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I disagree with all of you ! If your parents charge you rent move out! even if they don't move out! If you can't afford it I got that work for cheap ! holla back!
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I disagree with all of you ! If your parents charge you rent move out! even if they don't move out! If you can't afford it I got that work for cheap ! holla back!
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Gotta agree here,
Even from a young age children need to be responsible. it's no good bringing up a house full of children who think that they deserve everything. Yep they deserve to be loved and looked after, but not babied for ever. helping is very different to looking after a grown child who can't be bothered getting off their own bums and helping themselves. |
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I do not think i could, for the simple reason is that i would have my children with me, it would not bother me. I would love to spend every moment with them, you can not put a price on that to cherish a part of you...
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the reality of the situation is a factor- if my son wanted to liv ewith me he would have to make a financial contribution just because the reality is that I make just about enough to support myself
if he wanted to live with me, he'd have to help - no other way it would be possible on my income of course his father makes six figures and owes me a small fortune... :) ( and oh yes cry me a river about how men have it soooooo hard after divorce. you want hard? try on my plastic bottle flip flops) but as it stands I can't have him live here unless he's working & contributing |
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Each situation is different when it comes to whether or not to charge a child rent, so there could be many different answers to that question. What is important is whether the parent teaches their child/children on how to be responsible for their life when it comes to living on their own. This includes not only how to pay bills, but how to clean, cook, and general overall things needed to live. If you don't teach your child/children those items than how do they learn when finally on their own? Teach them while young, and relax more as a parent when you go to visit and don't see a mess, or hear the phone ringing with bill collectors calling. |
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Is it wrong to charge your adult children rent if theyr still living at home and not makin much? You have to make sure you leave them enough to live on. |
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we dont charge rent in Africa kids move out wn dy cn afford it
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we dont charge rent in Africa kids move out wn dy cn afford it I imagine there is a more respectful relationship between kids and adults in AFrica than in America,, and more of other types of 'contributions' the children make in the household... |
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Once they turned 18 I charged them 50.00 a Month and when they finally moved I gave them all the Money they had paid. Nice go away gift.....lol
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Once they turned 18 I charged them 50.00 a Month and when they finally moved I gave them all the Money they had paid. Nice go away gift.....lol that's a good idea too, a big part of parenting is preparing kids for life, and at a certain age it is not unreasonable for preparing them to set aside expenses from their budget for things like rent, instead of just using it all as pocket money if you can afford to save it for them, instead of putting it TOWARD the household,, that is a great going away gift too... |
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Is it wrong to charge your adult children rent if theyr still living at home and not makin much? no its a way to teach them responsiblity and saving |
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Yes! 
You don't kick someone who's down on their luck. That only creates a vengeful rage within that person that will grow and you will not like how that story ends if you go down that road. Help that person rather than kicking them or screwing them. Try to help them stand on their own and then when they can, then you may kick them out your door. If you've been trying to help them stand on their own for 1-2 years and they still can't stand or if they're just complete a-holes than throw them into a dumpster and let them figure it out. 
great post....well not the dumpster ...lol but I think your post shows a lot of insight. I agree with Harmony's idea too that it is OK for teaching an adult child what it is like to have bills and responsibilities, especially if the parent is single and doesn't make a lot of money herself but it shouldn't be a punitive amount - or required under duress or when a child is having a rough time. it should be waived or forgiven for a period of time then Hey, plenty of people have become successful by living in the trash. Like Oscar the Grouch.  haha
yes but something tells me he is well paid to do so.... honestly the dumpster is just not my thing Dumpsters can be fun. You never know what you'll find in them. You might even find friends in one. 
well the ones around here usually have broken furniture and the kitchen garbage. they smell bad so I don;t stick around. I'm not optomistic about the dumpster route, but thanks :) ....silly kid 
That's no problem. Just take a can of Febreeze and a roll of duct tape with you. The smell will be gone and the furniture fixed.
such a talent for the ability to see the silver lining in the cloud from one so young. 
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we dont charge rent in Africa kids move out wn dy cn afford it I imagine there is a more respectful relationship between kids and adults in AFrica than in America,, and more of other types of 'contributions' the children make in the household... I agree one of my exboyfreinds is Kenyan and I saw this first hand |
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in india nothing to be charge from kids as rent even parents gift them there house but kids exploit their parents..here no rent from kids
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At the moment I have all 3 of my adult children living with me. I Dont charge them a specific rate , but they all contribute to the household by helping with food, bills, laundry, cleaning etc. . . We all work together.
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Edited by
PacificStar48
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Mon 08/19/13 04:50 PM
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I have never allowed my adult children, or extended family, or "friends" to live with me rent free or without a contract of house rules.
I have always seen it as a matter of dignity to have the expectation to pay rent. Granted it might be a minimal amount if their earnings ability is limited but when you can make $10 an hour pulling weeds and doing simple chores I see no need to not pay something towards your own housing. My feeling is when people with profound disabilities, little education, and can't even speak the language will seek and find employment this crybaby mentality that some adults have that it is just not possible to find any work is an excuse. I get the selection process for truly desireable jobs can be really harsh; and that education is expensive, but if you have any job and keep showing up with a good attitude someone will notice and give you training for a better job. When my children were young, preteen I started teaching them work ethic and job skills so by the time they were adults there was no reason they could not get an entry level job. The idea that my kids deserve anything beyond a fair shot at a high school diploma is foreign in our home. My children knew that they had to earn the grades and money for their own higher education and all have done so. Some in trades, other in businesses, and a few in college. Several started in trades and entry level positions in larger companies and have "moved up from within". Yes I have been known to babysit in a pinch, gift books, electronics, and tools to help adult children for holidays but they all take great pride in do it for themselves. They would find it shameful for me to provide "free" rent. Or meals. I don't think there has been a time they put their feet under the table that they didn't put something on the table once they held jobs . It just wasn't how I raised them. Or I was raised. As would I even as an aged parent. I think parents have to walk the walk if they expect their kids to. When my kids were coming up don't kid yourself they saw me sacrifice to better myself. Wearing thrift clothes, carrying my lunch, riding the bus, and long hours in a library to afford classes. I didn't run to Grandparents to have them do my job as an adult parent. |
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Whereas the situation is completely different in India,the parent has to help their kids financially until the kid gets his own job. Parents will also take care of kid's higher education expenses irrespective of their age..
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Why not? When me and my son stayed with my mum, I had a good job, made good money, so I contributed to our keep. Well we were eating her food, using her electricity, phone and sleeping under her roof. So it was only fair? Then I got the deposit together and got a mortgage. If you can afford to pay, you should help out!
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No it's not wrong... I charge my 22yo son $50 a week rent and he also chips in for the water, gas and electricity bills when they come in... It has taught him the value of money and he has also started to save his own money instead of wasting it like he did before he learn't the real value of money. He was always under the impression that life was easy and he could just cruise through life and now he has grown so much and now respects himself and other people. It will mature him and make him think more about life in general and that it's not always all about him and that there is actually a real world out there. |
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