, but is marrying all about it?)







I think, if we have an addiction/need towards sex, it is best to make a marital commitment to one person for those needs

I also think within that commitment, there are dozens of other emotions and activities that we are meant to have/perform


so, in a way, if sex is not going to be part of a relationship, marriage is really not required/necessary

if sex is something that will be involved, marriage is required/necessary

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Mon 06/24/13 11:29 AM
Edited by CeriseRose on Mon 06/24/13 11:41 AM
Mature adults have sexual attraction.

The Lord made us this way... as do animals and plants.

Copulation is designed for reproduction.

The stimulation to do so is hormonal as well.

But sex CAN be a reward to the one mate who is "in the mood"

though the giver may not be.

This satisfies the urge and the excited mate may be less likely to stray.

msharmony's photo
Mon 06/24/13 11:32 AM
Edited by msharmony on Mon 06/24/13 11:35 AM

Mature adults have sexual attraction.

The Lord made us this way... as do animals and plants.




I dont necessarily believe this, but I dont have yet a specific explanation of what 'sexual attraction' is


and
'attraction' is so far away from a need or desire for sex itself,,,


I do know the body reacts to certain situations and physical contacts,,,but we have control over the situations and contacs we experience,,

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Mon 06/24/13 12:15 PM


Hello folks!
I need your openion on this one.

Was reading through the passage of 1 Corinth, chapter 6&7 (about sexual immorality & principles of marriege)

In my little mind could pick up that the apostle Paul wrote these things in respond of what was written to him by the church members. He rebuked sexual immorality & addressed the married ones' on how they should condact them selves in marriege.

This is what i'm trying to understand falks
"....Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband" that's chapter 7:2-5

"Let the husband render to he's wife the affection due to her, and like wise also the wife to her husband. Do not deprive one onother...."

Is sex the altimate purpose in marriege?
Do we marry to fulfill our sexual desires? (since he says "Because of sexual immortality let each man have he's wife, and each woman her husband"

He carries on in verse 5
"Do not deprive one onother, eccept when fasting and praying and come together again so satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self control"

What I like about the apostle Paul in this passage, is that: he does say when he expresses he's own openion & he does say when its God speaking through him.
In this regard its him expressing he's own openion.

Do you think is that a way to go about when getting married? (ofcause sex is part of the package, but is marrying all about it?)





"And God blessed them, and God said unto them,

Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it:

and have dominion over the fish of the sea,

and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth."

Genesis 1:28


Fulfilling God's command to us (mankind) should always be
in the forefront of our considerations.

And especially the mind of a Christian.



OP:
"Do we marry because we lack self control sexually?"



Some put sex as a higher priority than they should...

that is how it becomes the driving force.

It actually becomes a god-like command within us

when we allow our sexual desires to increase

or when we entertain those desires out of context.




msharmony's photo
Mon 06/24/13 12:26 PM
I truly think 'be fruitful' is a command to the first man and woman (Which makes sense)

as jesus and many others chose to not be sexually active or have children,,,

I dont think it was a 'command' to all human kind,,,,,



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Mon 06/24/13 12:36 PM
Man's spirit needs to be disciplined.
Without wisdom from God, mankind's behavior becomes beastlike.
Many become predators with untamed desires.


"Man that is in honour, and understandeth not,
is like the beasts that perish."



msharmony's photo
Mon 06/24/13 12:37 PM

Man's spirit needs to be disciplined.
Without wisdom from God, mankind's behavior becomes beastlike.
Many become predators with untamed desires.


"Man that is in honour, and understandeth not,
is like the beasts that perish."





completely, and many in fact, do consider themself very basically no different than any other 'animal'

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Mon 06/24/13 12:50 PM
Edited by CeriseRose on Mon 06/24/13 12:57 PM

I truly think 'be fruitful' is a command to the first man and woman (Which makes sense)

as jesus and many others chose to not be sexually active or have children,,,

I dont think it was a 'command' to all human kind,,,,,





It is interesting that God gave the command again to Noah and His Family.

Gen_9:1, And God blessed Noah and his sons, and said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth.
Gen_9:7, And you, be ye fruitful, and multiply; bring forth abundantly in the earth, and multiply therein.



God wants His Word to fill the earth.

"For the earth shall be filled with the knowledge of the glory of the LORD, as the waters cover the sea. "
Hab_2:14


--- "Thy will be done on earth, O' Lord, as it is in heaven!!!"---

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Mon 06/24/13 01:50 PM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Mon 06/24/13 02:01 PM
If a man is a True believer, He will get married rather than go from woman to woman just to meet his sexual desires. "Christian" Men get married, if they are not in control. Marriage between a man and woman, was set up by God, so that man could have his sexual needs met.

Toodygirl5's photo
Mon 06/24/13 01:57 PM

Man's spirit needs to be disciplined.
Without wisdom from God, mankind's behavior becomes beastlike.
Many become predators with untamed desires.


"Man that is in honour, and understandeth not,
is like the beasts that perish."





AMEN :thumbsup:

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Mon 06/24/13 02:57 PM
CeriseRose & Msharmony
Ladies you have no idea how healthy & pleasent is your argument. You're unpacking & revealing the depth of this subject. A lot of interesting passages from the bible are coming forth as reading your replies.

Msharmony I kinder understand where you're coming from when refering to Jesus, apostle Paul & many others from the bible who were very fruitful yet they never partaked in sexual activities. This makes me think (could be wrong though) that God was being broad when instructing man to be fruitful & multiple. He could have meant both spiritually & physically.

Though Adam pursued more of the physical part since men had to increase, while Jesus had to show us how to be fruitful & multiple in spiritual matters. Jesus came to bring balance (while restoring what was lost in Eden) in both our physical & spiritual needs.

CeriseRose you dear on the other hand are making perfect sense to me when emphasizing your point of men multiplying in number. For God's glory to full the earth & He's word to be preached all over the earth, that is dependent on human multiplying, cause Juses came to save men not animals & plants. (or rather I haven't came across a verse that clearifies what will happen on animals & plants when the earth & all creation is put to an end)

Both of you ladies are welcome to clearify if I misunderstood your points.

Much appreciation to everyone who posted their personal reply, had something to take from everyones' answer.

Stay blessed!!

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Mon 06/24/13 05:35 PM

CeriseRose & Msharmony
Ladies you have no idea how healthy & pleasent is your argument. You're unpacking & revealing the depth of this subject. A lot of interesting passages from the bible are coming forth as reading your replies.

Msharmony I kinder understand where you're coming from when refering to Jesus, apostle Paul & many others from the bible who were very fruitful yet they never partaked in sexual activities. This makes me think (could be wrong though) that God was being broad when instructing man to be fruitful & multiple. He could have meant both spiritually & physically.

Though Adam pursued more of the physical part since men had to increase, while Jesus had to show us how to be fruitful & multiple in spiritual matters. Jesus came to bring balance (while restoring what was lost in Eden) in both our physical & spiritual needs.

CeriseRose you dear on the other hand are making perfect sense to me when emphasizing your point of men multiplying in number. For God's glory to full the earth & He's word to be preached all over the earth, that is dependent on human multiplying, cause Juses came to save men not animals & plants. (or rather I haven't came across a verse that clearifies what will happen on animals & plants when the earth & all creation is put to an end)

Both of you ladies are welcome to clearify if I misunderstood your points.

Much appreciation to everyone who posted their personal reply, had something to take from everyones' answer.

Stay blessed!!


You're blessed also, sisygirl!


uche9aa's photo
Fri 06/28/13 11:38 PM
it is better to marry than to burn in lust.pretence and hypocrisy could inform holier than thou comments but i think its better and inspiring to be factual and realistic.sex and procreation is 99.5 percent reason for marriage.even widows under 60 years of age must also marry to avoid polluting the church,talkless of single ladies.pls,if you are single,be realistic,avoid self delusion,go and marry and

Toodygirl5's photo
Mon 07/01/13 05:20 PM
Every single woman is not hungry for sex, maybe a man would be. Marriage should be first for Love then compatability. If that is in place, then I feel that sex will work out well. Some Older people are sexual active also. So people over 60 are not out of the race yet.

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Tue 07/09/13 05:16 AM
To be perfectly honest . If a person or person marrys to fullfil there passions . Than more than likely it is lust and the marriage will be birth out of lust and not love . and in the mist of the passion a truer deeper since of value & self worth will be lost .