I have learned through trial and error, post divorce, that a relationship beyond aquaintances or friendship cannot go forward with someone who does not believe what I believe. The Bible mentions how we should not be unequally yoked in relationships and that is so TRUE. I desire a mate who won't trip when its time to pay tithes, who will pray for and with me; and still know how to hold it down in the streets and take of his home (legally)..and of course the physical attraction needs to be there. But there is something about a Man Of God...now that's sexy

there is much to be said about compatibility

I think the priorities need to be compatible, and if faith is a priority in our life, than it is certainly important to match with someone else who has that priority

however, if something is not a priority, such as taste in movies, or food, or politics,, it may not be such a deal breaker for people to not believe the same way,,,,,

Yes priorities make a big difference and the person who may not believe what I believe to be willing to just start going to church service. One step at a time is workable for me too

First,


to Mingle2.

Second, two Christians can have different beliefs about a topic because they don't interpret the Bible the same way. If a Christian man disagrees with you about a certain topic, then the polite thing to do would be to ask him for the biblical basis for what he believes, because he might actually have a biblical basis for what he believes.

When confronted with another Christian who doesn't believe exactly like you do, it isn't wise to automatically assume that the other Christian is wrong. It is possible for you to have been exposed to a flawed teaching and for another Christian not to have been exposed to that flawed teaching.

Sometimes we members of Christian laity are unknowingly exposed to a flawed teaching coming from a preacher. Sadly, a person doesn't necessarily have to be a great theologian in order to become a preacher.


My late wife and I didn't 100% agree on what the Bible taught, but she and I still had a good marriage.

To Dodo_David

I hear what you're saying and maybe I didn't make myself clear: I don't expect someone to believe exactly the same way I belive who is a Christian: we all have our own interpretations depending on our Biblical teachings, experiences, etc. I was talking about being someone who does not believe in the basics of Christianity like I do like the Holy Trinity, or even that there is one true God period (creator of everything).

Read your post. My name is shortie and yes i believe as you believe. And walking testamony of such. Because of our choices and not waiting on God to place before us whom he chooses...well we end up with an unevenly yoked relationship.
My profile reads...if you dont seek God dont seek me...amen Us women to pray for each other and know that God will bring himself to us through whom he chooses; and may all women everywhere wake up the truth that they dont have to take physical or mental abuse. amen Lord be with your daughters in these times and this hour. May your will be done.

Then I have a question for you. Would you insist that a Christian man conform to one small part of Mosaic Law but not the rest of it?

I ask because, in your opening post, you mention something that comes from Mosaic Law.

Oh I believe the person your going to spend the rest of your life with, should be a person of the same faith. Its really hard dating a non christain, or even having non christian wanting to date you. I have quite a mind of my own, and although God does say the man has the last say. I believe it does not mean, we can have our own say and own ideas and thoughts. I would not like someone who thinks exactly the same way I do. Most of my christian friends who are married have some fantastic arguements, but then always say sorry and these marriages have been for over 20yrs. I guess the man who takes me on better get ready for a fiesty scots woman lol.

I met a few men inperson, who said they were Christians, however, we did not have the same belief in how to live our lives. So, they were not right for me. Unequally Yoked can mean a lot of things. Couples are not always a match just because both say they are Christians.

Amen..i understand where you're coming from

Whst u mentioned, I have experienced that too. Some say they are Christian but not living the lifestyle of one

In Mark 10:18, Jesus says, "“No one is good—except God alone."(NIV)

In Romans 7, the Apostle Paul talks about his own failure to always act like a follower of Messiah Jesus.

The book of 1 John is written for a Christian audience, and 1 John 1:8 says, "If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us."(NIV)

In short, every Christian somehow fails to live a Christian lifestyle. Thus, when discussing how other Christians behave, we have to exercise caution so as not to appear to be acting like modern-day Pharisees.

For example, there are Christians who insist that all consumption of alcohol is sinful. So, in the opinion of such Christians, a Christian who drinks an alcoholic beverage with a meal is "not living the lifestyle" of a Christian.

However, in his book The Holy Spirit Dr. Billy Graham writes, "Teetotalism or non-teetotalism cannot be proven from Scriptures."* Indeed, in Deuteronomy 14:26, God specifically approves of people drinking an alcoholic beverage with a meal. Thus, the aforementioned Christians opposed to alcohol are reading into the Bible a ban on alcohol that isn't there.

That is why the expression "not living a Christian lifestyle" can be problematic. There are different opinions among Christians as to what should or should not be a part of a Christian lifestyle.

Many So called "Christian men" are dating and having Sex. The Bible teaches against fornicators. God calls Christian men to a higer standard. Men need to Seek a wife and get married, if they can not Control theirself in that area. Sexual intercourse is not like having a drink of Alcohol at a meal.

There is a difference between exercising caution while doing something and not doing it. I advise an exercise of caution, and one way to exercise caution is to use Scriptures to explain what you believe is correct or incorrect for a Christian lifestyle.

Yes, the Apostle Paul taught that believers in Messiah Jesus are to refrain from sexual immorality, and there is nothing wrong with pointing out verses in the New Testament that speak against sexual immorality.

At the same time, there is something wrong with saying that Christians must conform to a part of Mosaic Law when, in Acts 15, the Apostles decreed that Gentiles are not required to conform to Mosaic Law.

If you are going to claim that something in Mosaic Law is required of Christians, then you need to explain how your claim doesn't contradict the Apostles.

I was not refering to Mosaic Law. I was just saying, that "fornicating" is not fitting to "Christian" man lifestyle.

The OP was refering to Mosaic Law not me.

I have been addressing what is said in the OP.
Plus, I acknowledged that the Apostle Paul spoke against what the KJV calls "fornication".