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Topic: Love someone ?
Journeyman236's photo
Sat 06/15/13 07:17 AM
Guys over 20 who are still virgins? And how do you know this, because they told you? I'm not saying they're lying to you, but it is possible & highly likely. Don't be naive & enjoyed your youth but don't allow yourself to be used or lied to!

(Redneck Wisdom)

msharmony's photo
Sat 06/15/13 07:21 AM
LOL @ Cynderella,, that was funny...


ok, so , yeah,, what Cynder said

if you are only 18, IM not sure what 'everything' you could be doing for someone for 4 years,,,(14 years old?)

seems to me its most likely these guys just didnt want to be tied down at such a young age and cared enough about you to attempt to let you down easy by admitting how 'good' they thought you were,,,,



msharmony's photo
Sat 06/15/13 07:23 AM
btw, you dodged a bullet

no worse feeling than being stuck with someone not on the same emotional level as you are,,,


dont rush it,, when its right, the right person will cross paths with you

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Sat 06/15/13 07:38 AM

How do u guys love ur gf/bf? I don't quite get it cause whenever I love someone n we start going out then end the relationship by saying they afraid to lose me someday cause am too good? I mean iam not really sure if an doing anything wrong to make them feel that way.. I had had 2 guys in my life and they both dumped me n said that (well I didn't have them at the same time tho hehe) .. Anyways how do u guys show it? N do u think I show it in a wrong way? I mean I keep telling them I loved them n stuff like that .. I cared a lot bout them n always remembered stuff.. Don't get wha iam doing wrong :( .. Iam trying to find new love but I don't wanna make the one I would love feel like he would lose me or something ..:(


Yeah, I remember when I was age 18 and my hormones tricked me into thinking that I was in love.

Lousy hormones. grumble

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Sat 06/15/13 07:43 AM

Guys over 20 who are still virgins? And how do you know this, because they told you? I'm not saying they're lying to you, but it is possible & highly likely. Don't be naive & enjoyed your youth but don't allow yourself to be used or lied to!

(Redneck Wisdom)


Wow, what an ethnocentric comment.

Mingle2 is an international website, and not every unmarried young man in the world loses his virginity while he is still single.

1Cynderella's photo
Sat 06/15/13 08:09 AM
Edited by 1Cynderella on Sat 06/15/13 08:10 AM


Guys over 20 who are still buttons? And how do you know this, because they told you? I'm not saying they're lying to you, but it is possible & highly likely. Don't be naive & enjoyed your youth but don't allow yourself to be used or lied to!

(Redneck Wisdom)


Wow, what an ethnocentric comment.

Mingle2 is an international website, and not every unmarried young man in the world loses his virginity while he is still single.


Of course you're absolutely right Dodoflowerforyou

I wasn't considering the coutry our OP was from and what her customs may be when making my comment either. Age appropriate is quite a flexible thing around the globe.

No offense meant to the OP or her parents. In the US our girls are not raised to be relationship savy by 14...though they often think they are from what they gather on the street. And by street, I mean internet. spock

no photo
Sat 06/15/13 08:18 AM
sorry but I gotta say it

pedo is pedo

no exceptions

ridewytepony's photo
Sat 06/15/13 09:10 AM
Edited by ridewytepony on Sat 06/15/13 09:26 AM

If you're 18 and have had a four year relationship with a man in his 20's, then you were 14 when this relationship began?

I always got an A in math. :tongue:

If this is true...I'm too upset with your parents to lecture you on your naivete.

If this is not true...I'm too upset with your math teacher to lecture you for story telling.



:laughing: ..lol..and speaking of class, our class prankster everyone! How are youwaving

I see all these people have a hard time answering your question

and are resorting to comedy to cover up their shortcoming

they're very very smart ,but because of your tender age they are really

Having a hard time relating to this problem.

Now had you been 30 years old they would reach deep in their heart,feelings would flood on the page.

I got an A in psychology they would write it everywhere! A-hole, so your in luck! Bigtime! I just so happen

to specialize on 18 year old "woman" what I have done with my past students is messed with their fragile

minds so bad that when they go back to their 20 year old men they simple forget about

tedious problems of life's growing pains.

Seriously now! the best way for an elder to address an 18 year olds prodlem the to meditate and

take a mental trip back in time. So I was going to say that most young men are very possessive & jealous

the first time I thought about your post & now I see you have updated the thread & confirmed what I saw

On my time travel.
So its simple, you talk a lot about friends & tell stories of other men & their mainly happy with just you
but they can see you breaking out of your shell and out growing their immature antics.
This is dependency on their part, you were in a co-dependent relationship, which on paper would look
like an arch.
You were becomming independent of there needs puting them into a fight or flight posision.
Now on paper this would like a lower case letter n, one partner leaning on another, which is very unhealthy.
These guys did recognize their insecurities, and had enough respect for you and themselves to jump
while the jumping was still good.
Ideally you need to be in a relationship that is independent of each other, now on paper its going to look
like the number ll, two people standing freely of each other.
In future watch that your not an initiater or an enabler inviting dependence.

Ps the first psychology lesson is for free as are the jokes,
Do you have any Daddy issues? I could help you:wink:












ridewytepony's photo
Sat 06/15/13 09:19 AM



Guys over 20 who are still buttons? And how do you know this, because they told you? I'm not saying they're lying to you, but it is possible & highly likely. Don't be naive & enjoyed your youth but don't allow yourself to be used or lied to!

(Redneck Wisdom)


Wow, what an ethnocentric comment.

Mingle2 is an international website, and not every unmarried young man in the world loses his virginity while he is still single.


Of course you're absolutely right Dodoflowerforyou

I wasn't considering the coutry our OP was from and what her customs may be when making my comment either. Age appropriate is quite a flexible thing around the globe.

No offense meant to the OP or her parents. In the US our girls are not raised to be relationship savy by 14...though they often think they are from what they gather on the street. And by street, I mean internet. spock


Right good points you two, but 2+2 still computes in all languages:wink:

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Sat 06/15/13 09:34 AM
ok guys ...i got a A in math as well on math C n hope i will get A on mathB as well ..got exam soon (nervouss :I)..... anyways u should had got an F tho :P i mean i said i was in a relationship with someone for four years n a relationship with someone for a half year.. so i started going out with someone when i was 13 .. after being friend for 3 years ..and it wasnt really a serious relationship at first i mean we just had fun? n he was 15 anywas so no pedo... we grew up n it got more serious...umm n well i know he is a virgin because we talked like 24/7 even if he lied i would had noted......

n yea the guys i had been dating...well one of them is a jehova witness n the other one was a muslim...i wouldnt had minded switching for them anyways since am atheist ...:)
..and i know too that it wasnt fake love or anything..i mean we still talk as friend.. n they are having a hard time getting over me. .. love is weird...i mean why can ppl love someone n when they still love that one they kinda break up? i just dont get it

no photo
Sat 06/15/13 10:08 AM
n yea i guess u are right. i dated someone after getting dumped by the one i had loved for 4 years just to get over him fast ... n it ended with a 3 years relationship..i bet he could see i wasnt 100% in love with him..yea i did love him a lot...but i had never really quite got over the other one.. but i loved him most so dont get why he broke up .. its weird ..... but i think i got over them both now anyways... so any tipz for new love? i mean when i love someone i like really love him,..but i dont quite get how to show it so the one m gonna end up loving wouldnt think i love another or might be afraid i would break up.....orr something?.....

iam messed up myself i guess they arent the only ones ..

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